Table of Contents
Acknowledgments xi
Foreword Annie Sprinkle, PhD xv
Introduction to the New Edition: So You Say You Want a Revolution xviii
Prelude: The Temple of the Sacred Lap Dance, or Ecstasy Is Where You Find It xxiii
Part 1 Tantra: The Basics 1
1 What Is Tantra, Anyway? 3
What Tantra is and What It Isn't
Quick-Start Guide
2 Why Ecstasy Is Necessary 10
Pleasure vs. Ecstasy
Adrenaline is not Ecstasy
Xxxtasy is not Ecstasy
So How Do We Find Real Ecstasy?
3 Be Here Now 15
Breathe
Change Your Mind
Do Some Affirmations
Focus and Imagine
Make No Judgments, Make No Comparisons, and Delete Your Need to Understand
Drop Your Expectations
Giving and Receiving
4 Know Thy Chakras, Know Thyself 28
The Seven Chakras
Sex and the Chakras
5 Wake Up Your Body, Calm Your Mind, and Free Your Spirit 39
The Basics of Breath
Four Conscious Breaths
Meditation
The Power of Silliness
Witnessing
The Exhilaration and Cathartic Meditations
6 How to Touch 52
The Resilient Edge of Resistance
The Resilient Edge of Resistance Applies to More than Touch
7 Twenty-Minute Tantra 56
Conscious Quickies
Part 2 Solo Tantra: Unleashing Your Orgasmic Energy 59
8 Sexual Energy: What It Is and What to Do with It 61
Kundalini, Chi, and the Inner Flute
"Seeing" Sexual Energy
Dropping into the Body
Let's Dance
9 Orgasm: The Totality of Possibilities 74
What is Orgasm?
But Wait, There's More!
Orgasm Tips for Estrogen-Based Bodies
Orgasm Tips for Testosterone-Based Bodies
Orgasmic Sounds
The Universal Hum
10 Breath and Energy Orgasms 87
What's so Special about Breath and Energy Orgasms?
The Breath Energygasm
The Clench and Hold
11 Tantra for One 98
Eye Gazing
The Microcosmic Orbit
Vibrate Those Chakras
Discover What Truly Turns You On
Try New Sensations
Take Yourself on a Tantric Date
Evolutionary Selfloving
Part 3 Partner Tantra: A Tantric Ritual 109
12 Set The Stage 113
The Stage
Scenery
Lighting
Sound
Costumes
Props
Special Effects
Safe Sex, Safer Sex, And Risk-Aware Sex
13 Chill Out and Warm Up 125
Chill Out
Warm Up
14 Come Together 129
The Pose of Recognition with Hand Balancing
The Pose of Giving and Receiving
The Garden of Sensual Delights
15 Rock And Roll 139
The Heart Connection
Back to Back
Spread the Energy Around
Yab Yum/Sitting Position
Sitting Open-Eyed Clench and Holds
Tantric Fucking
16 Afterglow 147
Toes to Third Eye
Heart-Foot-Hand
Grounding Hug
17 The Erotic Awakening Massage: An Introduction 150
The Erotic Awakening Massage Has Unlimited Possibilities
Sensual Massage
Conscious Receiving and Conscious Giving
How to Breathe
Whole-Hand Touching
Gender and the Erotic Awakening Massage
Orgasm and the Erotic Awakening Massage
18 The Erotic Awakening Massage for People with Pussies 161
Setting Up
Connecting
Starting with a Sensual Massage
The Vulva
The Clitoris
Spreading the Energy Around
Intravaginal Massage
Stop!
Rock and Roll
The Clench and Hold
Now What?
19 The Erotic Awakening Massage for People with Penises 175
Starting with a Sensual Massage
The Cock Strokes
The Clench and Hold
Afterglow
20 The Erotic Awakening Massage for Trans and Gender-Nonconforming People 187
Learn Your Gender-Free Anatomy
Setting Up
Begin with a Conversation
Different Strokes for Different Folks
A Journey without a Map
Part 4 Tantra for the Adventurous 197
31 Tantric BDSM 199
The Needle Mudra
What BDSM is and What It Isn't
Using BDSM to Enhance Tantra
Using Tantra to Enhance BDSM
23 How to Create the Tantric Ritual That's Perfect for You 214
The Erotic Playsheet
One of those Days
Different Lives
P.S., Your Cat Is Dead
23 Group Tantra 228
How to Throw a Great Ritual/Sex Party
Club Relate
Happy Birthday
An Erotic Rite
A Weekend in the Country
The Dark Heart
How to Try Group
Sex Without Fracturing Your Relationship
Part 5 Tantra: The Next Dimension 243
24 Sex Magic 245
Sex and Healing
Using Sex Magic to Relax and Relieve Stress
Using Sex Magic to Relieve Colds and Sinus Pain
Using Sex Magic to Relieve Pain and Fear
Using Sex Magic to Facilitate Childbirth
Using Sex Magic to Alleviate Back Pain
Using Sex Magic to Ease Gender Dysphoria
Using Sex Magic to Heal Sexual Wounds
Sex Magic and Compulsive Sex
Sex Magic for World Peace, Part 1
Sex Magic for World Peace, Part 2
Sex and Death
References 260
Resources 264
Index 280
About the Author 286