Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children: Six Steps to Hope and Healing for Struggling Parents

by Allison Bottke, Carol Kent

Overview

Finally…Hope for Parents in Pain

What parent doesn’t want their children to grow up to be happy, responsible adults? Yet despite parents’ best efforts, most heartfelt prayers, and most loving environments, some kids never successfully make the transition to independently functioning adulthood.

Following her own journey, Allison Bottke developed a tough-love approach to parenting adult children that helps both you and your child by focusing on setting you free from the repeated pain of your adult child’s broken promises, lies, and deception.

Setting Boundaries® with Your Adult Children offers practical hope and healing through S.A.N.I.T.Y.—a six–step program to help parents regain control in their homes and their lives.

• S = STOP Enabling, STOP Blaming Yourself, and STOP the Flow of Money
• A = Assemble a Support Group
• N = Nip Excuses in the Bud
• I = Implement Rules/Boundaries
• T = Trust Your Instincts
• Y = Yield Everything to God

As you love your child with arms and heart wide open, know that no matter what happens you are never alone. God is in control and will be with you.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780736976671
Publisher:	Harvest House Publishers
Publication date:	12/03/2019
Pages:	224
Sales rank:	112,114
Product dimensions:	5.70(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.60(d)

About the Author

Allison Bottke is the award-winning author of the acclaimed Setting Boundaries® series, which includes Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children, Setting Boundaries with Your Aging Parents, Setting Boundaries with Difficult People, Setting Boundaries with Food, Setting Boundaries for Women, and The Young Women’s Guide to Setting Boundaries. She is the founder of the SANITY Support Group, an outreach based on the Setting Boundaries® series (more than 150,000 sold). Her other books include the God Answers Prayers series, and she is the founder and general editor of more than a dozen volumes in the popular God Allows U-Turns® anthology. She has written or edited more than 30 nonfiction and fiction books, and is a frequent guest on national radio and TV programs. Allison lives in the Dallas/Fort Worth area.

Awards

Winner of the Selah Award for Best Book of the Year for Setting Boundaries with Food in 2013

Table of Contents

Foreword   Carol Kent     9
Why I Had to Write This Book     13
The Parent as Enabler
"But I'm Only Trying to Help"     27
Why We Enable, and Why We Must Stop     41
Get Smart and Take Action!     61
"But Deep Down He's Really a Good Kid"     71
The Power of Love and Forgiveness     85
The Six Steps to SANITY
"S"-STOP Your Own Negative Behavior     101
"A"-ASSEMBLE a Support Group     111
"N"-NIP Excuses in the Bud     117
"I"-IMPLEMENT Rules and Boundaries     127
"T"-TRUST Your Instincts     137
"Y"-YIELD Everything to God     143
Developing an Action Plan     153
Considering the Consequences     171
Other Vital Issues     185
When Drugs and/or Alcohol Are Involved
When Your Child Is Disabled
When Your Adult Child Is a College Student
When Little Children Are Involved
When Blended Families Come Together
Epilogue     199
Resources     209
Notes     213

Editorial Reviews

"Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children is packed full of practical, useable, workable ideas and is a welcome tool for parents of grown children, and parents in pain." ---Pam Farrel, author of Men Are Like Waffles

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