Table of Contents
Introduction 1
Thoughts and Reality 3
The Power of Your Unique Identity 5
Two Promises 7
Part 1 Understand
1 Your Unique Design 13
The Pressure to Conform 16
The Reality of Your Unique Design 20
David's Design 24
The Consequences of Conformity 27
The Harm Principle 31
2 Unique Discontent 35
Irritation and Agitation 37
"I Would Never Rest" 42
"I Sat Down and Wept" 46
3 Unique Dreams 57
Three Characteristics of Our Dreams 59
Myron's Story 62
Living Out Our Dreams 67
Give Yourself Permission to Go 75
4 Your Unique Destiny 79
Your Difference is the Best Difference 82
Permission to Be Patient 86
Living Your Sweet Spot 90
Put it All Together 98
Part 2 Embrace
5 Embrace Who You Are 103
Embracing Your Uniqueness 106
From Jacob to Israel 109
Identify Yourself 114
Time for a Hug 119
6 Evaluate How You Got Here 121
How Did You Get Here? 123
Emotional Obstacles 125
Relational Obstacles 132
Cultural Obstacles 134
Spiritual Obstacles 137
Hurts, Holes, and Hazards 138
7 Determine to Move Forward 141
Fight for Healing 143
Forgive Generously 144
Find Yourself in Scripture and in History 150
Forge Your Tribe 158
Part 3 Unleash
8 Take Your Shot 163
It Takes Calling 166
It Takes Courage 171
It Takes Competency 175
It Takes Calculation 178
9 Boost Your Impact 183
Confidence 185
Context 189
Counsel 192
How to Build Your Boosters 195
10 Go Get It 205
Define Who You Are 206
Determine Your "Why" 209
Decide What to Do 212
Acknowledgments 215
Notes 217