Table of Contents
Introduction; You Need to Be More Resilient xv
Secret #1 Add a Dot-Dot-Dot 1
1 A 500-year-old invention we can use today 9
2 What happens when you see past the period? 13
3 "I don't waltz … yet." 17
4 Keep your options infinite 21
5 The single word that makes it happen 23
Secret #2 Shift the Spotlight 29
1 Who fails hardest and what can we do about it? 41
2 You think you don't fit but you do 43
3 Don't magnify. Don't biggify. Don't amplify. 47
4 The spotlight effect 51
5 How do you shift the spotlight? 57
Secret #3 See It as a Step 63
1 The end of history illusion 71
2 Go back to the beginning 79
3 Have you had enough one-night stands? 83
4 "What's a blog?" 87
5 Soak if up 89
Secret #4 Tell Yourself a Different Story 95
1 The swamplands of the soul 105
2 Who's really to blame in the shame game? 107
3 What story are you telling yourself? 111
4 Tilt the lens 115
5 Three big questions to help achieve this secret 119
Secret #5 Lose More to Win More 127
1 "Do it for free for ten years." 133
2 Lead the failure parade 135
3 What do wedding photographers, the T-1000, and Nolan Ryan have in common? 141
4 The life-changing magic of hypertrophy 145
5 What every commencement speech gets wrong 147
6 Three simple ways to achieve this secret 151
Secret #6 Reveal to Heal 161
1 What's the world's fastest growing religion? 169
2 A million postcards show us what we need 173
3 The two-minute morning practice 181
Secret #7 Find Small Ponds 191
1 The life-changing story from the dean 195
2 What's wrong with the $5 million condo? 203
Secret #8 Go Untouchable 211
1 The two questions you must ask before you quit your job 217
2 The barrage is getting louder 221
3 How to disappear completely 223
4 The 3 excuses you'll get when attempting this secret 227
Secret #9 Never, Never Stop 233
1 There is magic in doing things simply 239
2 They're not wrong. You're not right. 243
3 Every connection is an opportunity 249
4 You can only go forward 253
Acknowledgments 257
Sources 259
