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You and Your Aging Parent: A Family Guide to Emotional, Social, Health, and Financial Problems
432
by Barbara Silverstone, Helen Kandel Hyman
Barbara Silverstone
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You and Your Aging Parent: A Family Guide to Emotional, Social, Health, and Financial Problems
432
by Barbara Silverstone, Helen Kandel Hyman
Barbara Silverstone
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First published in 1976, You and Your Aging Parent is a classicthe first book to shed light on the challenging relationship between adult children and their aging parents, illuminating the emotional, health, and financial difficulties that elderly parents and their children face during the senior years.
Marking the 30th anniversary of this highly popular book, the new and revised edition addresses the changes that have taken place in the last three decades, but it still embraces the authors' fundamental insightthat the difficulties and challenges of the aging process are as much a family affair as in any other phase of life. Both a sensitive exploration of the dynamics of the aging family relationship (between parent and child, and sibling and sibling) and an authoritative how-to guide for seniors and their families navigating the practical problems of growing old in America, You and Your Aging Parent has been thoroughly updated to reflect the latest research findings and changes affecting older adults, including in health care and social services. The book also includes a running commentary by Bob Morrisplaywright, author, and humoristwho provides insightful and entertaining observations about his trials and tribulations with his own parents as they aged, serving as a contemporary voice for the middle-aged caregiver of today.
As the first of the baby boom generation turns 60 and their increasingly frail parents approach late retirement and final decline, this new and updated edition of You and Your Aging Parent will answer their need for authoritative, practical information about this major phase of life.
Marking the 30th anniversary of this highly popular book, the new and revised edition addresses the changes that have taken place in the last three decades, but it still embraces the authors' fundamental insightthat the difficulties and challenges of the aging process are as much a family affair as in any other phase of life. Both a sensitive exploration of the dynamics of the aging family relationship (between parent and child, and sibling and sibling) and an authoritative how-to guide for seniors and their families navigating the practical problems of growing old in America, You and Your Aging Parent has been thoroughly updated to reflect the latest research findings and changes affecting older adults, including in health care and social services. The book also includes a running commentary by Bob Morrisplaywright, author, and humoristwho provides insightful and entertaining observations about his trials and tribulations with his own parents as they aged, serving as a contemporary voice for the middle-aged caregiver of today.
As the first of the baby boom generation turns 60 and their increasingly frail parents approach late retirement and final decline, this new and updated edition of You and Your Aging Parent will answer their need for authoritative, practical information about this major phase of life.
Product Details
ISBN-13: | 9780195313161 |
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Publisher: | Oxford University Press |
Publication date: | 02/27/2008 |
Edition description: | 4th ed. |
Pages: | 432 |
Product dimensions: | 6.29(w) x 9.17(h) x 1.13(d) |
About the Author
Barbara Silverstone, DSW, is past president of the Gerontological Society of America and a member of the American Society on Aging and the National Association of Social Workers. A former President and CEO of Lighthouse International, she was co-editor-in-chief of The Lighthouse Handbook on Vision Impairment and Vision Rehabilitation (OUP, 2000) and co-author (also with Helen Kandel Hyman) of Growing Old Together. She lives in New York City.
Helen Kandel Hyman was a free-lance writer whose career dates back to the Golden Age of radio, when she wrote dramatic scripts for CBS. She died in March 2006.
Bob Morris is a columnist for the Sunday New York Times and often writes about issues of aging in his column. He is also the author of the play Assisted Loving, about his now-deceased father.
Helen Kandel Hyman was a free-lance writer whose career dates back to the Golden Age of radio, when she wrote dramatic scripts for CBS. She died in March 2006.
Bob Morris is a columnist for the Sunday New York Times and often writes about issues of aging in his column. He is also the author of the play Assisted Loving, about his now-deceased father.
Table of Contents
Preface XIIIAcknowledgments XVII
Introduction 1
Taking Stock
Facing Up to Feelings 17
Feelings That Spark an Emotional Tug of War 19
Special Reactions to Aging 30
Special Reactions to Caregiving 33
What Untouchable, Unresolved Feelings Can Produce 37
Feelings That Can Persist and Those That Change in a New Context 42
Commentary Bob Morris 44
The Family Merry-Go-Round 47
Family Harmony or Family Discord 48
Who's in Charge? 53
A Permanent Split or a Closer Bond? 61
Money-The Root of Many Evils 62
What About Your Own Family? 64
The Games Older People Play 67
Can Old Patterns Be Reversed? 70
Commentary Bob Morris 71
What Have They Got to Gain and to Lose? 75
The Gains 76
The Losses 78
Declining Functioning and Physical Health 81
Reduced Social Contacts 87
Fewer Familiar Roles 90
Financial Insecurity 91
Increased Dependency 93
Escalating Mental Health Problems 94
The Gains Versus the Losses and Your Role 106
Commentary Bob Morris 107
Marriage, Widowhood, Remarriage, and Sex 111
Marital Adjustment in the Retirement Years 112
In Sickness and in Health-for Richer, for Poorer 115
Discord in the "Golden Years" 118
Widowhood 121
Remarriage 130
Sex After 65-Myth Versus Reality 133
Commentary Bob Morris 139
Facing the Final Crisis 141
The Conspiracy of Silence 143
Some People Need to Talk about Death 146
Care and Concern for the Dying 149
Telling the Truth to the Dying 151
Should Life Be Prolonged? 156
Advance Directives 157
When the Family Must Decide 159
Commentary Bob Morris 160
Taking Steps
Stepping Forward-Helping When They Can Manage and Preparing for When They Can't 165
"I'm Okay"-Those Who Can Manage and Know It 167
The Pseudo-Helpless-Those Who Can Manage but Think They Can't 169
When to Say No 171
Prepare for the Day When They Can't Manage 173
Prevention Measures to Facilitate Health and Safety 177
Facing the Dreaded "What If?" 180
Living Arrangements-What Are Their Choices? 181
What about Your Own Preparedness? 190
Preparing Does Not Mean Interfering 191
Commentary Bob Morris 192
Stepping Up to the Dollars and Sense 193
Social Security 195
Pensions 198
Supplemental Security Income 200
Non-Cash Supplements 201
Reverse Mortgages 203
Who Pays the Medical Bills? 204
Medicare 205
Private Health Insurance 211
Medicaid 214
What Can You Do? 216
Seek Legal Counseling-"Elder Law" 218
Pulling Your Plans Together 219
Commentary Bob Morris 221
Stepping In-When They Cannot Manage and You Can Help 223
When You Are Not the Responsible Relative 225
Putting All the Pieces Together: The Assessment and Plan 226
Who Puts All the Pieces Together? 234
The Levels of Care 236
Helping Those with Dementia 240
What Does the Community Have to Offer? 243
What if They Won't Be Helped-by You or Anyone Else? 253
"Managing Well" 257
Commentary Bob Morris 258
Stepping Back-When They Cannot Manage and Neither Can You 261
The Home Care Alternative When You Cannot Manage 263
The Geriatric Care Manager 264
The Nursing Home Alternative 266
Selecting a Nursing Home 270
Becoming a Nursing Home Resident 282
The Ongoing Roles of the Family 288
When There Is Trouble 291
Other Transitions Can Be Rocky, Too 295
Striving for a Reasonable Goal 297
Commentary Bob Morris 298
Keeping in Step-The Family Task Force 301
Getting Off the Merry-Go-Round 303
Planning a Family Conference 305
Identifying the Problem 309
Making Commitments 312
Agreeing on a Plan 314
Beware of Traps Along the Way 315
When There Is an Impasse 320
Looking to the Future 321
Commentary Bob Morris 323
Extra Steps
Taking Heed-An Rx Alert 327
A Silent Epidemic 328
Older Bodies Are Different 329
Psychotropic Drugs: A Special Case 330
Taking Heed with Over-the-Counter Drugs 333
Herbs, Supplements, and Vitamins-Easy Magic? 334
Keeping the Medications Straight-Who's in Charge Here? 336
Physicians Aren't Perfect 336
Pharmacists Step Up 341
"I Won't Take That Big Yellow Pill" 342
The Advertised Cure 344
The Informed Consumer 346
Commentary Bob Morris 347
Taking a Stand 349
The Glass: Half-Full and Half-Empty 350
Social Security-Where Is It Headed? 352
The Train Has Already Left the Station 353
Let's Hear It from the Families 354
Society's Unfinished Business 356
Join the Action 361
New Images for Older Adults 364
Commentary Bob Morris 367
Epilogue: Looking Back 369
Appendices
Helpful Resources 371
Suggested Readings 383
Penny's Personal Papers Inventory 385
Checklists for Evaluating Services 395
Index 401
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