Yell Less, Love More: How the Orange Rhino Mom Stopped Yelling at Her Kids - and How You Can Too!: A 30-Day Guide That Includes: - 100 Alternatives to Yelling - Simple, Daily Steps to Follow - Honest Stories to Inspire

by Sheila McCraith

Overview

In this guidebook to happier parenting, author Sheila McCraith shares daily thoughts, tips, and motivational personal stories to help you toss out the screams and welcome in the peace.

Do you often find yourself losing your cool and yelling at your kids (or grandkids or students)? It happens to us all, but it doesn’t have to. With Yell Less, Love More, you’ll learn practical, simple solutions to keep you focused on loving more and yelling less, no matter what the circumstance.

Take the Orange Rhino 30-day challenge to yell less, organized into 30 short, approachable, and easy-to-follow daily sections—which you can use and adjust in any way that works for you. Whether you have one child or twenty (or one you still yell at who is twenty), strengthen your relationships and maybe even laugh a little more—by taking the challenge today.

The Rhino: A naturally calm animal that charges when provoked.

The Orange Rhino: A person that parents with warmth and determination and who doesn’t charge with words when angry, impatient, or simply in a bad mood.

Yell Less, Love More includes:

• 100 alternatives to yelling
• Simple, daily steps to follow
• Honest stories to inspire
• Parenting revelations
• A summarizing chapter of key takeaways, including most frequent triggers and multiple solutions for each of them
• Trigger-tracking sheets

Unlike the preachy, unrealistic, dry, and/or tedious parenting books you’ve read before, Yell Less, Love More is like having a heart-to-heart talk with your best friend. With this warm, colorful, and easy-to-use guide, it is possible to stop yelling and start enjoying a calmer, happier life because of it.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781627881777
Publisher:	Fair Winds Press
Publication date:	10/01/2014
Sold by:	Barnes & Noble
Format:	eBook
Pages:	210
Sales rank:	551,665
File size:	11 MB
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About the Author

Sheila McCraith, also known as The Orange Rhino® (www.theorangerhino.com), is a mom to four boys, all under the age of 7. In January 2012, after her handyman caught her screaming at her boys, she made a promise that she would go 365 days straight without yelling at her kids. To chronicle her progress, keep herself accountable, and find support, Sheila launched her blog, The Orange Rhino Challenge®, shortly after her promise was made. She successfully met her goal in 2013 and continues to work everyday at yelling less and loving more.

Sheila has been featured in Parents magazine, where she was the 2013 winner of “Blog Most Likely to Help You Achieve a Goal” and her article “10 Things I Learned When I Stopped Yelling at My Kids” instantly became a viral hit on The Huffington Post. She has also been featured on Babycenter.com, Mothering.com, Everydayfamily.com, Allparenting.com, Families.com, and more.

Sheila McCraith, also known as The Orange Rhino® (www.theorangerhino.com), is a mom to four boys, all under the age of 7. In January 2012, after her handyman caught her screaming at her boys, she made a promise that she would go 365 days straight without yelling at her kids. To chronicle her progress, keep herself accountable, and find support, Sheila launched her blog, The Orange Rhino Challenge®, shortly after her promise was made. She successfully met her goal in 2013 and continues to work everyday at yelling less and loving more.Sheila has been featured in Parents magazine, where she was the 2013 winner of “Blog Most Likely to Help You Achieve a Goal” and her article “10 Things I Learned When I Stopped Yelling at My Kids” instantly became a viral hit on The Huffington Post. She has also been featured on Babycenter.com, Mothering.com, Everydayfamily.com, Allparenting.com, Families.com, and more.

Table of Contents

The Orange Rhino Story 8

1 Ease Into Change 14

Day 1 Admit the Need to Change: Embracing My "Uh-Oh-I-Need-to-Change" Moment

Day 2 Ask Others for Support: Help, It Does a Body Good

Day 3 Get Your Kids to Help: The Orange Rhino Game

Day 4 Practice Yelling Away from Kids: I Love Yelling into Toilets

Day 5 Surround Yourself with Reminders: Orange is the New Gray

2 Gain Awareness 41

Day 6 Start Tracking Triggers: Love at Second Sight

Day 7 Be Honest with Yourself: "Why, Mommy, Why, Why?"

Day 8 Note Physical Symptoms of a Growing Yell: Mommy Threw a Sippy Cup

Day 9 Label Your Triggers: "No, I Won't Clean My Room!"

3 Practice Trigger Management 63

Day 10 Fix the Fixable Triggers: Clutter Makes Me Want to Scream

Day 11 Manage the Manageable Trigger?: My S.P.D. Makes Me Y.E.L.L.

Day 12 Acknowledge the Unchangeable Triggers: The Twenty-Five-Hour Day

Day 13 Accept the Unchangeable Triggers: I Can't Change My Son

Day 14 Practice Forgiveness: I Dwell, Therefore I Yell

4 Prepare to Charge Forward 91

Day 15 Choose a Personal Goal: If I Can Just Make It to 9:05 a.m.…

Day 16 Create Positive Affirmations: The Vicious-I Mean Victorious-Cycle

Day 17 Take Care of Yourself: Sleep. Eat. Run, Clean … Poop?

5 Start to Yell Less, and Love More 109

Day 18 Becoming an Orange Rhino: My Out-of-Body-Experience

6 Get Calm When Things (The Kids?) Are Getting Crazy 117

Day 19 Let L.O.V.E. Rule: My Thirty-Six-Year-Old Security Blanket

Day 20 Find Perspective: "At Least"-My New Favorite Mantra

Day 21 Laugh When You Just Want to Scream: The Great Toothpick Debacle of 2013

Day 22 Tell Yourself Yelling Doesn't Work: … And I Dropped to My Knees and Cried

Day 23 Talk Out Loud: "Mommy Is Scared."

7 Find Warmth When All You Feel Is Anger 145

Day 24 Reminisce About What Happens When You Don't Yell: "Mommy, Will You Love Me in Heaven?"

Day 25 Remember, Kids Are People Too: If I Were a Kid…

Day 26 Seethe Good in Your Kid: Formally Known as the Tasmanian Devil

Day 27 Go Back to the Basics: Food Fight!

Day 28 Ask Yourself Who Started It: An Ode to "Perfect" Family Portraits

8 Stay Determined When You Just Want to Quit 171

Day 29 Know You Can Do It: How to Hold a Yell

Day 30 Remember What Matters: Tipping the Scale Toward Love

9 Beyond Day 30 184

Every Day Past 30: My Promise to My Boys

10 Summary of Key Points 189

Top 10 Orange Rhino Revelations about Yelling

Top 10 Benefits of Being an Orange Rhino

Top 10 Alternatives to Yelling

Most Frequent Orange Rhino Triggers and Solutions

Frequently Asked Question and Answers

Resources 198

Acknowledgments 206

About the Author 208

Editorial Reviews

"The Orange Rhino's (a.k.a. Sheila McCraith's) parenting guide and memoir, Yell Less, Love More: How The Orange Rhino Mom Stopped Yelling at Her Kids - and How You Can Too!, shares more touching personal stories from her journey to stop yelling as well as manageable actions, practical tips, and genuine, loving support so that you too can succeed on your own journey to yell less." - Huffington Post

"If you want to stop yelling at your kids, this is the book for you. There's a reason parents flock to read the Orange Rhino online - she helps us feel better about ourselves as parents when we blow it entirely - and who doesn't, sometimes? She inspires us to dig deep and try again. But as delightful as this book is to read, it isn't just a feel-good book. It's a full-blown program to stop yelling, complete with day-by-day action steps, revelations, and original, powerful tips. Yelling is a hard habit to break, and we have to work on ourselves as well as change how we interact with our children. As you follow this program, you'll be able to feel your brain rewiring. And in a few months, you'll look back and realize you can't remember the last time you yelled. Well-organized, motivational, funny, supportive, and EFFECTIVE!" - Dr. Laura Markham, www.ahaparenting.com

"With wisdom and humor, Sheila quickly becomes an encouraging friend and mentor who gently teaches you how to manage your frustrations while building your self-confidence. You'll have fun reading this ultimate self-help book and will find yourself turning to it for love, support, and guidance when you fear you may be losing ground." – Laura Deutsch, co-founder of Mommybites (mommybites.com)

From the Publisher

★ 11/15/2014
This reviewer doubts there's a parent among us who didn't wish she yelled less, but here's one who actually learned how. Blogger McCraith (The Orange Rhino Challenge, theorangerhino.com), horrified at being "caught" by her handyman screaming at her four young sons, embarked on a challenge to go 365 days without yelling. In this title that combines personal story and everyday parenting tips, the author shares how she reached her goal and offers readers a 30-day condensed version for doing the same. "Orange Rhinos" ("determined and energetic people who choose not to charge with words") have many options here, including easing into change, gaining awareness, and practicing trigger management. Each day contains tips for mood awareness and specific actions depending on if you're feeling cool, warm, or hot, such as screaming into the toilet and flushing away the rage and squeezing Play-Doh to a pulp in lieu of yelling. VERDICT Beautifully designed, with slick, heavy-duty paper and full-color photos and sidebars throughout. McCraith offers a practical, mom-to-mom approach to curbing the anger-guilt cycle that will likely resonate with readers more than the typical psychological examination of emotional regulation.

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