Women Who Were Sexually Abused as Children: Mothering, Resilience, and Protecting the Next Generation

by Teresa Gil

Overview

Stories of mothers who survived sexual abuse as children reveal the struggles, challenges, and triumphs of this special group of women.

Unraveling the veil of silence and capturing the experiences of mothers who were sexually abused as children, this book offers a first step in both supporting mothers and disrupting the cycle of intergenerational abuse that keeps these mothers isolated and alone in their mothering challenges and successes. Each story reveals the concerns, the needs, the difficulties, and the fears these mothers confront as they parent their children while struggling with their own past experiences. By examining the therapeutic needs and concerns of mothers who have survived child sexual abuse, Teresa Gil offers special insight into understanding and supporting these remarkable women.

At issue is understanding what helps women who were sexually abused as children to survive and to parent effectively. Written for adult mothers who were victims of childhood sexual abuse, as well as for helping professionals, this book reveals the touching details of the pain and triumphs of mothering as a survivor and examines the protective factors that support resiliency and assist survivor/mothers to overcome challenges and to provide safe environments for the next generation.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781538101780
Publisher:	Rowman & Littlefield Publishers, Inc.
Publication date:	08/24/2018
Sold by:	Barnes & Noble
Format:	eBook
Pages:	218
File size:	834 KB

About the Author

Teresa Gil, PhD, has been a psychotherapist, professor, and trainer for more than 25 years. She has a private practice working with women, children, and families dealing with recovery from child abuse and trauma. She is a full professor and teaches General Psychology, Abnormal Psychology, Child Psychology, and Psychology of Women. She has also taught courses in both Social Work and Sociology. Teresa works as a trainer and consultant in human service settings and has developed and facilitated dozens of workshops and clinical trainings on pertinent clinical and therapeutic issues. Teresa has facilitated large group workshops on communication, parenting skills, and family relations.

Table of Contents

Chapter One: Defining Child Sexual Abuse and the Factors that Impact Resiliency and Recovery
Chapter Two: The Long-Term Impact of Child Sexual Abuse
Chapter Three: Transcending Adversity and Overcoming Abuse: Risk Factors, Protective Factors, and Resiliency
Chapter Four: Mothering: Challenges and Risks
Chapter Five: Mothering: Sustaining Resiliency
Chapter Six: The Therapeutic Relationship and Its Importance to Resiliency and Healing
Chapter Seven: A Legacy of Trauma: Mechanisms for Intergenerational Abuse
Chapter Eight: Implications for Treatment and Policy: Strengthening Resiliency

Editorial Reviews

In Women Who Were Sexually Abused as Children: Mothering, Resilience, and Protecting the Next Generation, Teresa Gil pulls the curtain back on the transgenerational consequences of childhood sexual abuse. In this powerful book we hear the voices of brave women as they attempt to break free from their entanglement in cycles of despair and dysfunction. As a skilled and compassionate therapist, Gil provides clinical insights into strategies to witness, support, and treat the broad array of consequences of childhood sexual abuse. Reading this book provides insights into the heroic attempts of these women to be good parents and break the incapacitating feelings of shame and hopelessness that had served as an insurmountable barrier in their desire to connect and co-regulate with their children and to trust other adults in their lives.

Stephen W. Porges

It’s clear from her new book that Teresa Gil is on a very important mission: How to help mothers who were sexually abused as children rise above their painful past so that they and their children can go on to lead meaningful and productive lives. Through her many years of experience treating mothers who were sexually abused as children, Teresa has grown keenly aware of their resilience and courage, and the human capacity to grow stronger in the face of adversity.

Mark Katz

I’ve been wanting to read this book for my entire career: now it is finally available. I recommend it for mothers, but also therapists, healthcare workers, people who work in social service systems that serve families, and families of those who have survived sexual abuse as children. It radiates hope.

Leslie Ann Costello

I am pleased to recommend this new book, Women with Histories of Childhood Sexual Abuse: Mothering, Resiliency, and Protecting the Next Generation, to both practitioners and the many women I have worked with as a lactation consultant who want to change the legacy of their childhoods and move forward in a positive way. Theresa Gil has written a lovely book that addresses the reality these women face but does so in a way that empowers them. So many books on this topic describe the negative effects of child sexual abuse, and they are many. This book does that but also offers women a way out.

Kathleen Kendall-Tackett Ph.D

Gil's book is the first to look specifically at the effects of childhood sexual abuse on mothering. The challenges that arise at different stages of development, single-parenting, learning new skills to make mothering easier, developing support systems - especially when families are not supportive, and preventing another generation of abused children are all addressed in this important and timely book.

Mia Morosoff

Gil has written a book that breaks the silence endured by many mothers who are also survivors of sexual abuse, normalizes their experiences, offers the potential of healing their shame, and provides a sense of hope for the future.
With heartfelt compassion and clarity, Gil brilliantly combines theory and practical information for therapists with interviews and stories that clients can learn from and/or relate to their own life situations.

Hope Langner

In this deeply compassionate, timely, and immensely practical text, Teresa Gil explores adulthood experiences of mothering by women sexually abused as children, drawing on interviews, clinical experiences and research to document vulnerabilities. More importantly, she identifies resiliency resources and ways to nurture these within and outside clinical settings, permitting women to care for themselves and their children in transformative ways. Informative for clinicians and accessible for the public, Gil’s book should be read widely as a guide for recognizing the harms of this too common adversity, appreciating the healing power of our enduring capacity to love, and acting on policies for prevention.

Ester R. Shapiro

This topic has needed a book for years! Thankfully, Teresa Gil noticed and has filled the gap. It is a book that will be of use to survivor/mothers and their families and supporters, including their therapists. Adult survivors of incest/child sexual abuse who become mothers often lack role models due to the deficits in their own upbringing and the pervasive shame and sense of inadequacy that can result from such a history. Survivor/mothers often doubt their capabilities to adequately love their own children and are instead fearful of hurting them or of being unable to protect them. Gil thoroughly outlines the many issues at play that help in breaking the cycle of abuse and protecting the next generation.

Christine A. Courtois

Fortunately, as Gil discusses, a strong mother-daughter relationship, spiritual beliefs, and therapy can help prevent problems. There’s a good index and a bibliography, which notes multiple studies. Expect comfort.

Booklist

In her writing, Teresa Gil unravels the pain and fear of women victimized by childhood sexual assault. While powerful stories of trauma serve as the backdrop, it is the process of healing and breaking the silence of abuse that resonates throughout the book, highlighting the protective factors that promote resiliency and serve to stop the cycle of intergenerational abuse. The book brings to light the struggles and challenges of women striving to take back their agency, coming to terms with the potential long lasting implications of abuse. It is an insightful read for anyone affected by the trauma of assault as well as practitioners’ efforts to support women.

Todd M. Wysocki

Abuse in childhood, is, sadly, all too common. Of the women I manage for perinatal mental health problems, as many as 70-80% have a background that includes emotional abuse or neglect and often physical and/or sexual abuse. Having a baby stirs these memories up, and can make the transition to parenthood even more difficult. Not only are they retraumatised—they don't feel they have the right role models to help them to do what is perhaps the hardest task many of us take on. How does one not repeat problems from the past, what does one need to do to be a "good enough" safe parent?
Gil overts the very real fears and issues that many of these women face. While she focuses on sexual abuse, there is material here that will benefit all women—and men—whose childhoods were ones where they did not feel safe. Knowing you are not alone, and understanding what has happened and why it has come up again now, as a new parent, are critical steps in recovery, and will help women be the best parent they can be. A sensitive, thoughtful, in depth look at a problem that all too often gets swept under the carpet.

Anne Elizabeth Buist

For practitioners and survivors, this book brings awareness to the, often unrecognized, effects that sexual abuse survivors may experience when mothering. The narratives demonstrate the broad spectrum of reactions and normalize these experiences for survivors. However, the book also highlights the mind-body connections and the ways to foster resiliencies to help women heal. This is a must-read for every mothering survivor and every clinician that works with these women.

Nicole Arduini-Van Hoose

In this era of heightened awareness of sexual abuse against women, one group of women has up to now received too little attention. Psychotherapist Teresa Gil redresses this in her important book, which focuses on women who were sexually abused as children and then went on to become mothers. After 25 years as a clinical psychotherapist working with such women, she unravels the veil of silence and shame that kept them isolated and alone. By telling their stories, highlighting their struggles, and examining the factors that support resiliency in them and emotional health in their children, her book offers hope and practical help for these women, their family and friends who act as allies, and professionals in the field who work with this group of mothers and their children.

Sally Wendkos Olds

I am pleased to recommend this new book,Women with Histories of Childhood Sexual Abuse: Mothering, Resiliency, and Protecting the Next Generation,to both practitioners and the many women I have worked with as a lactation consultant who want to change the legacy of their childhoods and move forward in a positive way. Theresa Gil has written a lovely book that addresses the reality these women face but does so in a way that empowers them. So many books on this topic describe the negative effects of child sexual abuse, and they are many. This book does that but also offers women a way out.

Kathleen Kendall-Tackett

Fortunately, as Gil discusses, a strong mother-daughter relationship, spiritual beliefs, and therapy can help prevent problems. There’s a good index and a bibliography, which notes multiple studies. Expect comfort.

Booklist

2018-12-10

A psychotherapist offers intensive reflections from and about female survivors of childhood sexual abuse.

Through interviews, profiles, qualitative studies, and her own professional experiences, debut author Gil channels her veteran career in abuse recovery into this poignant and illuminating volume on survivorship. She focuses primarily on women who have become mothers despite the harrowing ordeals clouding their youths and how they raise their own children amid lingering emotional challenges. The book's opening chapters provide plainspoken declarations of what childhood sexual abuse encompasses, the long-term deleterious mental health ramifications, and how self-medication provides only temporary relief. Other sections examine the specific qualities found in nurturing and protective mothers and how a professional therapeutic relationship can cultivate those attributes, foster recovery, and counsel parents in their critical roles at home. Her text also mines the dynamics of revictimization and the intergenerational transmission of abuse possible throughout a survivor's life. The themes Gil explores are intensified and greatly personalized with quotes, stories, and passages from scores of interviews she's conducted with women who are rearing kids in contemporary society as well as those who have already parented adult offspring. This material shows how time and healing have changed their views over the course of their motherhoods. "By sharing common experiences, women can begin to transform shame into pride, and silence into strength," the author writes. Her probing yet respectful scrutiny exposes the atrocities of childhood sexual abuse while beautifully revealing the brave struggles of mothers who have persevered, given birth, and lovingly supported their kids. Gil's affecting narrative celebrates the emotional and physical strength of female survivors, and she admits to being in a constant state of awe at her subjects' tenacity and their ability to "maintain a sense of humor and to be compassionate and caring toward others while they courageously grapple with the difficult and painful issues that arise in the therapeutic process." The book's analytical approach and academic tone and format make it an ideal resource for childhood abuse clinicians and educators as well as for survivors who are open to discovering aspects of other women's experiences and coping mechanisms. For lay readers, Gil closes each chapter with useful summary sections clarifying and underscoring key points and perspectives.

A moving and immensely informative study on how the long road to abuse recovery can directly affect motherhood.

Kirkus Reviews