Woke Parenting: Raising Intersectional Feminist, Empathic, Engaged, and Generally Non-Shitty Kids While Still Having a Life

by Faith G. Harper, MS Scott

Overview

How do you raise your kids to be feminist, anti-racist, gender-inclusive, self-compassionate, and with strong respect for boundaries and consent in a society that offers mixed messages on all these things—especially when none of this was part of your own upbringing? How can you prepare the next generation to find joy and stability and also cope with economic instability, police brutality, political polarization, militant nationalism, and environmental disaster? Parents and therapists Dr. Faith Harper and Bonnie Scott have written a parenting guide for the 21st century. Drawing from their own experiences raising diverse, politically-active young people, this book will help you raise a new generation of civil rights leaders and activists who will change the world for the better—all while maintaining your own separate identity and relationships, and without losing your mind.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781621069393
Publisher:	Microcosm Publishing LLC
Publication date:	11/12/2021
Series:	5-Minute Therapy
Pages:	192
Sales rank:	1,051,098
Product dimensions:	5.50(w) x 8.50(h) x 0.40(d)

About the Author

Faith G. Harper, PhD, LPC-S, ACS, ACN is a bad-ass, funny lady with a PhD. She’s a licensed professional counselor, board supervisor, certified sexologist, and applied clinical nutritionist with a private practice and consulting business in San Antonio, TX. She has been an adjunct professor and a TEDx presenter, and proudly identifies as a woman of color and uppity intersectional feminist. She is the author of the book Unf*ck Your Brain and many other popular zines and books on subjects such as anxiety, depression, and grief. She is available as a public speaker and for corporate and clinical trainings.Subscribe to the Unfuck Your Brain newsletter to get a discount on her books and zines.

Bonnie Scott, MS, MA, LPC, is a professional therapist in private practice in San Antonio, TX. Born and raised in Texas and New Mexico, she is a staunch ally to the LGBTQ community and sits on the Board of Directors for Thrive Youth Center, an emergency shelter and housing program for LGBT youth in Texas. She works hard to be an intersectional feminist, generally striving to stir up good trouble in the world. She is passionate about her kid, her cats, her books, and her profession.

Table of Contents

Raising Woke Kids 11

How to Navigate Woke Parenting When You Weren't Raised Woke 11

Create a Safe Home for Feelings of All Kinds 14

Help Kids Find a Coping Skill and Don't Take it Away 18

Don't Have Power Struggles 20

Keep Your End Goals in Mind 22

Boundaries All Over the Fucking Place 23

Praise the Behaviors You Want to See More Of 26

Let Them Voice Their Opinion, Even if They Don't Get a Vote 27

Let Your Kids into Your Public Living Space 29

Clear Communication 30

Love Languages 34

Therapeutic Manipulation Techniques 35

Work to See Your Kids the Way Other People Do 37

Validate the Choices Your Kids Make and Help Them Learn from Mistakes 38

Give Feedback like a Pro 41

Create a Family Team 43

Choose a Family Motto, Guide Word, or Value 44

Conclusion 45

Navigating Who We Are and Intersectional Issues of Social Justice 48

Race 49

Gender 54

Sexuality 61

Region and Spirituality 63

Legal System 65

Politics 67

Money Stuff 75

Capitalism and Class 77

Environmental Stuff 79

Physical-Ability and Accessibility 81

Mental Health 84

Building Your Community 87

When Differences Matter and When They Don't 91

Practice of Cultural Traditions 93

Understanding Family Cultures and Differences 94

Developing Skills for Grown-Person Humaning (You Know, Adulting) 96

Day-to-Day Life 97

How to Write a Resume/DoaJobInterview 98

Proper Handshake and Eye Contact Guidelines 99

Write Thank-You Cards 102

How to Use Public Transportation 103

Change a Tire 105

How to Pack for a Trip 106

How to Clean a Dwelling 107

How to Cook Five Different, Inexpensive Meals from Scratch 108

How to Stock a Pantry with Staples and Grocery Shop like a Pip 110

How to Use a Library 112

Managing Health 114

Sexand Consent 128

TheInternet 141

Becoming a Woke Parent 146

Respect the Identities of Others 147

How to Listen to Understand Instead of Respond 149

Bullies Come in Mary Forms 152

How to Be Patient 155

Take Care of Yourself 157

Calm Yom Tits 159

Parenting While Managing Your Own Mental Health Issues 160

Using Current-events and Pop Culture as an Opening 162

How to Raise Your Kid When You're Inside/Outside the Dominant Paradigm 165

Co-Parenting Wokely 167

Navigating Non-Woke Parental Figures 170

Navigating "Parenting" KidsThatAren'tYours 172

Learning from Your Kids 174

It's Never too Late 175

Conclusion 182

Resources: Media Consumption for the Woke Parent and Child 186