The Wisdom of No Escape: and the Path of Loving-Kindness

by Pema Chödrön

Overview

The “down-to-earth, unsentimental, [and] high-humored” Pema Chödrön classic on learning to face our lives just as they are (Los Angeles Times)
 
It's true, as they say, that we can only love others when we first love ourselves—and we can only experience real joy when we stop running from pain. The key to understanding these truisms is simple but not easy: we must learn to open ourselves up to life in all its manifestations. Here, spiritual teacher and When Things Fall Apart author Pema Chödrön presents a uniquely practical approach to doing just that, showing us the true value in having “no escape” from the ups and downs of life.
 
Drawing from her own experiences with marriage, divorce, motherhood, and more, Pema reveals that when we embrace the happiness and heartache, the inspiration and confusion—all the twists and turns that are part of natural life—we can begin to discover a true wellspring of courageous love that’s been within our hearts all along. As she writes in chapter four: “Our neurosis and our wisdom are made out of the same material. If you throw out your neurosis, you also throw out your wisdom.”

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781611806052
Publisher:	Shambhala
Publication date:	07/31/2018
Pages:	128
Sales rank:	195,482
Product dimensions:	5.00(w) x 8.30(h) x 0.50(d)

About the Author

Pema Chödrön is an American Buddhist nun in the lineage of Chögyam Trungpa. She is resident teacher at Gampo Abbey in Nova Scotia, the first Tibetan monastery in North America established for Westerners. She is the author of many books and audiobooks, including the best-selling When Things Fall Apart and Don't Bite the Hook.

Table of Contents

Preface ix

1 Loving-Kindness 1

2 Satisfaction 5

3 Finding Our Own True Nature 7

4 Precision, Gentleness, and Letting Go 13

5 The Wisdom of No Escape 21

6 Joy 25

7 Taking a Bigger Perspective 29

8 No Such Thing as a True Story 35

9 Weather and the Four Noble Truths 41

10 Not Too Tight, Not Too Loose 47

11 Renunciation 55

12 Sending and Taking 61

13 Taking Refuge 71

14 Not Preferring Samsara or Nirvana 81

15 The Dharma That Is Taught and the Dharma That Is Experienced 89

16 Sticking to One Boat 95

17 Inconvenience 99

18 The Four Reminders 105

Bibliography 117

Editorial Reviews

06/25/2018
Chödrön packs a wide range of explanations and practice suggestions into this accessible guide to Buddhist thought. Composed of 18 short lectures originally given in 1989 at a monastery in Nova Scotia, the book circles around the idea of accepting the process of enlightenment with gentleness. Rather than fighting against or constantly being discouraged by failures, Chödrön argues that one should lean into weaknesses and adjust practices based on individual needs. She articulates the middle way by urging students to not forgo all joy, and to balance the striving for nirvana with being fully present in samsara. Moments of humor and her own humanity provide comforting color to her teachings. Some sections, such as the rapid exposition on the four noble truths or the chapter on tonglen, presuppose an audience familiar with the basics, but even beginners will find useful tips on meditation and parables involving hiking up mountains, baking bread, making tea, and many other experiences simplify complicated ideas. This deceptively straightforward book is an excellent introduction to the thinking of a major Western Buddhist leader who gracefully bridges contemporary life with traditional practices. (Aug.)

Publishers Weekly

"Whatever your folly—anger or fear or jealousy or melancholy—Chödrön teaches that freedom from it lies in ‘getting to know it completely, with some kind of softness, and learning how, once you’ve experienced it fully, to let go.'" —Brain Pickings

"This deceptively straightforward book is an excellent introduction to the thinking of a major Western Buddhist leader who gracefully bridges contemporary life with traditional practices."—Publishers Weekly

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