This book is grounded in the latest brain science, as well as being wonderfully friendly, encouraging, and practical. It shows readers how to stay out of dead-end conflicts and instead light up the neural circuits of empathy, skillful communication, and love. A marvelous resource.”
—Rick Hanson, PhD, author of Buddha's Brain
“I really enjoyed this book and learned a lot from it that I can use as a therapist. Stan Tatkin is a great innovator. This book is a must for every couples’ therapist’s library.”
—John Gottman, author of The Science of Trust
“If you feel lost, confused or alone in your relationship, get this book right now. You will finally make sense out of chaos and pain. This is your map to go from frustration and insecurity to realize the potential of why you initially got together. Stan Tatkin’s insightful book will teach you to work as a team to make your relationship journey safe, engaging, and deeply satisfying.”
—Peter Pearson, PhD, couples therapy specialist and cofounder of The Couples Institute in Menlo Park, CA
“Stan Tatkin shows how our couple relationships would look if we took seriously what attachment theory and neuroscience research has taught us.”
—Dan Wile, author of After the Honeymoon
“Wired for Love challenges partners to experience their relationship in a totally new way. Partners will learn how to engage positively as a couple to help each other feel safe and secure by following the relationship exercises suggested in this exciting new book. In clear, concise language, Tatkin describes the ways that partners can understand and become experts on one another. He suggests building a “couple bubble” wherein each partner is the most important person in the other’s life, the one individual on whom the partner can always count.”
—Marion F. Solomon, director of clinical training at Lifespan Learning Institute and author of Narcissism and Intimacy, Lean on Me, and other books
“Read this book to discover a multitude of new ways to enliven your relationship and end needless conflicts. Stan Tatkin is one of the most innovative thinkers in the couples relationship world today. It's impossible to read this book without learning new patterns to enhance your love.”
—Ellyn Bader, PhD, cocreator of the developmental model of couples therapy, codirector of The Couples Institute in Menlo Park, CA, and author of Tell Me No Lies and In Quest of the Mythical Mate
“Reading Stan Tatkin’s book makes you want to be in therapy with him. With intense and fearless clarity, he takes you into the trenches of the combative human brain and shows you how to make love, not war.”
—Esther Perel, LMFT, author of Mating in Captivity
Stan Tatkin is one of the world’s most brilliant couples therapists, making his classic, Wired for Love, essential: Not everyone can sit with him, but everyone can benefit from his wisdom. Stan guides through the lens of attachment, meaning he will guide you to understand who your partner is, and what your partner needs—at the deepest level—making it easier to communicate, avoid triggers, and navigate conflict.”—Elise Loehnen, New York Times bestselling author of On Our Best Behavior, and host of the Pulling the Thread podcast
What I admire about Stan Tatkin as a psychotherapist is that he writes from a neurobiological perspective. As a couples therapist, he delves into how different parts of our brains are wired, makes sense of our biological inheritance, and shows how we can better read our partners and build stronger relationships. Business partnerships wouldn’t survive without secure-functioning principles. In Wired for Love, he gives them validity for our love relationships, too.”—Scott Steindorf, producer
Stan Tatkin is a brilliant couples therapist and thinker. His updated relationship toolkit will be invaluable for so many partners looking to reconnect and grow closer together.”—Gwyneth Paltrow, founder and CEO of goop
What does it take to make a loving relationship work? Read renowned couples therapy expert Stan Tatkin’s new edition of Wired for Love. Based on neurobiology, this gem gives you all the practical tools to help you manage the conflict that has become the uninvited guest in your love relationship.”—Vikas Shah, MBE, DL, host of the Thought Economics podcast
Stan Tatkin can be entirely followed into the towering infernos of our most painful relationship challenges. With certainty, humility, profound knowledge, and searing clarity, Tatkin illustrates the many avenues that can be taken toward a sense of ‘home’ and healing resolution in our primary relationships.”—Alanis Morissette, artist, activist, and wholeness advocate
If you and your partner are ready to work on the things that are difficult in your relationship, sit down together with Wired for Love. This book will take you many revolutionary steps forward in your relationship. Stan is a true relationship genius, and you are in the best of hands.”—Mark Groves, human connection specialist
Getting to great in your relationship is much easier with guidance from the brilliant couples therapist, Stan Tatkin, who shows you how to make the hard things in your relationship easier through shared agreements. Stan is a pioneer in relationship science, and no topic is off limits—sex, gender, race, polyamory. No matter who you are, Stan makes room for you and the circumstances you face in Wired for Love.”—Brooke Bibeault, entrepreneur, philanthropist, and media executive
