Why Him? Why Her?: How to Find and Keep Lasting Love

by Helen Fisher

Overview

The national bestselling book Why Him? Why Her? shows how a better understanding of who you are will help you find and keep the love you want

Helen Fisher can often tell, almost instantly, the hidden strengths and weaknesses in a relationship that are likely to keep a couple together or pull them apart. The words they choose, their facial structure and body language, even their doodles and where they live give strong clues to their personality type. After three decades of studying romantic relationships, Fisher has discovered that your dominant personality type guides not only who you are but who you love.

Why Him? Why Her? provides a new way to understand relationships, whether you're searching for one or eager to strengthen the one you have. Beginning with a scientifically developed questionnaire to determine your prevailing personality type, Fisher tells you not only what type of person you might have chemistry with but how to find them, attract them, and keep them. Once you know the personality profile of the partner you're with—or hope to find—you can use your knowledge of how your types match up to improve your love life.

More than seven million people in forty countries have learned Fisher's techniques and are using these tools to make and keep lasting romantic connections. Based on proven results, this groundbreaking book goes beyond theory to show that the complex nature of romance isn't so complicated once you truly understand yourself and others. Provocative and illuminating, Fisher's book deserves to be read by everyone looking to be loved for who they really are.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780805091526
Publisher:	Holt, Henry & Company, Inc.
Publication date:	01/05/2010
Pages:	320
Sales rank:	541,641
Product dimensions:	5.60(w) x 8.20(h) x 0.90(d)

About the Author

Helen Fisher, PhD, is a research professor of anthropology at Rutgers University, and the bestselling author of four previous books, two of which—The First Sex and Anatomy of Love—were New York Times Notable Books. She is Scientific Adviser to Chemistry.com (a division of Match.com) and lives in New York City.

Table of Contents

1 Eavesdropping on Mother Nature: Why Him? Why Her? 1

2 Finding Your Personality type: The Personality Type Test 18

3 The Hand YOU're Dealt: Nature's Dice 24

4 Drink Life to The Lees: The Explorer 42

5 A Pillar of Society: The Builder 62

6 Always to The Stars: The Director 83

7 The Philosopher King: The Negotiator 103

8 Play Mates, Help Mates, Mind Mates, Soul Mates: The Chemistry of Dating 124

9 Falling in Love: The Funnel 142

10 The One: How We Love 160

11 Putting Chemistry to Work: Advice from Nature 193

12 How to Find and Keep Lasting Love: Afterword 223

Notes 239

Appendix: The Mate Choice Study 253

Bibliography 261

Acknowledgments 291

Index 293

Editorial Reviews

"Fascinating…. You may already have your dream lover, but you’ll want to read this for the many insights on the science of love."—The Boston Globe

"Why Him? Why Her? examines how brain chemistry determines temperament and temperament dictates whom we love…. [Fisher offers] a giddy, romantic notion, well worth considering."—Los Angeles Times

"In times of upheaval, nothing offers safe harbor like science. That’s where Helen Fisher comes in…. Her research led her inside the biological mechanisms of mate choice."—TIME magazine

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