Table of Contents
A Note on Caution and Confidentiality xi
Introduction: On the Couch at 7:00 A.M. 1
Part 1 The Secret Cinema in Our Minds
1 Why We Make Love with the Lights Out 15
2 The Science of Psychological Fingerprints 25
3 The Intra-Marital Affair: Staging Our Private Theater 69
Part 2 A Cornucopia of Fantasies
4 Fantasy 101: Tales of Ordinary Explicitness 111
5 Group Formations: Threesomes, Foursomes, and Moresomes 123
6 Cheating: When the Intra-Marital Meets the Extramarital 134
7 I'm Ready for My Close-Up: Fantasies of Celebrities 143
8 Is Your Wife a Lesbian? Is Your Husband Homosexual? Is Your Gay Lover Really Straight? 164
9 On Genital Exhibitionism 186
10 The Erotic Smorgasbord: Fetishism, Transvestism, Homeovestism, and Other Forms of Object-Love 194
11 Humiliation and the Infliction of Shame 201
12 Incest: Do We Really Fancy Our Family? 222
13 Can I Be Arrested for My Fantasies? Extreme Sexual Violence 242
14 Teenagers and Children 253
15 Sugar and Spice and Everything Nice 260
Part 3 The Origins of Sexual Fantasy
16 The Underbelly of the Normal Fantasy: Erotic Freedom or Sublimated Sadism? 269
17 "They've Scraped Out My Soul": Struggling with Shame and Humiliation 289
18 Case History: Paris and the Ginger Public Hair 312
19 The Traumatic Roots of Sexual Fantasy 330
20 The Fourteen Functions of Sexual Fantasy 356
21 The Mysterious Boxing Gloves, Or, Can Fantasies Be Trauma-Free? 378
Part 4 Sexual Fantasies and The Outside World
22 Do Fantasies Ruin Relationships? 399
23 Normality and Perversion in the Bedroom and the Boardroom 417
24 Sanctum Sanctorum, Or, Probing the Unprobable430
Appendix The Sexual Fantasy Research Questionnaire 453
Acknowledgments 477
Announcement: The Sexual Fantasy Research Project 484
Index 485