Where Do I Go From Here?: Going From Darkness to Living in God's Marvelous Light
Where Do I Go From Here?: Going From Darkness to Living in God's Marvelous Light
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Don’t fool yourself into thinking that you are a listener when you are anything but, letting the Word go in one ear and out the other. Act on what you hear! Those who hear and don’t act are like those who glance in the mirror, walk away, and two minutes later have no idea who they are, what they look like. (James 1:22–24 The Message)
This book was written on author’s life experiences. It focused on family hurts, pain, lies, deceit, and forgiveness. It brings the reader into the reality of family secrets: “What’s done in this house stays in this house.” This book shares a light at the end of the tunnel. It brings to the people–whether woman, man, boy, or girl—the hope that there’s a way out and that past circumstances don’t have to become our future. We can hold on to the thought that we can make it through any situation with the help of the Lord. Where Do I Go from Here? is also a book of mixed emotions. —Yolanda Griffin
In this book are life-changing testimonies and many helpful insights on how to live past your hurts and pains. This is a book that gives insight on how to be free through forgiving yourself and others that have causes you pain. It also gives insight on how to mature in Jesus Christ. —Renee Smith
Where Do I Go From Here? is an open invitation to anyone who wants to understand that God covers and keeps us throughout it all, from birth to entrance into His kingdom. His love never dies! God gives us liberty even when we don’t know how to grab it ourselves. Once we are set free, we are free indeed. I am a living witness that there is life after a divorce and that we are truly free to go after whatever God has for us. Hallelujah! —Angela Lambert
I am not a book reader, but once I picked up this book, it was hard to put it down. Thank you, Teresa, for allowing God to use you to help others to open their eyes and see their true potential. May God continue blessing you and your family. —Patrick A. Smith
Product Details
| ISBN-13: | 9781477298763 |
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| Publisher: | AuthorHouse |
| Publication date: | 03/25/2013 |
| Sold by: | Barnes & Noble |
| Format: | eBook |
| File size: | 429 KB |
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Where Do I Go From Here?
Going From Darkness to Living in God's Marvelous Light
By Rita Blessings
AuthorHouse
Copyright © 2013Rita BlessingsAll rights reserved.
ISBN: 978-1-4772-9878-7
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CHAPTER 1Feeling Rejected and Abandoned
I grew up in a dysfunctional family (a term that someone came up with to describe a non-functional family) with an abusive father that was also an alcoholic. I believe that caused me to feel rejected, damaged and many other things that did not help me mature but instead stay immature for many years. We did not have the usual family support system, a system that will support you no matter what. I think because of the times we lived in my family did not know how to show any type of emotion at all except anger.
My mother's mother had her favorite which was one grandson from each of her children. She did not seem to care for my family because of my abusive father. I can understand that but we, her grandchildren, had nothing to do with how our father was and what he did. Over the years before my grandmother passed I would send or do things for her, sometimes I thought she appreciated what I did and sometime I thought she did not care.
I know from my experiences that when you do not have the support of your parents or grandparents you feel like you are missing a part of yourself. You cannot began to live life right until you get healed from the rejection and the abandonment that you feel you went through as a young child or young adult. I have never gone to a counselor or psychologist with my problems but I have gone to a family member. Only years later did I find out I should have gone to an outsider because of my business being told within the family. God Himself set me free from all the issues that I was going through for many, many years.
Have you felt unloved? As a young girl I was called blackly, big eyes and other mean names. These words came from family and others. So, as I was growing up, I started believing those things that I was called many years ago. I really believe that is when I began to feel abandoned, rejected, unloved, unwanted and many other things that were not positive. I felt unloved by my family members and then I started feeling like an outcast.
When part of my family moved to Florida I would still hear some of the negative things about my looks again. I did not love myself, and sadly I did not realize until years later that I was beautiful because God created me that way. Growing up in the 60s and 70s people did not sit you down and tell you that you are beautiful. As I was growing up through the 60s and 70s I rarely heard anyone telling young girls or myself that they we were beautiful and are loved. So, we began to dislike ourselves and accept what others said about us.
I am asking a favor of all mothers or fathers that read this book, please show your children that you love them, let them see you love each other. Please tell your daughters they are beautiful—tell them they are queens. As you show and teach them that they are loved and they are beautiful they are growing up with self confidence and no one can take that away from them.
No man or woman can come up to your daughters and use a line like this "Oh, I have never seen anyone as beautiful as you in my life!" When they are approached with that sorry line, she can tell the person, "I know I am beautiful because my parents told me I am!", and have the confidence to just walk away. When a young girl feels that she is not beautiful or loved she runs with this type of line and gets caught into relationships that she really should not be in. As a girl grows up she needs to feel loved. Parents or guardians please instill within your girls that they are queens because God created them that way.
Please tell your sons that they are handsome and that they are kings. Remember boys need to be loved as well; they need to be taught to stand as young men and not fall for anything. Parents or guardians I encourage you to show your boys that they can go after anything that their hearts desire whether it has to do with sports, the corporate world, or education. Encourage your boys to read and accomplish great things in their life.
Many years later after really receiving Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior, I realized that I would give things to my family because I felt I if I did not they would get mad and not love me. I used to give up many of my things to my family because I thought that would make them love me more. I would do things for family members that they should have done for themselves just to get their attention. I learned that no matter what you do or give to people it will not make them care for you any more or less. In reality, nothing you do will make anyone love you. I believe now that you have to love yourself and God will do the rest.
When a child grows up with a spirit of rejection and abandonment, that child often turns out to be an adult that feels unloved and never seems to understand why they never seem to fit in with everyone else. However, when you have God on your side, you will have a peace about not fitting in with everyone. As we select friends our friends seem to have the same kind of issues we have and until one of you get some deliverance. Some of your issues could be fear, low self esteem, rejected, feeling unworthy of living and some other type of issue. You will be living through your issues along until you open up for God to bring you out. When you submit to God and let him direct your life you will have His peace to deal with any hardship or anything that come your way. When a person grows up and feels rejected it allowed you to meet some people that had the same rejection and uncaring spirit.
Growing up with a spirit of rejection you tend to become very intimidated, and you draw those same spirits around you. People usually can and will walk all over you. You can never speak up for yourself and the sad part is no one else will speak up for you as well. You have been dragged, walk on, talked about and laughed at. This is all because of you not knowing that the people you tried to put and keep in your little world were not who God wanted you to keep in your life. Some people that God allowed to come in your life were sent just for a season.
Your self-esteem will be low or none at all. The relationships that you get or have been involved with have been terrible. You will believe that you deserve all the hell you are going through, not knowing life should be better for you.
The phrase "opposites attract" is true, but the reality of this phrase I believe is for people in the secular world not for Christians. The Bible says that the Holy Spirit allows other Christian in our life to help us become the person that God has created us to become.
Feeling unloved or abandoned causes you to walk through life on a merry-go-round. You go around and around doing and accepting the same things you have dealt with year-after-year. You keep everything inside or you go to the wrong person for help. I know that to be true because I did it for many years. In your life, things happen and you feel there is no hope and you just give up. When you talked with someone about your situation and you poured your heart out to them, you do not expect them to spread your business, but a man/woman can only be trusted just for a little while if Jesus is not their source. I learned to trust Jesus and write down what I was going through and not to become bitter again. Yes, writing things down does work!
I was going to church on Sunday, Bible Study, Conferences and many other church programs and going back home to some hellish behavior. I am not saying that everyone I talked to told my business, but the majority of them did. I realized that because they were not truly living for Jesus that was who they were. We cannot condemn a person for who they are, we have to pray that Jesus himself will come into them and help them grow. Only Jesus can heal our m
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