Table of Contents
Preface to the 25th Anniversary Edition ix
Introduction xi
1 How Fear Works 1
Fear and the Givens of Life 1
Givens Evoke Grief 5
Real and Unreal Fear 10
When Fear Becomes Neurotic 12
Our Cells Remember Fears 15
Fuzzy Thinking 20
The Three "A" Exercise to Release Our Fears 23
2 How Fears Show Up 27
Panic Attacks 28
When Panic Is Trauma 32
Intimidation by Others 34
Our Fear of Comings and Goings 35
Our Fear of Letting Go of Crutches 40
Our Fear of Aloneness 47
3 Confronting the Void 54
The Void 56
Void of Ego 63
The Void Calls 65
The Net 71
4 Relationship Fears 76
Fear and Love 79
Love versus Abuse 81
When Love Walks In 85
Do I Fear Love? 87
Loving Someone Who Is Afraid 89
The Sexual Connection 92
Fears of Abandonment and Engulfment 97
Drama Disguised as Feeling 104
5 Becoming More Courageous 112
Assertiveness 113
Nonassertiveness 122
Aggressiveness 124
A "Bill of Rights" to Be Ourselves 129
Dealing with the "Don'ts" 131
Obstacles and Discernments 132
6 The Spiritual Path to Fearlessness 136
Integrating Our Fear 137
Spiritual Assisting Forces 140
Our Inner Space 142
Skillful Non-doing 145
Toward Enlightenment 149
Free at Last 151
7 Affirming Fearlessness 154
Three Actions and Commitments 155
Epilogue: When Fight Meets Light 171
About the Author 177
