Table of Contents
Foreword 1
Prologue 5
Senator Thurmond, a Surrogate Father 9
Introduction 17
I Why Does Race Persist? 25
II Contemplate the Seven Truisms 35
A Acknowledge Your Confirmation Prejudice 35
B Be Intentional 38
C It's Not about You 39
D Race Is Not Binary 41
E Expect More: Anticipate Racism, Then Act 41
F Acceptance Does Not Always Mean Agreement 42
G Beware (and Ignore) the Fourteen Percent 43
III Resolve to Change 45
A Why Must We Change? 45
B Change Starts with the Individual 50
IV Don't Take a Knee: Show Empathy Even If You Disagree on Tactics 57
V We're All in This Together: Your Voice Needs to Be Heard, Too 75
VI Why Having Honest Dialogue Is So Difficult (And What to Do about It) 85
A Blackface-If It Seems Offensive It Probably Is 88
B White Privilege-Don't Be Guilted into Silence 89
C Shun the N-Word 91
D "Am I Even Allowed to Say That?" How White Racial Anxiety Stymies Dialogue 95
E Gradually Build Dialogue through Consistent and Rigorous Practice 98
1 Seek to Understand First 99
2 Value Authenticity over Elegance 100
VII The Path Forward: A Twelve-Step Approach 103
A Preface: The Widening Gyre 103
B Step One: Listen 103
C Step Two: A Common Purpose 104
D Step Three: The Divinity of All Creation 104
E Step Four: Bear No Shame 105
F Step Five: Maintain Hope 105
G Step Six: Be Courageous 106
H Step Seven: Prosperity 106
I Step Eight: Build Endurance 107
J Step Nine: Have Fun 108
K Step Ten: Humility 109
L Step Eleven: Lawfulness 110
M Step Twelve: Beginning Anew 111
VIII Achieve Economic Emancipation 113
IX Don't Put God in a Box 131
Epilogue 137
Acknowledgments 142
