Validation Is For Parking: How Women Can Beat the Confidence Con

by Nicole Kalil

Overview

Confidence | noun | con·fi·dence : when you know who you are, own who you're not, and choose to embrace all of it 

If you had more confidence, what decisions would you make? What risks would you take? What dreams would you chase? 

For women, confidence is often associated with doing it all-and doing it perfectly. When I earn that promotion, lose ten pounds, or meet the person of my dreams...then I'll feel confident. We've been bombarded with messaging telling us to be confident, but no one has told us how. Speaker, leadership strategist, and coach Nicole Kalil is changing that. 

In Validation Is for Parking, Nicole provides a comprehensive guide for building internal trust and reclaiming confidence, a skill built from the inside out. You'll learn how to create boundaries, give yourself grace, and overcome the five most common derailers that impede progress and contribute to unhealthy patterns. This is a journey in which there are no shortcuts, but Nicole provides the guidance and support you need to break free from limiting narratives. A book for all women, Validation Is for Parking is an uplifting exploration of the untruths we believe and the internal antidotes that teach us to trust ourselves and become who we're meant to be.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781544532707
Publisher:	Womans Work LLC
Publication date:	10/04/2022
Sold by:	Barnes & Noble
Format:	eBook
Pages:	210
File size:	1 MB

About the Author

Nicole Kalil is an in-demand speaker and the dynamic host of the This Is Woman's Work podcast. Known as the Confidence Sherpa, Nicole reveals how-to strategies that set her apart from other self-help experts. Previously a Fortune 100 C-suite executive, she's helped thousands of women reclaim their confidence so they can live authentically, both personally and professionally. Nicole lives with her husband and daughter in Andover, Massachusetts. For more information, visit nicolekalil.com.

Editorial Reviews

2022-12-01
In this guide, a business coach discusses how women face particular societal challenges regarding confidence and provides a series of motivational activities.

“Not showing up authentically and honoring who I was turned me into a rabid validation junkie,” notes Kalil, who held a Fortune 100 executive position yet was “defining myself on everyone else’s terms” and felt “utterly disconnected from myself.” Now a business coach, the author discusses how the term confidenceis often misused in society, with women facing “particular challenges in relation to confidence due to the influence of patriarchy, socialization, gender-based expectations, and many other factors.” The “true” definition of confidence, Kalil asserts, is “knowing who you are, owning who you’re not, and choosing to embrace all of it.” The second half of the book consists of a series of activities that will help readers focus on “reconnecting with what many call our ‘inner knowing.’ ” These methods include listing the “amazing things you know to be true about yourself”; addressing the negative or challenging things you have heard or believe about yourself with the questions “Is it true, does it matter, and what do I want to do with it right now?” and similar assessments and reframing strategies; examining the “head trash” of negative worries and thoughts; comparing yourself to others; and more. The author, who hosts her own podcast, has written an engaging, encouraging manual that makes a strong case that women in particular need to get out from under the external societal pressures and the definitions of being “perfect,” be it in business, relationships, or parenting. While this book is pointedly aimed at women, it offers practical tips that will be useful to anyone seeking the power of self-knowledge.

An inspirational and valuable wake-up call for women to embrace their true selves.

Kirkus Reviews