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Unconditional Love: A Guide for Navigating the Joys and Challenges of Being a Grandparent Today

Unconditional Love: A Guide for Navigating the Joys and Challenges of Being a Grandparent Today

by Jane Isay

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A beautiful meditation on the joys of being a grandparent and a practical guide to help you and your adult children make the most of your relationship with a grandchild.

For many grandparents, a grandchild offers a second chance to become the parent they didn’t have the time or the energy to be when raising their own children. Being a grandparent, family relationships expert Jane Isay argues, is the opportunity to turn missed opportunities into delight.

Drawing on her personal experience, dozens of interviews, and the latest findings in psychology, Isay shows how a grandparent can use his or her unique perspective and experience to create a deep and lasting bond that will echo throughout a grandchild’s life. She explores the realities of today’s multigenerational families, identifying problems and offering solutions to enhance love, trust, and understanding between grandparents, parents, and grandchildren. She also offers a wealth of practical advice, from when to get involved, when to stay away, and how to foster a strong relationship when you’re separated by long distance.

Unconditional Love advocates for honest conversation, thinking in the long run and healing breaches in order to be together, understanding that most of us try to do our best and need to be forgiven if we fail. Isay argues that secrets and surprises may tilt the boat but won’t necessarily sink it and that grandparents and their grown children are happier when they give each other the benefit of the doubt. Most importantly, she writes, the advent of grandchildren offers families the opportunity for healing and redemption—if we seize the moment. In lovely prose and through delightful stories, Isay shows us how we can.

A great gift for grandparents-to-be and a wonderful resource for all, Unconditional Love is a beautiful and psychologically astute look at what it means to be an engaged grandparent.

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Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780062792075
Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers
Publication date: 03/06/2018
Edition description: Large Print
Pages: 272
Product dimensions: 6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.54(d)

About the Author

Jane Isay is the author of Secrets and Lies, Walking on Eggshells, and Mom Still Likes You Best. As a book editor for more than forty years, she discovered Mary Pipher’s Reviving Ophelia, commissioned Patricia T. O’Conner’s bestselling Woe is I and Rachel Simmon’s Odd Girl Out, and edited such nonfiction classics as Praying for Sheetrock and Friday Night Lights. She lives in New York City.

Table of Contents

Introduction: Stardust 1

Part I The Family Grows

Chapter 1 Grandparent Prep: What to Do Before the Baby Comes 15

Chapter 2 When Everything Changes: The Shift of Power 35

Part II The Intangibles

Chapter 3 Nurturing the Moral Imagination 63

Chapter 4 The More They Know, the Taller They Grow: The Impact of Family Stories 85

Chapter 5 Our Fountain of Youth 103

Part III Real Issues, Real Solutions

Chapter 6 Love and Sacrifice: Custodial Grandparents 125

Chapter 7 Staying Close While Living Far Away 145

Chapter 8 Who Gets What and When? 168

Part IV Growing Up, Growing Old

Chapter 9 The Short Goodbye: Taming Teenage Grandkids 197

Chapter 10 The Gloaming 216

Epilogue: "Grandma, I'll Always Visit You" 239

Acknowledgments 241

Notes 245

Further Reading 251

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