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For many grandparents, a grandchild offers a second chance to become the parent they didn’t have the time or the energy to be when raising their own children. Being a grandparent, family relationships expert Jane Isay argues, is the opportunity to turn missed opportunities into delight.
Drawing on her personal experience, dozens of interviews, and the latest findings in psychology, Isay shows how a grandparent can use his or her unique perspective and experience to create a deep and lasting bond that will echo throughout a grandchild’s life. She explores the realities of today’s multigenerational families, identifying problems and offering solutions to enhance love, trust, and understanding between grandparents, parents, and grandchildren. She also offers a wealth of practical advice, from when to get involved, when to stay away, and how to foster a strong relationship when you’re separated by long distance.
Unconditional Love advocates for honest conversation, thinking in the long run and healing breaches in order to be together, understanding that most of us try to do our best and need to be forgiven if we fail. Isay argues that secrets and surprises may tilt the boat but won’t necessarily sink it and that grandparents and their grown children are happier when they give each other the benefit of the doubt. Most importantly, she writes, the advent of grandchildren offers families the opportunity for healing and redemption—if we seize the moment. In lovely prose and through delightful stories, Isay shows us how we can.
A great gift for grandparents-to-be and a wonderful resource for all, Unconditional Love is a beautiful and psychologically astute look at what it means to be an engaged grandparent.
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Table of Contents
Introduction: Stardust 1
Part I The Family Grows
Chapter 1 Grandparent Prep: What to Do Before the Baby Comes 15
Chapter 2 When Everything Changes: The Shift of Power 35
Part II The Intangibles
Chapter 3 Nurturing the Moral Imagination 63
Chapter 4 The More They Know, the Taller They Grow: The Impact of Family Stories 85
Chapter 5 Our Fountain of Youth 103
Part III Real Issues, Real Solutions
Chapter 6 Love and Sacrifice: Custodial Grandparents 125
Chapter 7 Staying Close While Living Far Away 145
Chapter 8 Who Gets What and When? 168
Part IV Growing Up, Growing Old
Chapter 9 The Short Goodbye: Taming Teenage Grandkids 197
Chapter 10 The Gloaming 216
Epilogue: "Grandma, I'll Always Visit You" 239
Further Reading 251