Kathy Steele
"Every therapist interested in helping clients with developmental trauma should read this book. A jewel of clinical wisdom, it focuses not only the content of trauma, but on the relational process of being with highly traumatized clients, and how to understand and work with the many avoidance strategies to dealing with trauma that we encounter in therapy. An approachable, culturally sensitive, and compassionate book, full of clinical vignettes, it illustrates the neglected but essential need to stay with the process: what a client feels when telling the story, how the client experiences telling the story to someone else, what happens in the therapeutic relationship when the client tells the story. A joy to read."
Dana Ross
"Thoughtful and nuanced. . . . Muller's writing helps to underscore the knowledge that there are many pathways to healing, and that our approach to treatment needs to honor the path of the person in front of us. "
Psych Central
"Drawing on relevant research and richly illustrated case studies, Muller’s book beautifully demonstrates that in trauma, the healing is in the relationship. . . . Essential reading for therapists of all disciplines."
Leslie S. Greenberg
"An incredibly useful book showing you how to understand and manage therapy with relational trauma. Grounded in attachment theory, trauma theory, and psychotherapy research, it demonstrates the importance of repair of relationship difficulties."
James Chu
"Dr. Robert T. Muller has provided a gem of a book for clinicians working with persons who have experience psychological trauma. It is beautifully written, drawing on the accumulated wisdom of experts in the trauma field, and richly illustrated with descriptions of his work with clients. Dr. Muller explores the complex relational dynamics of work with traumatized patients and charts a thoughtful course to their treatment. His wisdom clearly comes from deep understanding of how his clients have experienced their lives, and his skill in walking with them through the process of recovery."
Clare Pain
"Building on his first book—Trauma and the Avoidant Client—this second beautifully written book, with skillfully drawn cases, guides therapists toward an understanding of work with clients suffering from unresolved traumatic experiences. With moving and relevant vignettes, Dr. Muller masters the nuances of how to work toward healing, and how we unwittingly hinder healing. This book is essential reading for therapists of all disciplines who work with clients struggling with unresolved traumatic experiences."
Tara Clark
"Like Robert T. Muller's first book (Trauma and the Avoidant Client), this book is beautifully written and a pleasure to read. I especially liked the chapter on 'Strained Apologies and the Rush to Forgive' and how we can unwittingly collude in avoiding difficult material by premature forgiveness."
Sussex Counselling and Psychotherapy News
"One of the great strengths of this accessible, fluidly written book is the way it honours the extremity and reality of posttraumatic stress, while also recognising the possibility and integrity of what he terms ‘post-traumatic growth’. . . trauma work is full of unexpected twists and turns. Here is a sound resource to help us navigate them."
