Chapter 1. | Tired of Nagging?: An Introduction | 1 |
Chapter 2. | Behavioral Ages and Stages: A very short course in what's going on with your child, from infancy to age 5 | 6 |
| 6 months to 1 year | 8 |
| 1 year to 18 months | 9 |
| 18 months to 2 years | 10 |
| 2 to 3 years | 12 |
| 3 to 3 1/2 years | 13 |
| 3 1/2 to 4 years | 15 |
| 4 to 5 years | 16 |
Chapter 3. | The 30 Parenting Tools | 18 |
| Assume your child wants to cooperate | 19 |
| Each day, spend 20 minutes of uninterrupted time with your child | 21 |
| Provide plenty of outside time | 22 |
| Give your child the power to make her own choices | 24 |
| Let your child know you've noticed his good, kind behavior | 26 |
| Offer substitutions | 27 |
| Provide transitions to ease your child through moments of change | 29 |
| Praise your child with descriptive words | 31 |
| Change "no" to "yes." | 33 |
| Empathize; put yourself in your child's shoes | 35 |
| Wait until the emotions (yours and hers) have settled before you try to correct behavior | 36 |
| Give your child hope | 38 |
| Sometimes insist, sometimes negotiate ... and know when to do which | 39 |
| Ask your child what she thinks should be done to correct a behavior problem | 41 |
| Grab your child, if you must--and sometimes you must--but don't slap | 43 |
| Give reasonable consequences for misbehavior | 45 |
| Let your child know his behavior has an impact on you or others | 47 |
| Let your child know what to expect | 48 |
| Give your child words to use | 50 |
| Be your child's play date supervisor | 52 |
| When you can, appoint a neutral bad guy | 54 |
| Set up success stories | 55 |
| Let your child save face | 57 |
| Learn to spot your own "I'm about to lose it" trigger points | 58 |
| Model polite behavior | 60 |
| To defuse a problem instantly, backtrack | 62 |
| When your child is going through an impossible-to-live-with stage, find help! | 63 |
| Use a little humor, drama, or exaggeration to make a point | 65 |
| Plan joint approaches with your spouse | 65 |
| Remember that tomorrow is another day | 68 |
Chapter 4. | The Tools in Action, by Ages and Stages: How to prevent, correct, and encourage ... and what to do next when what you're doing isn't working | 70 |
| When your 6-month- to 1-year-old ... | |
| Grabs dangerous or fragile objects | 73 |
| Mouths everything he holds | 75 |
| Spits or throws food | 76 |
| Makes loud noises or repetitive sounds | 77 |
| Demands a new activity every 10 minutes | 78 |
| Gets clingy | 81 |
| When your 1-year- to 18-month-old ... | |
| Hates the stroller | 83 |
| Wants to touch or grab all new or fascinating objects | 85 |
| Runs away in open spaces | 87 |
| Tries to climb whenever possible | 88 |
| Bites, hits, or pushes | 90 |
| When your 18-month- to 2-year-old ... | |
| Hits or pushes | 92 |
| Shakes loose of your hand outdoors and runs off | 95 |
| Gets upset when he can't practice new things | 97 |
| Won't let other children play with her things | 98 |
| Repeats activities he's been told not to do | 100 |
| Has a temper tantrum | 102 |
| Throws things | 103 |
| When your 2- to 3-year-old ... | |
| Bites, hits, or pushes | 106 |
| Whines | 109 |
| Says "no" to everything, even to activities and foods she likes | 112 |
| Won't let go of an object or activity | 114 |
| Throws a temper tantrum | 116 |
| Wants to explore everything and run, climb, and jump | 118 |
| Puts up a fight about bedtime | 121 |
| Dislikes being hurried | 124 |
| Is reluctant to give up the pacifier or bottle | 126 |
| Doesn't want help getting dressed | 128 |
| Doesn't want to share a favorite toy | 130 |
| Won't sit still at the table | 132 |
| Won't eat the dinner served | 134 |
| Loses interest in toilet training | 136 |
| When your 3- to 4-year-old ... | |
| Resists leaving a play date | 139 |
| Dawdles | 141 |
| Dislikes routines | 143 |
| Excludes or is excluded by other children at play | 146 |
| Has fears | 149 |
| Goes wild in the car | 151 |
| Gets overexcited | 153 |
| Wants everything he sees | 155 |
| Won't get dressed | 158 |
| Won't pick up toys | 159 |
| Has trouble sharing | 163 |
| Gets into sibling fights | 165 |
| Wants to play doctor | 169 |
| Makes embarrassing observations about grown-ups she sees | 172 |
| Interrupts your talk with another adult | 173 |
| When your 4- to 5-year-old ... | |
| Resists your request to help out | 175 |
| Likes superheroes and all-powerful talk | 177 |
| Wants to win at games all the time | 179 |
| Is disrespectful to property | 182 |
| Acts unruly in a public place | 184 |
| Expresses criticism of adults with rudeness or threats | 186 |
| Says "I hate you!" or "You're so stupid!" | 189 |
| Likes toilet talk and swearing | 191 |
| Acts bossy or ignores you | 194 |
Chapter 5 | Keeping Up the Progress: Good ways to maintain positive parenting | 196 |
| Notes | 200 |
| Suggested Reading | 202 |
| Index | 206 |