Table of Contents
Acknowledgments xi
Part 1 Here's Where the Fun Begins
1 Tiger Babies Strike Back 3
2 Tiger Mom, I'm Just Not That into You 7
3 How the Unformed, Chinese American Blob Takes Shape 11
4 The Defiant Chinese Body 20
5 Tough Love, Tough Luck 26
6 Origin of the Tiger Mother Species 34
7 Rise of the 3.2 GPAs 44
Part 2 Peek Behind the Curtain
8 A Tale of Two Runts 51
9 Alpha Females in Separate Cages 62
10 Show Me to the Foxes 67
11 The Garden of Perfect Brightness Resides Within You 72
12 Love, Chinese American Style 76
13 Grandma Lucy on the Page 84
14 Misery Is Not a Contest 90
Part 3 Breaking Out of the Locked Chinese Box
15 My Mom Loves Fiona Ma More Than Me 97
16 Nothing Is for Free … Except Breast Milk 104
17 Tiger Mom's Heart Grew Two Sizes That Day 109
18 Mompetitors, Start Your Engines! 114
19 Iris Chang It 119
20 The Wheels Start to Come Loose 124
21 The Mice Go On 131
22 Aeon Flux Capacitor 139
Part 4 Emerging from the Shadows and into the Light
23 Trying to Calm the Inner Hysteria 147
24 Flap Your Wings 154
25 Who's Biting Your Style? 157
26 Welcome to What I Didn't Know 168
27 Dragon Lady Versus Pearl Concubine 173
28 Dispatches from the Front Lines of Third Grade 179
Part 5 Older and Wiser
29 Mommy, I Know What the F-Word Is! 189
30 Dismantling the Lonely Honeycomb of Your Inner Wasp's Nest 197
31 Don't Wash Pinky, Okay? 202
32 Before You Vanish Out of View 210
33 Scrambling Past the Dahlias 214
34 Place Your Hand in the Beast's Mouth 225
35 Do My Dreaming and My Scheming, Laugh at Yesterday 228
36 Bring On the Playdates 234
37 Friends Don't Let Friends Be Tiger Moms 239
38 The Reamer Can't Hide the Pride 246
39 Something Rejected Is the Key to Your Heart 250
Epilogue 253