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Overview
Fantasy exploration, finding threesome partners, making your dreams come true—sex educator Stella Harris guides you through the whole process. You’ll also find plenty of positions and scenarios for beginners and veterans alike, plus information about safer sex and aftercare. And if you want threesomes to stay a fantasy? That’s okay too! This book teaches how to use threesomes in dirty talk and role play.
Whether you’re just starting out on your threesome journey, or you’ve been having threesomes for years, you’ll find something here to suit your needs. Harris is used to hearing, “Wow, I never thought of that!”—what new ideas will you find in these pages?
Product Details
| ISBN-13: | 9781627783071 |
|---|---|
| Publisher: | Start Publishing LLC |
| Publication date: | 03/09/2021 |
| Pages: | 276 |
| Sales rank: | 494,512 |
| Product dimensions: | 5.00(w) x 8.00(h) x 0.80(d) |
About the Author
Table of Contents
Introduction xi
Who Is This For/Language xii
Philosophy xiv
Personal Stories xv
Chapter I Definitions 1
How Do You Define Sex? 1
What "Counts" as a Threesome? 3
Thinking Beyond the Standard 5
The Myth of the Organic Threesome 7
Missing the Mark 9
What Threesomes Are, And Are Not, For 10
Chapter 2 Threesomes in Culture 11
Threesomes on Screen 11
Threesomes in Porn 13
Historical Threesomes 13
Chapter 3 Why are People Into Multiperson Play? 15
Let Me Count the Ways 15
Lots of Stimulation 15
Voyeurism and Exhibitionism 16
Cuckolding 18
Exploration of New Bodies and New Dynamics 21
Specific Fantasies 22
Arousal Feedback Loop 23
Taboo 23
Exploring Sexuality 24
Simple Curiosity 26
Why Do YOU Want a Threesome? 26
Challenging Cultural Assumptions 27
Chapter 4 Are Threesomes for You? 29
Check In with Yourself 29
Quiz/Checklist 30
How Do You Feel Your Feelings? 31
Chapter 5 Baby Steps to Explore Threesomes 35
Exploration 35
Nonsexual Nudity 35
Strip Clubs 38
Sex Parties 41
Virtual Threesomes 44
Chapter 6 Exploring without Other People 47
Threesomes as Fantasy 47
Dirty Talk 48
Erotica and Porn 51
Sex Toys 52
Chapter 7 When There's an Existing Couple 55
What Is a Couple? 55
Couple's Privilege 56
Starting the Conversation 58
How Much Time Are You Dedicating? 60
Relationship Agreements 61
Have a Practice Negotiation 63
How to Avoid the Pitfalls of Unicorn Hunting 63
What About Other Couples? 66
Seeing a Professional 67
Face Your Fears 68
Chapter 8 Unicorn Tips 69
A Unicorn Tale 69
Why Unicorn? 70
How To Go Couple Hunting 71
How To Screen a Couple 72
Advocating for Yourself 75
Red and Yellow Flags 76
Chapter 9 Threesome Interlude 79
The Threesome That Didn't Happen (Yet) 79
Chapter 10 How Do Sexualities Align? 81
How Will People Combine? 81
Don't Fake It 83
The Assumptions 85
Other Gender and Sexuality Configurations 85
No, All Women Aren't Bi 86
Considerations with Two Straight Men 88
Chapter 11 How to Meet People for Threesomes 91
Becoming a Threesome Person 91
Becoming a Threesome Couple 93
Avoiding Culture Clash 94
What Are You Looking For? 97
Existing Friend(s) or Someone New? 99
Three Solo Folks 101
Clubs and Public Parties 102
Cruises and Retreats 104
Private Parties 104
Classes 106
Polyamory Meet-ups 107
Think Outside the Box 108
But What Do You Say? 108
Chapter 12 Threesome Interlude 111
Parallel Play 111
Chapter 13 Online Dating/App Options 115
Which Sites or Apps to Use 115
Profile Pictures 117
Profile Language 119
Couples' Profile Logistics 121
Word Choice 123
First Messages and Beyond 125
Send Nudes? 128
Chapter 14 Negotiation 131
Expectations, Boundaries, and Limits 131
Avoiding "Rules" 133
Turn-Ons and Turn-Offs 135
Logistics 136
Taking Breaks 138
Power Dynamics 140
Intoxication 141
Play Party Negotiation 143
Privacy 145
Chapter 15 Threesome Scenarios and Tips 147
First Meetings 147
Getting the Party Started 148
Three-Way Massage 150
Focusing on Inclusion 152
Center of Attention 154
Check-Ins During Play 154
Selfishness and Generosity 156
Plan for a Second Threesome 157
Imbalance of Attraction 158
Giving Lessons 158
Sex Games 159
Toys, Props, and Supplies 161
Making Sure Everyone Is Satisfied 165
The End of the Night 167
Engaging in New Kinds of Sex 167
Chapter 16 Positions 171
The Nitty-Gritty 171
Sweet Kisses 172
Mutual Masturbation-For Three 172
Side by Side 173
Doggy Plus Oral 174
Doggy Sandwich 175
Spit Roast 176
Eiffel Tower 177
Double Penetration 177
Double Straddle 179
Tag Team 180
Double Oral 181
The Oral Switch 183
Oral Sex Train 184
Daisy Train 185
Chain Link 185
The Math Equation 185
The Reverse Straddle+ 186
Spoons 187
Bukkake 187
The Voyeur 188
The Handmaiden 189
Taking Turns 190
Chapter 17 BDSM and Threesomes 191
How Does Kink Affect a Threesome? 191
Roles and Power Structures 192
Kink Parties 193
Shaking Up Couples' Dynamics 194
Possible Combinations 195
Good Guy/Bad Guy 196
Kinky Threesome 197
Chapter 18 Performance Issues 199
Don't Count on an Erection! 199
Don't Expect an Orgasm 201
Skill Set Anxiety 202
Comparisons and Insecurities 203
Chapter 19 Threesome Interlude 207
The Surprise Threesome 207
Chapter 20 Safer Sex 209
Having the Talk 209
Build Your Conversation 211
Multiple Players, Multiple Boundaries? 212
Barriers and Supplies 213
Safety Tips 216
Chapter 21 Common Pitfalls 219
Unexpected Feelings 219
Safer-Sex Slipups 220
Jealousy Threesome 221
Missing Communication 224
Jealousy 225
Crossed Boundaries 227
Treating People Like Merit Badges 229
Chapter 22 Flexibility, Improvisation, and Having A Plan B 233
Be Flexible 233
Restrictions and Changes Are a Blessing 234
Chapter 23 More than a Threesome? 235
Triads/Thrupples 235
Steady Play Partners 237
Swinging/Partner Swap 238
Group Sex 239
Chapter 24 Aftercare 243
What is Aftercare? 243
Check-Ins with All Parties 244
Post-Threesome Dates 244
Reconnection Time If There's an Existing Couple 245
Be Gentle with Yourself 246
Glossary 249
Resources 253
Threesome Yes/No/Maybe List 257
Endnotes 259