The Time Has Come: Why Men Must Join the Gender Equality Revolution

by Michael Kaufman

Overview

“For too long the struggle for the rights of women and girls was seen as women’s business. Of course, it’s equally men’s business and stops being such a struggle when it’s seen that way. This reframing gives us a chance to understand violence against women as deeply toxic for us all.” —Phumzile Mlambo-Ngcuka, UN Under-Secretary-General and Executive Director of UN Women



The Time Has Come explores how a patriarchal culture that has given power to men comes at a huge cost to women, children, and, surprisingly, to men as well.
It details how very achievable changes in our workplaces, in the ways we raise boys to be men, and in the movement to end men’s violence will bring significant rewards to communities all around the world.



Michael Kaufman is the cofounder of the White Ribbon Campaign—the largest international network of men working to end violence against women—and for decades has been an advisor on gender equality to the United Nations, governments, NGOs, schools, and workplaces around the world. With honest storytelling, compassion, and hard-hitting analysis, The Time Has Come is a compelling look at why men must take a stand in the fight for general equality.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781640091191
Publisher:	Catapult
Publication date:	01/15/2019
Pages:	272
Product dimensions:	5.80(w) x 8.30(h) x 1.10(d)

About the Author

MICHAEL KAUFMAN, PhD, is the cofounder of the White Ribbon Campaign, the largest international effort of men working to end violence against women. As an advisor and speaker, he has worked across North America and in fifty countries with the United Nations, governments, NGOs, and businesses. He is a senior fellow with Promundo, based in Washington, D.C. Kaufman is the author or editor of eight books.

Table of Contents

1 The Time Has Come 3

2 Listening to the Voices of Women 27

3 Men's Lives in a Male-Dominated World 41

4 The New 9 to 5: Pushing Hard for a Gender-Equal Economy 69

5 The Dad Shift: The Gender Equality Advantage of Fatherhood 103

6 Armistice Day: Men Can End the War Against Women 149

7 Gender Equality and Beyond 195

Appendix 1 An Action Guide to Engage Men 219

Appendix 2 Could Work to Engage Men Be: Against Women's Interests? 231

Appendix 3 Red Light, Green Light: A Fresh Approach to End Workplace Harassment 237

Acknowledgments 243

Endnotes 247

Editorial Reviews

01/31/2019

The cofounder of the White Ribbon Campaign and a member of the Canadian G7 Gender Equality Advisory Council directs a well-constructed argument toward his fellow men (particularly straight, white, middle-class men): that actively working for gender equity at personal, organizational, and societal levels is not only critical for human rights as a whole, but directly beneficial to men and their children. Kaufman (The Guy’s Guide to Feminism) begins with some basics: a discussion of privilege and how recognizing it begins by listening to women; a framing of the gendering of the brain as epigenetic and based in how parents teach infants gender stereotypes from birth; and an explanation of how unrealistic ideals of manhood limit men’s full expression as human beings. Kaufman’s biggest focus is on what he calls “the Dad Shift,” an acknowledgement that men are well-suited to be caregivers and that doing so improves outcomes for kids, leads to personal growth for men, challenges the undervaluation of traditional women’s work, and models equality for future generations. Kaufman is admirably careful not to take over the work of women and other marginalized people, focusing on educating and motivating his peers. This is a cogent, unusual call to action. Agent: Julia Lord, Julia Lord Literary Management. (Jan.)

Publishers Weekly

Praise for The Time Has Come

"[C]ritically important for our time and required reading for us all. I had a hard time putting it down – it's a great book." —Rosanna Arquette, Emmy-nominated actor

"For too long the struggle for the rights of women and girls was seen as women's business. Of course it's equally men's business and stops being such a struggle when it's seen that way. This reframing gives us a chance to understand violence against women as deeply toxic for us all." —Phumzile Mlambo-Ngcuka, UN Under-Secretary-General and Executive Director of UN Women

"An inspiring book loaded with wisdom and pragmatism. I strongly recommend this awesome book. COUNT ME IN!" —Ziauddin Yousafzai, Father of Nobel Prize winner Malala Yousafzai, Co-founder of the Malala Fund, United Nations Special Adviser on Global Education

"With a combination of compelling stories and facts, Michael Kaufman offers a timely and important case for engaging men in the ongoing fight for gender equality." —Deborah Gillis, President and CEO, Catalyst

"Michael Kaufman is among the most prominent male allies for social justice in the world today. In this new book he makes a more personal case to women —and men: gender equality is good for everyone! A vital and necessary book by one of the most visible activists and surest of guides." —Michael Kimmel, author of Angry White Men and Guyland

"Through personal stories, insights gleaned from decades of working to end gender-based violence, and practical advice for those men ready to step up to the plate, Kaufman has produced a special book. It will be an important guide to the many men now seeking ways to stop violence against women, to create a more nurturing and loving culture for all. Now especially, a major 'men's movement' is needed to counter the kind of male leadership that seems to encourage the very violence that continues to endanger our lives and well-being." —Judy Norsigian, co-creator, Our Bodies Ourselves

"Being a male feminist isn't an option. It's a requirement, a duty, and a calling. This is not a book about history. This is a book about the future, and a guide on how to get there. We all owe a debt of gratitude to Michael, not just for being the messenger, but for spending his life living the message." —Andy Dunn, Co-founder and CEO of Bonobos men's clothing stores

"[W]orld-changing and life-changing for women and for the men who make a stand." —Gary Barker, Founder and CEO of Promundo, Washington D.C. and member of the UN Secretary-General's Network of Men Leaders

Praise for The Guy's Guide to Feminism

"A relevant, inclusive, funny, and straight-to-the-point explanation of how and why feminism improves life for the male half of the world, too." —Gloria Steinem

"Feminism touches everyone, every day. Kaufman and Kimmel guide us through a conversation that is imperative in our society−and they do it with clarity and humor." —Donald McPherson, former NFL Quarterback and College Football Hall of Fame

"The Guy's Guide to Feminism is the book for guys on how to be more authentic and fight for a more just world." —Courtney E. Martin, author and editor at Feministing.com

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