The Sleep Lady's Good Night, Sleep Tight: Gentle Proven Solutions to Help Your Child Sleep Without Leaving Them to Cry it Out

by Kim West, Joanne Kenen (With)

Overview

The go-to guide to getting infants and toddlers to fall and stay asleep, completely revised and updated

Kim West, LCSW-C, known to her clients as The Sleep Lady®, has developed an alternative and effective approach to helping children learn to gently put themselves to sleep without letting them "cry it out" -- an option that is not comfortable for many parents.

Essential reading for any tired parent, or any expectant parent who wants to avoid the pitfalls of sleeplessness, Good Night, Sleep Tight offers a practical, easy-to-follow remedy that will work for all families in need of nights of peaceful slumber! New material and updates include:

• New yoga recommendations
• Updated information for parents of young infants
• Expanded information on nighttime potty training
• Ending co-sleeping
• Sleep training for twins and multiples

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780738286143
Publisher:	Hachette Books
Publication date:	03/10/2020
Sold by:	Hachette Digital, Inc.
Format:	eBook
Sales rank:	718,040
File size:	4 MB

About the Author

Kim West is a mom of two and a clinical social worker who has been a practicing child and family social worker for more than twenty years. Known to her clients as the Sleep Lady, she has helped tens of thousands of tired parents all over the world gently teach their children how to go to sleep and back to sleep. She started training Gentle Sleep Coaches internationally in 2010.

Table of Contents

1 What I Believe and Why 1

My Personal Journey Through Sleep Deprivation 3

The Sleep Lady's Proclamation 5

Single Moms, Single Dads, and Same-Sex Couples 13

An Important Note About How to Use This Book 13

Phase 1 of the Sleep Lady Method: Sleep Shaping

2 When Your Newborn Comes Home 17

Bonding with Your Baby 19

Getting Set Up for Success: Five Healthy Sleep Habits That Are Infant-Appropriate 21

Your Baby's Senses: Nature's Guide to the Inner Clock 28

3 Getting to Know Your Child 33

Attachment Parenting and Sleep Coaching 33

Emotional Availability 37

Understanding Tears 40

Your Child's Temperament 42

Developmental Milestones 46

4 The Science and Nature of Sleep 49

Sleep Cycles 50

Drowsy but Awake: The Secret Sauce of the Sleep Lady Shuffle 55

5 Prepping for Sleep-Coaching Success 59

6 The Sleep Lady Shuffle Step-by-Step 65

Phase 2 of the Sleep Lady Method: Age-By-Age Sleep Coaching with the Sleep Lady Shuffle

7 Six to Eight Months 75

8 Nine to Twelve Months 125

9 Thirteen to Eighteen Months 171

10 One and a Half to Two and a Half Years 227

11 Two and a Half to Five Years 273

Phase 3 of the Sleep Lady Method: Sleep Maintenance and Troubleshooting Through Ages and Stages

12 Making Choices About Co-Sleeping, Bed Sharing, and Room Sharing 331

13 Nightmares, Night Terrors, and Sleepwalking 357

14 Could Sleep Disturbances Be a Medical Condition? 367

15 Sleep Coaching for Sensory Processing Disorder, Spectrum Disorders, ADD, and ADHD 387

16 Routine Busters: Dealing with Travel, Illness, and Life's Other Disruptions 397

17 Yoga for the Whole Family: A Natural Way to Get Some Sleep 417

Appendix A The Sibling Factor: Can I Sleep Coach with Older or Younger Siblings Around? 429

Appendix B Postpartum Mood Disorder, Baby Blues, and Daddy Depression 437

Appendix C Safe Sleeping Recommendations for Babies 443

Index 449

About the Author 472

What People are Saying About This

From the Publisher

Parenting magazine
“GOOD NIGHT, SLEEP TIGHT is the first book of its kind to clearly explain why bedtime is such a challenge for so many kids and their parents, and to offer solutions that won’t torture anyone.”

Anthony E. Wolf Ph.D. Clinical Psychologist, author of It's Not Fair, Jeremy Spencer's Parents Let Him Stay Up All Night! and Get Out of My Life but First Could You Drive Me and Cheryl to the Mall? A Parent's Guide to the New Teenager
“Kim West and Joanne Kenen have written a book that can only be tremendously helpful for any parent. Ms. West has an amazing knowledge about children and sleep. She gives very specific, very clear and very do-able suggestions for virtually every sleep issue, and she knows what works. If a parent has a concern about any sleep problem with their child, this is the book that has the answers. I found it wonderfully helpful, and extremely readable."

Howard Bennett, M.D., author of Waking Up Dry: A Guide to Help Children Overcome Bedwetting
“A godsend for tired parents everywhere. I highly recommend this book to the parents of infants and young children who have a problem sleeper on their hands.”

Armin Brott, author of Father for Life
“Right after ‘boy or girl?’ the next question new parents often hear is ‘How’s he sleeping?’ After going through Kim West’s painless, practical, and easy-to-implement program, they’ll be able to honestly answer, ‘Like a baby.’ ”

Maureen O'Brien, Ph.D., author of Watch Me Grow: I'm One, Two, Three
" From yoga to co-sleeping to twins, West provides novel advice and practical methods to help parents make the best sleep choices for their family."

Dr. David Kessler, Dean of the School of Medicine and Vice Chancellor for Medical Affairs at University of California, San Francisco (UCSF)
“Parents and children alike should welcome this common sense, family-friendly guide to childhood sleep from birth to age five. This book will teach parents to gently start to shape a baby's sleep in infancy, sparing them the months or even years of sleep-deprivation that so many families endure.”

from the Foreword of GOOD NIGHT, SLEEP TIGHT, Faith A. Hackett, M.S. Fellow of the American Academy of Pediatrics, Courtesy Staff Physician, Johns Hopkins Hospital Staff Physician, Anne Arundel Medical Center
“For all the parents who have lost countless hours of sleep trying the tough love approach of letting the baby cry it out, this book comes as a wonderful, informative reprieve…. I’ve been looking for a definitive how-to book on sleep that I can recommend without reservation. GOOD NIGHT, SLEEP TIGHT is that book.”

Richard & Shirley Viscarello, Perinatologist and Nurse Practitioner, Maternal Fetal Care, PC, Stamford, CT.
“We unknowingly created our daughter’s sleep problems by never ‘teaching’ her how to put herself to sleep…. The ‘no cry’ solution didn’t work, and letting her ‘cry it out’ was never an option. How could we ask our child to solve the problem by herself that we had created? With Kim’s knowledge and thoughtful, caring approach, we were able to gently empower Sophia to put herself to sleep. Kim has an amazing gift to share and we tell all of our OB patients about her!”

Cleveland Plain Dealer
“West offers ways to soothe both parents and baby…. [GOOD NIGHT, SLEEP TIGHT] is handily divided into age groups, with suggestions for good sleep patterns beginning at birth…. [It’s] helpful to have it organized in one book.”

Editorial Reviews

In this expanded edition, first published in 2004, child and family therapist West (aka “The Sleep Lady”) further explores the ways parents can teach their infants and toddlers the indispensable skill of falling and staying asleep. West has added the latest pediatric research on sleep safety, pacifier use, and breastfeeding, as well as expanded sections on toddler naps, interpreting newborn cries, and phasing out nighttime feedings. She has also included sections on bedtime baby yoga poses, a chapter on room sharing and bed sharing (encouraging parents to carefully assess their attitudes before making a decision on whether to co-sleep) and postpartum depression. West eschews the “cry it out” approach, which may leave parents feeling guilty and exhausted. Instead, her “Sleep Lady Shuffle” is a gentle behavior modification technique that helps babies gradually master solo sleeping and self-soothing. The author covers such general sleep tips as creating a sleep-friendly environment and using “loveys,” and then offers individual chapters addressing various age groups from newborn to five; readers can readily find information pertinent to their particular child and situation. In this detailed guide, West advises parents to practice patience and consistency, and maintain a united front as they lull their baby into slumber land. (Jan.)

Publishers Weekly

from the Foreword of GOOD NIGHT, SLEEP TIGHT, Faith A. Hackett, M.S. Fellow of the American Academy of Pediatrics, Courtesy Staff Physician, Johns Hopkins Hospital Staff Physician, Anne Arundel Medical Center
“For all the parents who have lost countless hours of sleep trying the tough love approach of letting the baby cry it out, this book comes as a wonderful, informative reprieve…. I’ve been looking for a definitive how-to book on sleep that I can recommend without reservation. GOOD NIGHT, SLEEP TIGHT is that book.”

Father for Life
“Right after ‘boy or girl?’ the next question new parents often hear is ‘How’s he sleeping?’ After going through Kim West’s painless, practical, and easy-to-implement program, they’ll be able to honestly answer, ‘Like a baby.’ ”

Maureen O'Brien, Ph.D., author of Watch Me Grow: I'm One, Two, Three
" From yoga to co-sleeping to twins, West provides novel advice and practical methods to help parents make the best sleep choices for their family."

Dr. David Kessler, Dean of the School of Medicine and Vice Chancellor for Medical Affairs at University of California, San Francisco (UCSF)
“Parents and children alike should welcome this common sense, family-friendly guide to childhood sleep from birth to age five. This book will teach parents to gently start to shape a baby's sleep in infancy, sparing them the months or even years of sleep-deprivation that so many families endure.”

Parenting magazine
“GOOD NIGHT, SLEEP TIGHT is the first book of its kind to clearly explain why bedtime is such a challenge for so many kids and their parents, and to offer solutions that won’t torture anyone.”

Anthony E. Wolf Ph.D. Clinical Psychologist, author of It's Not Fair, Jeremy Spencer's Parents Let Him Stay Up All Night! and Get Out of My Life but First Could You Drive Me and Cheryl to the Mall? A Parent's Guide to the New Teenager
“Kim West and Joanne Kenen have written a book that can only be tremendously helpful for any parent. Ms. West has an amazing knowledge about children and sleep. She gives very specific, very clear and very do-able suggestions for virtually every sleep issue, and she knows what works. If a parent has a concern about any sleep problem with their child, this is the book that has the answers. I found it wonderfully helpful, and extremely readable."

Howard Bennett, M.D., author of Waking Up Dry: A Guide to Help Children Overcome Bedwetting
“A godsend for tired parents everywhere. I highly recommend this book to the parents of infants and young children who have a problem sleeper on their hands.”

Armin Brott, author of

From the Publisher