Table of Contents
Introduction 1
Chapter 1 Self-Love 4
Defining Self-Love 4
The Importance of Self-Love 5
Self-Love for Teenagers 8
What Self-Love Isn't 10
Obstacles in Self-Love 11
Roadblocks to Self-Love 14
Preparing for Your Journey 14
Seven Segments of Self-Love 16
Chapter 2 Self-Awareness 18
All My Feels 19
Emotional Awareness 20
Emotional Equations 21
Emotional Intelligence 22
Intentionality 24
Mindfulness 25
Self-Knowledge 27
Highlighting Strengths 28
Finding Blind Spots 29
Feedback 30
Chapter 3 Self-Exploration 33
Getting to Know You 34
The Independent Interview 37
My Story 36
My Mission Statement 40
Cultural Exploration 42
Inner Conflict 43
Exploring Inner Conflict 44
Creative Exploration 45
Chapter 4 Self-Care 47
Fill Your Cup 48
Your Wellness 49
Your Wellness Domains 50
My Current Wellness 51
Current and Goal 53
Striving for Balance 54
100 Self-Care Strategies 54
Creative Self-Care 56
My Wellness Plan 58
Listening to Your Emotions 60
Coping Toolkit 62
Mandala 64
Journaling 65
My Comfort Zone 66
Self-Love Date 67
Exploring My Support System 68
Boring Self-Care 69
Challenging Self-Care 70
Chapter 5 Self-Esteem 72
Acknowledging My Worth 74
My Personal Qualities 75
Positive, Negative, or Neutral 75
Confident People 76
Exploring My Confidence 77
How Confident Am I? 78
Understanding Self-Efficacy 79
My Self-Efficacy 80
Role Models 81
My Inner Dialogue 82
Unhelpful Thinking 83
Challenging Unhelpful Thinking 83
Trash Toss 86
Petal Power: Improving Positive Self-Talk 88
Building Blocks 90
Motivational Messages 91
Encouragers 91
Inspirational Quotes 92
Affirmations 93
Send Yourself an Email 95
Chapter 6 Self-Kindness 97
Nice Notes 98
Body-Kindness 99
Listen to Your Heart 99
Selfie-Love 101
Making Healthy Choices 101
The Bully Versus the Friend 102
Room for Growth 105
The Gracious Gap 107
Filling in the Gap 108
Setback Slingshot 109
Self-Patience 110
Embracing Imperfection 111
Perfect 111
Self-Acceptance 112
Self-Forgiveness 113
Practicing Self-Forgiveness 114
Gifts of Gratitude 116
Chapter 7 Self-Respect 118
Values 119
Core Values 121
Congruence 124
Honoring My Values 125
The Many Hats We Wear 131
My Hat Collection 131
Boundary Ranges 133
Boundary Levels 135
Your Remote Control 137
Assertiveness 138
Testing Boundaries 139
Tips to Build Better Boundaries 140
Boundaries with Bullies 143
Healthy Relationships 144
Improving My Support System 146
Forgiveness 148
Apologies 149
Chapter 8 Self-Growth 152
The Perfect Peppered Moth 153
Hopes and Dreams 154
Visualization 154
Vision Board 155
Setting Self-Loving Goals 158
Career Planning 159
SMART Goals 161
Create SMART Goals 162
Short-Term and Long-Term Goals 163
Brainstorm Your Future Aspirations 163
30-Day Self-Love Challenge 164
30-Day Challenge 165
My Self-Growth Map 166
Self-Growth Map Reflections 167
Handling Setbacks 169
The Hidden Gift in Challenges 170
Applying a Silver Lining 172
Learned Lessons 172
My Support System 173
Who Supports Your Self-Growth? 174
Giving and Growing 176
Paying It Forward 177
Lifetime Learner 177
Mental Wellness 179
Bibliography 182
Acknowledgments 187
About the Author 188