The Revolutionary Art of Changing Your Heart: The essential guide to recharging your relationship

by Andrew Fuller

Overview

Are you stuck in a relationship rut? Do you feel like you're at the end of your tether with your significant other? Perhaps you're looking for love and you don't know how to attract it. Clinical psychologist Andrew Fuller is here to show you how the revolutionary art of changing your heart can also change your life for the better.

Using the CPR model developed by Andrew Fuller, you can learn the importance of being Connected, Protected and Respected. In a love relationship each partner should feel these things - yet it can be difficult to sustain amidst a busy life in a busy world.

Andrew explains and teaches all you need to know to change your heart. Includes:
· understanding attraction
· knowing how relationships work
· the five values that underpin all successful relationships
· who not to fall in love with
· being the lover your partner wants to be with
· helping your partner become the lover you love to be with.

The Revolutionary Art of Changing Your Heart provides an accessible set of tools for people concerned about their relationship as well as for those wanting to create a more positive relationship.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780733642166
Publisher:	Hachette Australia
Publication date:	07/21/2020
Pages:	256
Product dimensions:	6.00(w) x 9.25(h) x 0.75(d)

About the Author

Andrew Fuller began his career as a clinical psychologist in psychiatric crisis teams, working with people who were often contemplating ending their lives. The reason for their despair was frequently the loss or breakup of a relationship. Fortunately, all were helped beyond this state. This inspired Andrew to work with people to create futures they can fall in love with. He is an Honorary Fellow at the University of Melbourne.

Table of Contents

Introduction: As you love, so you will be 1

Part 1 The eight-step relationship recharge

Step 1 Assess the pulse of your relationship 9

Step 2 Connect: Breathe new life into worn-out patterns - linking and syncing 13

Connect to yourself 13

What type of partner are you? 15

Know what you are looking for 26

Understanding attraction 28

What type of attachment do you create? 35

Life lessons in love 49

Pulse report 51

Step 3 Assess the pulse of your relationship 53

Step 4 Protect: Heart-starters for a better relationship and a better way of being 55

Changing your relationship language 58

Know how relationships work 61

The key to successful relationships 68

Pulse report 89

Step 5 Assess the pulse of your relationship 91

Step 6 Respect: Stabilise and continue gains 95

Care, maintenance and rebuilding 95

Connecting 99

Arguing fairly and respectfully 105

Pulse report 120

Step 7 Assess the pulse of your relationship 123

Step 8 Ongoing care: Live the love-filled life 125

Why issues and arguments become 'loopy': Ladder climbers and tapestry weavers 125

Who not to fall in love with 132

Being the person your partner wants to love 137

Helping your partner become the person you love to be with 145

The fine art of friendship 145

Part 2 Relationship essentials

CPR for women and men: Revolutionising the messages from your past 151

The lies your ancestors told you about love 152

The revolutionary invitation 163

The love-filled live: Keeping up a culture of care 167

Forming 169

Storming 171

Norming 173

Performing 174

Ending 174

The break-up recovery guide 177

Recovering from hurt 178

How to fall back in love 183

How to make a decision about a relationship 187

PICCA - a decision-making guide 188

How not to get divorced 195

Respect 197

Conclusion: Into a life of kindness and caring 205

Appendix: Dealing with dangerous relationships 207

What are the warning signs? 208

Relationship choices 211

Notes 229

Bibliography 231

Acknowledgements 239