The Relationship Rescue Workbook: Exercises and Self-Tests to Help You Reconnect with Your Partner

by Phillip C. McGraw PhD

Overview

The ideal companion book to the #1 New York Times bestseller

Ever since Relationship Rescue became an instant number one New York Times hardcover bestseller, Phil McGraws audiences have been asking for a workbook to help them apply his strategies for change to their relationships. Now, in The Relationship Rescue Workbook, Dr. Phil, Oprah's resident expert on human functioning, provides questions, exercises and self-tests that will enable couples in even the most troubled relationships to get their love lives back on track. And for those in solid relationships who would like to regain their spark, he reveals how to make that happen. He shows readers exactly how to pinpoint problems in their relationships, and how to make sure that the changes they enact will truly last. His straightforward, tell-it-like-it-is advice is made crystal clear in this easy-to-use workbook that is sure to prove immensely popular with his devoted national following.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780786886043
Publisher:	Hachette Books
Publication date:	10/18/2000
Pages:	287
Sales rank:	369,013
Product dimensions:	7.20(w) x 9.10(h) x 0.80(d)
Age Range:	13 - 18 Years

About the Author

Dr. Phil McGraw is the author of five #1 New York Times bestsellers: Life Strategies: Doing What Works, Doing What Matters; Relationship Rescue: A Seven-Step Strategy for Reconnecting with Your Partner; Self Matters: Creating Your Life From the Inside Out; The Ultimate Weight Solution: The Seven Keys to Weight Loss Freedom, and his most recent book, Family First: Your Step-by-Step Plan for Creating a Phenomenal Family. He is also the author of the New York Times bestseller The Ultimate Weight Solution Coookbook: Recipes For Weight Loss Freedom as well as The Ultimate Weight Solution Food Guide. His books have been published in 37 languages with over 22 million copies in print. Dr. Phil has a B.S, M.A. and Ph.D. in clinical psychology from North Texas State University with a dual area of emphasis in clinical and behavioral medicine. He has been a board-certified and licensed clinical psychologist since 1978, and appears on his nationally syndicated daily one-hour series, Dr. Phil. He lives in Los Angeles with Robin, his wife of 28 years, and their two sons, Jay and Jordan.

Table of Contents

prologue: get real---reconnecting with your core
The Best People
Ina Perfect World, Who Are You?
In Reality, What Are You Doing?
Negative Voices
What Do You Think All Day?
The Happiest Time of My Life
A Personal Vision
Act on It!

it's your time; it's your turn
Dr. Phil's Relationship Stress Test
What's Your Part?
What's the Payoff?
A Self-Analysis
Your Bag of Tricks
Test Your Readiness
Project Status

defining the problem
Personal Concepts Profile
Relationship Health Profile
General Relationship Problem Profile
Specific Relationship Problem Profile
The Relationship Behavior Profile: Your Partner
The Relationship Behavior Profile: You
Your Relationship Lifestyle Profile
Relationship Communication Test
Chemistry Test
The Five Tough Questions

blowing up the myths
Myth #1: A Meeting of the Minds
The "Natural"Fit
The "Adjusted"Fit
"Thanks for the Differences..."
Myth #2: A Great Romance
Falling in Love
Being in Love
Myth #3: Great Problem Solving
What Are We Fighting About?
I Think...I Feel
Myth #4: Common Interests that Bond You Together Forever
A Wish List
Reality Check
Myth #5: A Peaceful Relationship
The Rules of the Ring
Simmer, Spew, or Blow the Lid Off
Myth #6: The Complete Venting of Feelings
What's Your Style?
What's Your Partner's Style?
Ping-Pong
Myth #7: Nothing to Do with Sex
Just the Facts
Once Upon a Time
Chemical Reactions
Myth #8: You Cannot Survive a Flawed Partner
If I Were You...
Myth #9: A Right Way and a Wrong Way
The "Perfect Couple"
Myth #10: When You Get Your Partner Straightened Out
Mirror, Mirror

eliminating your bad spirit
Characteristic #1: You're a Scorekeeper
Characteristic #2: You're a Fault Finder
Characteristic #3: You Think It's Your Way or the Highway
Characteristic #4: You Turn into an Attack Dog
Characteristic #5: You Are a Passive Warmonger
Characteristic #6: You Resort to Smoke and Mirrors
Characteristic #7: You Will Not Forgive
Characteristic #8: You Are the Bottomless Pit
Characteristic #9: You're Too Comfortable
Characteristic #10: You've Given Up
Adding It Up

reclaiming your core---the personal relationship values
Personal Relationship Value #1: Own Your Relationship
"Whine Warning"
Quiz
Personal Statement
Personal Relationship Value #2: Accept the Risk of Vulnerability
"I'm Afraid that..."
"What If...?"
"And Then I Would..."
Personal Relationship Value #3: Accept Your Partner
Inventory 1: My Top Ten Partner Gripes
Inventory 2: My Partner's Top Twenty Positives
The Whine Ratio
Personal Relationship Value #4: Focus on the Friendship
What I Want in a Friend
What I Am as a Friend
My Partner as a Friend
Personal Relationship Value #5: Promote Your Partner's Self-Esteem
The Honor Roll
Personal Relationship Value #6: Aim Your Frustrations in the Right Direction
Frustration Log
Personal Relationship Value #7: Be Up-Front and Forthright
"I Put up My Dukes when..."
"I'd Rather Cover Up Because..."
Personal Relationship Value #8: Make Yourself Happy Rather than Right
Your Righteousness Quotient
"Just Suppose..."
Personal Relationship Value #9: Allow Your Relationship to Transcend Turmoil
"Or Else!"
Personal Relationship Value #10: Put Motion into Your Emotion
Love Action
Action Assignment
Report Card
Personal Relationship Value Reminder

the formula for success
Are You Ready?
Write Your Own Definitions
Job #1: Make Your Needs Know