Table of Contents
Who Is This Book For?/How to Read This Book xi
Introduction xiii
1 It's a Woman's World. You're Just Working in It 1
Women in the Workforce 1
Fear of Women in the Workplace 3
Executives in the Hot Seat 4
2 How Did We Get Here? 9
The Origins of Workplace Harassment 10
How Did Official Laws Come to Exist? 10
The Boundaries of Harassment 11
3 The Pendulum Has Swung Too Far 13
The Unintended Consequences of #MeToo 13
False Accusations 15
Men Face Harassment and Discrimination Too 17
A Backlash Is Brewing 18
The Artless War on Men 20
4 Let Mars Be Mars and Venus Be Venus 23
Our Gender Differences 25
What Is Her Body Telling You? 26
What Is Your Body Telling Her? 28
Comfort with the Opposite Sex 29
5 Building Relationships across the Gender Divide 33
The Art of Small Talk 35
The Value of a Smile 38
The Business Meal 40
Awkward Situations 42
6 Surviving and Thriving with a Female Boss 45
How Should You Behave? 47
Greet Everyone the Same 48
Essential Manners for Men 49
You Can't Please Everyone 51
7 Communication is Your Key to Success 53
It's Not What You Say, It's How You Say it 55
Fishing for Compliments 57
Female Translations 59
Unprofessional Communication 60
The Humor Advantage 61
8 What Women Want at Work 65
What Women Don't Want 66
Listening to One Another 68
Make Eye Contact 69
Appreciation 71
9 Romance in the Office 73
You're Dating Your Coworker. Now What? 76
Human Resources Protects the Company, Not You 78
Coming Soon: More Anti-Harassment Training 82
10 The Secret Rules to Successfully Work with Women 85
The Secret Rules 86
#1 Keep Communication Professional 86
#2 Respect Personal Space 87
#3 Eat Out in Groups 88
#4 Give Neutral Compliments 88
#5 Make Proper Introductions 89
#6 Keep the Door Open during Meetings 89
#7 Think Before You Speak 90
#8 Dress for Success 90
#9 Hold the Door for Everyone 91
#10 Give a Consistent Handshake 91
#11 Listen Actively 92
#12 Treat Everyone with Respect 93
#13 Find Commonalities 93
11 The Seven Deadly Sins on the Job 95
#1 Not Thinking before You Speak 97
#2 Inappropriate Touching 98
#3 Bullying 98
#4 Making Inappropriate Jokes 99
#5 Disrespecting Privacy 100
#6 Excessive Drinking at Happy Hour 101
#7 Using Terms of Endearment 102
12 How to Protect Yourself 103
Don't Ruffle Feathers 104
A Little Advice 105
Sexual Harassment Cases Rarely Succeed in Court 106
Pyrrhic Victories 107
13 Playing the Corporate Gentleman Part 109
A Man's Corporate Style 109
The Skirt Length Theory 112
Underwear and Haircuts 113
Avoid the Pitfalls of Business Casual 113
Corporate Dress Code Policy 114
Mix it Up 115
14 Corporate Etiquette for Men 117
Elevate Your Pitch 118
Mind Your P's and Q's 119
Check Your Ego 120
No Bullying Allowed 121
15 Influencing Your Corporate Culture 123
Influencing Culture as an Employee 125
Influencing Culture as a Manager 126
"Toxic Masculinity" in the Workplace 128
Microaggressions and Unconscious Bias 130
Conflict Management 134
Connect on an Emotional Level 135
16 How Your Employer Can Help You 137
Human Resources Empowerment 138
How an Employer Can Help Employees 139
17 Peaceful Coexistence in the Inclusive Workplace 145
Gender Preferences Are Changing 146
Sexism Is on the Decline 147
A Fair Shot 148
You Have the Power 149
18 What's Next for the Modern Corporate World? 153
Distracted in a Digital World 154
Working Remotely 156
The Flip Side of Technology Advancements 159
Consequences of the 24-7 Workplace 161
Employees Seek Comfort in the Office 164
19 Conclusion 167
Importance of Recognition 167
Inclusion Best Practices 169
Thriving in the Workplace of the Future 170
Recap 175
Epilogue 177
Acknowledgments 181
Endnotes 183
Index 199
About the Author 207
