"The Jealousy Cure unlocks the positive power of jealousy for happy relationships."—Foreword Reviews "Solid counsel for those whose relationships are plagued by jealousy and the individuals it targets." —Library Journal starred reviewCould jealousy be a positive thing? In this groundbreaking book, Robert L. Leahy—author of the hugely popular self-help guide, The Worry Cure—invites you to gain a greater understanding of your jealous feelings, keep jealousy from hijacking your life, and create healthier relationships.
We’ve all heard tales of the overly jealous spouse or significant other. Maybe we’ve even been that jealous person, though we may not want to admit it. It’s hard to imagine anyone sailing through life without either having feelings of jealousy or being the target of someone’s jealousy. But what if jealousy isn’t just a neurotic weakness? What if it signals that your relationship matters to you? In short—what if jealousy serves a purpose?
In The Jealousy Cure, renowned psychologist Robert L. Leahy takes a more nuanced approach to tackling feelings of jealousy. In this compelling book, you’ll uncover the evolutionary origins of jealousy, and how and why it’s served to help us as a species. You’ll also learn practices based in emotional schema theory, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), and mindfulness to help you overcome the shame jealousy can bring, improve communication with your partner, and ultimately make room for jealousy while also making your relationship more meaningful. You will learn that confronting jealousy in your relationship does not have to be a catastrophe, but can redirect you and your partner to build more trust, acceptance, and connection.
We often feel jealous because we fear losing the things or people that matter to us the most. With this insightful guide, you’ll discover how jealousy can both help and hurt your relationship, and learn proven-effective skills to keep jealousy in its place.This book has been selected as an Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies Self-Help Book Recommendation— an honor bestowed on outstanding self-help books that are consistent with cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) principles and that incorporate scientifically tested strategies for overcoming mental health difficulties. Used alone or in conjunction with therapy, our books offer powerful tools readers can use to jump-start changes in their lives.
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About the Author
Table of ContentsForeword v Introduction 1 Part I: About the Passion of Jealousy 1. The Evolution of Competitive Emotions 9 2. Is Jealousy a Problem for You? 21 3. Attachment and Commitment 29 Part II: How Jealousy Becomes a Problem 4. Hijacked by the Jealous Mind 49 5. Jealous Strategies That Drive Your Partner Away 75 Part III: Turning Jealousy Around 6. Stepping Back to Observe and Accept 93 7. Living with Your Thoughts 109 8. Talking Back to Your Jealousy 131 9. Putting Jealousy in Context 157 10. Solving It Together 167 11. Getting Past the Past to Overcome Retrospective Jealousy 189 12. “It’s Complicated”—Getting Past Infidelity 205 Concluding Reflections 225 Acknowledgments 229 Notes 231
Leahy resides in New York, NY; Gilbert resides in Derby, UK.