07/03/2017
Rubin (The Happiness Project) sorts personalities into four “tendencies”—upholders, questioners, obligers, and rebels—according to people’s motivations for undertaking actions in this breezy but unconvincing work of pop psychology. Each tendency gets two separate chapters devoted to understanding and dealing with people with a specific trait. There’s even a Venn diagram and brief, if arbitrary, quiz. The simplicity of the profiles is comforting, but the science is questionable. The author commissioned a survey and uses anecdotal evidence to bolster the framework’s worth, but her attempts to find proof smack of confirmation bias. The author diagnoses her friends and social-media followers using her framework, sometimes sounding wise, at other times smug. Supposedly there’s no hierarchy to the tendencies, but the author, an upholder, can’t quite hide her preference for her own tendency, with her husband’s questioner tendency running a near second. Even the author admits that personality frameworks can’t “capture human nature in all of its depth and variety,” but nevertheless argues for utilizing her ideas to improve one’s life. In its best moments, the book reminds readers that not everyone approaches the world from the same perspective. Agent: Christy Fletcher, Fletcher and Co. (Sept.)
NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER ¿ Are you an Upholder, a Questioner, an Obliger, or a Rebel?*From the*author of Better Than Before and The Happiness Project comes a groundbreaking analysis of personality type that “will immediately improve every area of your life” (Melissa Urban, co-founder of the Whole30).
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During her multibook investigation into human nature, Gretchen Rubin realized that by asking the seemingly dry question “How do I respond to expectations?” we gain explosive self-knowledge. She discovered that based on their answer, people fit into Four Tendencies:
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¿ Upholders meet outer and inner expectations readily. “Discipline is my freedom.”
¿ Questioners meet inner expectations, but meet outer expectations only if they make sense. “If you convince me why, I'll comply.”
¿ Obligers (the largest Tendency) meet outer expectations, but struggle to meet inner expectations-therefore, they need outer accountability to meet inner expectations. “You can count on me, and I'm counting on you to count on me.”
¿ Rebels (the smallest group) resist all expectations, outer and inner alike. They do what they choose to do, when they choose to do it, and typically they don't tell themselves what to do. “You can't make me, and neither can I.”
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Our Tendency shapes every aspect of our behavior, so using this framework allows us to make better decisions, meet deadlines, suffer less stress, and engage more effectively.*It's far easier to succeed when you know what works for you.
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With sharp insight, compelling research, and hilarious examples, The Four Tendencies will help you get happier, healthier, more productive, and more creative.
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During her multibook investigation into human nature, Gretchen Rubin realized that by asking the seemingly dry question “How do I respond to expectations?” we gain explosive self-knowledge. She discovered that based on their answer, people fit into Four Tendencies:
*
¿ Upholders meet outer and inner expectations readily. “Discipline is my freedom.”
¿ Questioners meet inner expectations, but meet outer expectations only if they make sense. “If you convince me why, I'll comply.”
¿ Obligers (the largest Tendency) meet outer expectations, but struggle to meet inner expectations-therefore, they need outer accountability to meet inner expectations. “You can count on me, and I'm counting on you to count on me.”
¿ Rebels (the smallest group) resist all expectations, outer and inner alike. They do what they choose to do, when they choose to do it, and typically they don't tell themselves what to do. “You can't make me, and neither can I.”
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Our Tendency shapes every aspect of our behavior, so using this framework allows us to make better decisions, meet deadlines, suffer less stress, and engage more effectively.*It's far easier to succeed when you know what works for you.
*
With sharp insight, compelling research, and hilarious examples, The Four Tendencies will help you get happier, healthier, more productive, and more creative.
The Four Tendencies: The Indispensable Personality Profiles That Reveal How to Make Your Life Better (and Other People's Lives Better, Too)
NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER ¿ Are you an Upholder, a Questioner, an Obliger, or a Rebel?*From the*author of Better Than Before and The Happiness Project comes a groundbreaking analysis of personality type that “will immediately improve every area of your life” (Melissa Urban, co-founder of the Whole30).
*
During her multibook investigation into human nature, Gretchen Rubin realized that by asking the seemingly dry question “How do I respond to expectations?” we gain explosive self-knowledge. She discovered that based on their answer, people fit into Four Tendencies:
*
¿ Upholders meet outer and inner expectations readily. “Discipline is my freedom.”
¿ Questioners meet inner expectations, but meet outer expectations only if they make sense. “If you convince me why, I'll comply.”
¿ Obligers (the largest Tendency) meet outer expectations, but struggle to meet inner expectations-therefore, they need outer accountability to meet inner expectations. “You can count on me, and I'm counting on you to count on me.”
¿ Rebels (the smallest group) resist all expectations, outer and inner alike. They do what they choose to do, when they choose to do it, and typically they don't tell themselves what to do. “You can't make me, and neither can I.”
*
Our Tendency shapes every aspect of our behavior, so using this framework allows us to make better decisions, meet deadlines, suffer less stress, and engage more effectively.*It's far easier to succeed when you know what works for you.
*
With sharp insight, compelling research, and hilarious examples, The Four Tendencies will help you get happier, healthier, more productive, and more creative.
*
During her multibook investigation into human nature, Gretchen Rubin realized that by asking the seemingly dry question “How do I respond to expectations?” we gain explosive self-knowledge. She discovered that based on their answer, people fit into Four Tendencies:
*
¿ Upholders meet outer and inner expectations readily. “Discipline is my freedom.”
¿ Questioners meet inner expectations, but meet outer expectations only if they make sense. “If you convince me why, I'll comply.”
¿ Obligers (the largest Tendency) meet outer expectations, but struggle to meet inner expectations-therefore, they need outer accountability to meet inner expectations. “You can count on me, and I'm counting on you to count on me.”
¿ Rebels (the smallest group) resist all expectations, outer and inner alike. They do what they choose to do, when they choose to do it, and typically they don't tell themselves what to do. “You can't make me, and neither can I.”
*
Our Tendency shapes every aspect of our behavior, so using this framework allows us to make better decisions, meet deadlines, suffer less stress, and engage more effectively.*It's far easier to succeed when you know what works for you.
*
With sharp insight, compelling research, and hilarious examples, The Four Tendencies will help you get happier, healthier, more productive, and more creative.
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BN ID: | 2940172166563 |
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Publisher: | Penguin Random House |
Publication date: | 09/12/2017 |
Edition description: | Unabridged |
Sales rank: | 1,061,089 |
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