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The Everything Parent's Guide to Raising Your Adopted Child: A complete handbook to welcoming your adopted child into your heart and home
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by Corrie Lynn Player, Brette Sember, Mary C Owen
Corrie Lynn Player
The Everything Parent's Guide to Raising Your Adopted Child: A complete handbook to welcoming your adopted child into your heart and home
304
by Corrie Lynn Player, Brette Sember, Mary C Owen
Corrie Lynn Player
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Domestic or international? Baby or older child? A child with special needs? The number of decisions you will need to make when deciding to adopt can at times seem overwhelming. The Everything® Parent’s Guide to Raising Your Adopted Child offers all the information any potential or newly adoptive parent might need. Parenting expert and adoptive parent Corrie Lynne Player has interviewed hundreds of adoptive parents and presents a cross-section of age, ethnicity, and cultural backgrounds to help you make the most informed decisions. This essential guidebook is packed with reassuring advice on how to handle the most common issues, including:
-Questions to ask before adopting
-Bonding techniques for each age group—from newborn to teenager
-Adopting children with physiological or psychological special needs
-Adopting outside your ethnic group
-Navigating international adoptions
-Fielding difficult questions about your adopted child’s birth parents
-Helping your adopted child cope with feelings of loss and abandonment
With this book by your side, you will bond with your child for a lifetime!
-Questions to ask before adopting
-Bonding techniques for each age group—from newborn to teenager
-Adopting children with physiological or psychological special needs
-Adopting outside your ethnic group
-Navigating international adoptions
-Fielding difficult questions about your adopted child’s birth parents
-Helping your adopted child cope with feelings of loss and abandonment
With this book by your side, you will bond with your child for a lifetime!
Product Details
ISBN-13: | 9781605507989 |
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Publisher: | Adams Media |
Publication date: | 08/17/2008 |
Series: | Everything® Parenting Guide Series |
Sold by: | SIMON & SCHUSTER |
Format: | eBook |
Pages: | 304 |
File size: | 932 KB |
About the Author
Brette McWhorter Sember, JD (Clarence, NY), is the author of the children’s book Quiz Book 3: Three Times the Fun. Sember has also taught an online course for Barnes and Noble University called Responsible Credit Card Spending. The mother of two children, Sember is a member of the Society of Children’s Book Writers and Illustrators (SCBWI). A former attorney, she also has had extensive experience working with children in her role as a law guardian in four counties in New York.
Table of Contents
Introduction xiii
Is Adoption Right for You? 1
Deciding to Adopt 1
Finding the Right Adoption Experience for You 4
Assess Your Emotional and Physical Status 6
Understanding Adoption 9
Adoption Has Become More Accessible 12
Growing Areas of Adoption 15
Adoption by Grandparents or Extended Family 15
Older Siblings Adopting Younger Siblings 17
Adoption by Stepparents 20
Adoption by Single Parents 22
Adoption by Older Parents 24
Adoption by Same-Sex Couples 26
Preparing for Adoption 27
Prepare Yourself and Your Family Emotionally 27
Preparing Existing Children 29
Meeting the Legal Requirements of Adoption 31
Preparing Yourself Financially 34
Finding the Right Child for You 36
Open Versus Closed Adoptions 41
Ramifications for Children and Families 41
What Open Adoption Means 42
What Closed Adoption Means 45
Making an Informed Choice 46
Gather Information, No Matter What 47
Emotional Considerations for Making a Decision 48
Explaining Your Decision to Family and Friends 49
Studies and Legal Changes on Open Adoptions 52
Adoption Outside Your Ethnic Group 53
The Implications of Race Versus Culture 53
Culture Plays a Major Role in Child Development 54
Good News about Transracial Adoption 55
Think about Your Own Motives 56
Attitudes and Pressure from Relatives 57
Strategies For Parenting a Racially Different Child 58
Claiming Rituals 61
Develop Your Child's Social Skills 62
The Ultimate Responsibility Rests with You 64
International Adoptions 65
Deciding to Adopt Internationally 65
Choosing a Country 66
Selecting and Working with Adoption Professionals 68
Dealing with Other Languages and Cultures 69
Dealing with Foreign Bureaucracies 70
Preparing to Bring Your Child into the United States 71
Handling the Interminable Waiting 72
Helping Your Child Adjust 74
Integrating Your Child into the Family 75
If Things Fall Through 78
Adopting Through the Foster Care System 83
Various Forms of Foster Care 83
Prepare Yourself Emotionally 84
Licensing and Training 86
Learning a New Paradigm 88
Preparing Your Family for a Child from Foster Care 88
Understanding the Needs You May Face 91
Addressing Community Resistance to Foster Children 92
Establishing a Flexible Mindset 93
Creating Routines and Family Time 95
Finding Support 97
Adoption of Infants and Toddlers 101
Bringing Your Child Home 101
Setting Up a Nursery 103
Plan to Take Care of Yourself 106
Bonding Techniques for Babies 107
Bonding Techniques for Toddlers 110
Addressing the Adoption 114
Important Recordkeeping Tips 115
Adoption of Preschool Children 117
Preparing Before the Placement 117
If Your Child Starts Acting Out 120
Calming Preschoolers' Common Fears 123
Meeting Your Preschooler's Unique Challenges 126
Understand and Respect Your Child's History 128
Important Recordkeeping Tips 129
Adoption of Elementary School-Aged Children 131
Preparing Before the Placement 131
Acting Out 134
Calming Fears 137
Meeting Your Elementary-Aged Child's Unique Challenges 140
Help Others Understand Your Child's Behavior 142
Dealing with School Issues 143
Recordkeeping 145
Adoption of Tweens and Teens 147
Preparing for the Placement 147
Knowing When the Honeymoon Is Over 151
Unique Challenges for Adolescents 152
Bond with Your Adolescent 154
Help Your Adolescent Prepare for Independence 156
Deal with Peer Pressures 159
Recordkeeping 160
Adoption of Special Needs Children 163
Accept the Realities of Special Needs Children 163
Prepare for the Placement 166
Dealing with Disabilities 169
Emotional Disorders 169
Education 171
Dealing with Your Emotions 172
Helping Family Members Cope 173
Helping Your Intellectually or Emotionally Challenged Child 175
Finding Support 176
Focus on What's Most Important 178
Dynamics of Biological and Adoptive Relationships 179
Different Types of Adoptions Meet Different Needs 179
Dealing with Jealousy 180
Dealing with Chance Encounters 182
Create a Feeling of Safety 183
Questions and Concerns about the Birth Family 185
Unlawful Contact from the Birth Family 187
Extended Birth Family Visitation Rights 188
Separated Siblings 190
Emotional Pitfalls for Adopted Children 193
Confronting Feelings of Abandonment and Emotional Trauma 193
Methods for Changing Behavior 199
Dealing with Curiosity and Fantasies 200
Acknowledging and Strengthening Connections 202
Failed or Disrupted Adoptions 203
Being "The Adopted Kid" at School 206
Involving Mental Health Professionals 208
Answering the Hard Questions 209
Strategies for Approaching Questions 209
Why Don't I Look Like You? 209
Who Are My Real Parents? 211
If I'm Really Bad, Will You Give Me Back? 215
Why Didn't My Mom Want Me? 217
Will I Have Problems Just Like My Birth Mom Did? 218
Did You Adopt Me Because You Couldn't Have Your Own Kids? 220
The Hard Questions Can Be Answered 221
Creating and Strengthening Family Bonds 223
Prepare to Build Bonds 223
Prepare Your Relatives for Bonding 225
Integrating Adopted Children into the Family 228
Set Up a Chosen Day and Other Strategies 230
Strengthening Your Family's Primary Relationship 232
Enhancing Sibling Bonds 233
Unique Discipline Issues for Adopted Children 237
Hurtful Statements 237
Maintain Consistency and Avoid Anger 239
Fighting 242
Sexual Abuse 244
Eating Disorders and Self-Harm 246
Important Reassurances 248
Searching for Your Adopted Child's Birth Family 249
Thinking Through the Search 249
When to Search 251
Searching 255
Preparing Your Child for Contact 257
Helping Your Child Deal with Rejection 259
When to Give Up 261
Helping Adopted Children Become Adults 263
Shifting Your Role 263
Special Needs Adult Children 264
College 265
Combating the Effects of Adoption in Adult Life 265
Cement Family Bonds Through Traditions 267
Weddings 268
Grandchildren 269
A Final Word on Relating to Adult Children 270
Additional Resources 271
Organizations, Professionals, and Helpful Web Sites 279
Index 287
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