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The Everything Guide to Codependency: Learn to recognize and change codependent behavior
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Overview
Are you codependent? Do you make other people's problems your own? Do you find it hard to set boundaries and take care of your own needs? In this reassuring guide, Dr. Jennifer Sowle helps you learn how to identify your own destructive behavior, regain self-esteem, and set healthy boundaries in all types of relationships. Inside, you'll learn how to move beyond codependency by:
- Discovering patterns in yourself and others.
- Developing noncodependent language and communication skills.
- Learning to journal and practice new skills at home.
- Engaging your partner in change.
- Breaking the spell of codependency and discovering the real you.
Product Details
ISBN-13: | 9781440573903 |
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Publisher: | Adams Media |
Publication date: | 07/18/2014 |
Series: | Everything� Series |
Pages: | 304 |
Product dimensions: | 7.90(w) x 9.10(h) x 0.70(d) |
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Table of Contents
The Top 10 Ways to Stop Being Codependent 12
Introduction 13
01 What Is Codependency? 15
How to Spot Codependency 16
Alcoholic Brother: Joyce and Steven 17
Unrequited Love: Bella and Baxter 18
Helicopter Mom: Alice and Amanda 19
Business Partners: Jim and Paul 20
Aging Parent: Doug and Mother 21
Spendthrift Wife: Ron and Charlene 23
Narcissistic Fiancée: Pam and Randy 23
Letter to the Psychologist 25
02 The History of Codependency 27
The Expansion of Psychological Theory 28
Family Systems Theory 28
Alcoholics Anonymous 31
The Recovery Movement 32
Assertiveness Training 32
The Self-Help Phenomenon 34
Letter to the Psychologist 35
03 Is Codependency a Mental Illness? 37
The Mental Health System 38
Is a Person Born Codependent? 45
Codependency and Relationships 45
Codependent Behavior, Thoughts, and Feelings 46
Codependency and the Disabled 47
Letter to the Psychologist 50
04 Can Codependents Be Happy? 53
Normal 54
Thoughts Match Behaviors and Feelings 55
Codependency and Traditional Roles 56
Codependency and Religion 58
Codependency and Culture 59
The Codependency and the Narcissist 60
Letter to the Psychologist 62
05 Is Codependency a Social Illness? 65
Are Girls Socialized to Codependency? 66
Expectations for Girls Then and Now 66
Are Boys Socialized to Codependency? 68
Expectations for Boys Then and Now 69
The Difference Between Codependent Boys and Girls 70
Letter to the Psychologist 72
06 Codependent Relationships 75
Will This Relationship Survive? 76
The Recovering Addict: Beverly and Linda 76
The Emotionally Abusive Relationship: Dirk and Gloria 79
The Mutually Codependent Relationship: Robin and Carlton 82
Letter to the Psychologist 85
07 Codependent Children 87
Childhood Patterns 88
Mother's Little Helper: Crystal 88
The Star: Jake 89
The Perfect Child: Penny 91
The Fearful Child: Nicholas 93
The Angry Child: Eric 94
The Abused Child: Carmen 96
Letter to the Psychologist 97
08 Codependent Adolescents 99
In Search of the Self 100
The Perfectionist Teen: Rob 100
The Sexually Precocious Teen: Crystal 103
The Passive Teen: Melody 104
The Runaway or Throwaway Teen: Carmen 107
The Failure to Launch Teen: Jason 108
Letter to the Psychologist 110
9 Codependent Parents 113
Gaining Awareness Is Key 114
The Emotionally Needy Parent: Dawn 114
The Neglectful Parent: Janice 116
The Adult Child Parent: Mark 118
The Hovering Parent: Jasmine 120
The Narcissistic Parent: David 122
Parent of Grown Children: Bill 125
Letter to the Psychologist 127
10 Codependent Friendships 129
Signs of a Codependent Friendship 130
The Bully and Cindy 131
The Addicted Friend and Krista 133
The Angry Friend and Colleen 136
The Dismissive Friend and Janet 138
Letter to the Psychologist 140
11 Codependents at Work 143
Your Work Family 144
The Control Freak: Margaret 144
The Gossip: Pete 147
The Pleaser: Jessica 149
The Victim: George 151
Letter to the Psychologist 153
12 Social Codependency 157
Low Self-Esteem 158
Jewel's Fear of Judgment 160
Diane's Fear of Rejection 162
Barb's Deferring to Others' Needs and Desires 163
Brook's Fear of the Spotlight 165
Candy's Lost Self 166
Letter to the Psychologist 168
13 Eliminating Codependent Communication 171
Focus on the "I" 172
The "I" Message Formula 173
Conflict Resolution-Whose Problem Is It? 174
Taking Responsibility for Your Feelings 176
Processing the Conflict Resolution Model 181
Recognizing the Power Struggle 182
Affirmation 183
Validation 184
Letter to the Psychologist 187
14 Codependency Quizzes 189
Codependency Quiz Number 190
Reflections on Assessing Codependency 192
The Beauty of Compromise 193
Codependency Quiz Number 2 198
Answers to Codependency Quiz Number 1 200
Answers to Codependency Quiz Number 2 201
Letters to the Psychologist 201
15 Tracing the Codependency Within 205
Family Rules from Childhood 206
Walking on Eggshells 207
Perfectionism 208
Role Models 209
Your Value Is in What You Do 210
It's Okay to Be a Victim 210
Codependency Patterns 212
An Example of Codependency Patterns 213
Letter to the Psychologist 216
16 Seeking Professional Help 219
Codependency Within the Medical Model 220
Does Medication Help Codependency? 222
Finding a Therapist 222
Finding the Right Therapist 224
Modes of Therapy 226
Letter to the Psychologist 231
17 How Psychotherapy Works 233
A Therapeutic Approach 234
Psychodynamic Therapy 234
Family Systems Therapy 238
Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy 243
Eclectic Therapy 248
Letter to the Psychologist 253
18 Making Your Own Internal Changes 255
Your Journal 256
Mindfulness 257
Anger: Quieting the Storm Within 259
Melting the Stone Heart 263
Letter to the Psychologist 264
19 Ending Codependency with Significant Others 267
The Ego Mirror 268
Guilt, Codependency, and the Ego Mirror 269
Misdirected Guilt 270
Turn Away from the Mirror 274
Setting Boundaries with Significant Others 275
Letter to the Psychologist 280
20 Ending Codependency in Your Life 283
Becoming a Better Family Member 284
Becoming a Better Friend 287
Enhancing Your Freedom from Codependency 290
Appendix A Resources 293
Index 297