Table of Contents
Part 1 Welcome
1 Who Is an Ethical Slut? 1
2 Myths and Realities 10
3 Our Beliefs 23
4 Slut Styles 31
5 Battling Sex Negativity 47
6 Building a Culture or Consent 53
7 Infinite Possibilities 60
Part 2 The Practice of Sluthood
8 Abundance 75
9 Slut Skills 83
10 Boundaries 92
11 The Unethical Slut 99
12 Flirting and Cruising 103
13 Keeping Sex Safe 113
14 Childrearing 123
Part 3 Navigating Challenges
15 Roadmaps through Jealousy 135
16 Embracing Conflict 158
17 Making Agreements 172
18 Opening an Existing Relationship 186
Part 4 Sluts in Love
19 Making Connection 201
20 Couples and Groups 210
21 The Single Slut 224
22 The Ebb and Flow of Relationships 235
23 Sex and Pleasure 243
24 Public Sex, Group Sex, and Orgies 270
Conclusion: A Slut Utopia 292
A Slut's Glossary 296
Further Reading 302
About the Authors 305
Index 306
Exercises
Sluts We Know and Love 12
Some Affirmations to Try 90
Practice Makes Perfect 115
How Do You Experience Jealousy? 141
Reassurance 149
Fifteen Ways to Be Kind to Yourself 152
Treasures 154
Feelings Dyad 166
Eight Steps to Win-Win Conflict Resolution 177
What Is Anger Good For? 191
Hierarchy of Hard 193
The Twenty-Minute Fight 196
The Airport Game 204
A Healthy Breakup 242
The Process-Free Date 256
A Hot Date with Yourself 257
Yes, No, Maybe 261
More Fun with Your "Yes, No, Maybe" List 263
Get Loud 269