Table of Contents
Authors' Note xiii
Introduction xvii
Part I That Bad Person and Poor Me
Is Adlerian Psychology a Religion? 5
The Objective of Education Is Self-Reliance 12
Respect Is Seeing People as They Are 21
Have Concern for Other People's Concerns 29
If We Had "the Same Kind of Heart and Life" 34
Courage Is Contagious, and Respect Is Contagious Too 37
The Real Reason Why One "Can't Change" 43
Your Now Decides the Past 48
That Bad Person and Poor Me 51
There's No Magic in Adlerian Psychology 57
Part II Why Negate Reward and Punishment?
The Classroom Is a Democratic Nation 65
Do Not Rebuke and Do Not Praise 69
What Is the Goal of Problem Behavior? 75
Hate Me! Abandon Me! 80
If There Is Punishment, Does the Crime Go Away? 88
Violence in the Name of Communication 95
Getting Angry and Rebuking Are Synonymous 99
One Can Choose One's Own Life 103
Part III From the Principle of Competition to the Principle of Cooperation
Negate Praise-Based Development 115
Reward Gives Rise to Competition 119
The Disease of the Community 122
Life Begins from Incompleteness 126
The Courage to Be Myself 135
That Problem Behavior Is Directed at "You" 139
Why a Person Wants to Become a Savior 143
Education Is Friendship, Not Work 149
Part IV Give, and It Shall Be Given Unto You
All Joy Is Interpersonal Relationship Joy 157
Do You Trust? Do You Have Confidence? 162
Why Work Becomes a Life Task 169
All Professions Are Honorable 173
The Important Thing Is "What Use One Makes of That Equipment" 178
How Many Close Friends Do You Have? 185
First, Believe 189
People Never Understand Each Other 193
Life Is Made Up of Trials of "Nothing Days" 197
Give, and It Shall Be Given Unto You 201
Part V Choose a Life You Love
Love Is Not Something One "Falls" Into 209
From an Art of Being Loved toward an Art of Loving 213
Love Is a Task Accomplished by Two People 217
Switch the Subject of Life 221
Self-Reliance Is Breaking Away from "Me" 225
To Whom Is That Love Directed? 233
How Can One Get One's Parents' Love? 237
People Are Afraid of Loving 243
There Is No Destined One 246
Love Is a Decision 250
Re-Choose Your Lifestyle 253
Keeping It Simple 261
To the Friends Who Will Make a New Era 264
Afterword 271