The Codependency Manifesto: Clearing the Way Out of the Codependent Mind

by Lisa A Romano

Overview

If a child's parent teaches that child to steal and cheat to survive, is it the child's fault if they eventually find themselves in trouble with the law? What happens to a child, in many ways, is what leads to what a child becomes. Subconscious beliefs that are not turned over like stones become the paths to future life experiences, good or bad, healthy or not. The Codependency Manifesto is designed to help you learn to question your mind. To live a truly authentic life, we must learn to observe how our mind operates-or be doomed to repeat the patterns, beliefs, and perceptions we have been groomed to accept as truth through the experience of childhood. This book allows readers from all walks of life to envision a new reality for themselves. It shares life-changing insights and tools that will help you forge a greater understanding of self and find the road back to the real you!

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781977226556
Publisher:	Outskirts Press, Inc.
Publication date:	06/11/2020
Pages:	182
Sales rank:	947,622
Product dimensions:	6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.42(d)

About the Author

Lisa A. Romano is a bestselling author, podcaster, meditation teacher, and Life Coach who specializes in codependency and narcissistic abuse recovery. She is the creator of The 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program, an online program designed for those suffering from codependency and narcissistic abuse. Currently, she resides in New York with her husband.

Table of Contents

Dedication v

Introduction i

Why? i

About This Book viii

How to Use This Book xii

Chapter 1 The Lessons Never Stop 1

Reflections 7

Chapter 2 Know Your Dragons 9

What Is Codependency? 11

Early Development 14

Avoiding Shame 16

The Codependent/Narcissistic Dynamic 17

Chapter 3 How NOT to Develop Codependency 19

Chapter 4 The Root Causes of Codependency 22

Overt Abuse 22

Covert Abuse 24

Parentification 25

Amanda's Story 27

Jessica's Story 28

John's Story 31

Codependent Parents 34

Alcoholism, Instability and Unpredictability 36

Chapter 5 My Codependent Story 38

Reflection - How Codependent Are You? 44

Chapter 6 Personal and Universal Consequences of Codependency 50

An Indifferent Universe Run by Patterns 54

Reflections 58

Chapter 7 Patterns 61

How Patterns Form 61

The Comfort of Patterns 64

The Most Important Thing to Teach Our Children 66

The Effect of Patterns 68

Patterns Across the Generations 70

Reflections 76

Chapter 8 The Miracle of Human Awareness 78

Thinking About the Way We Think 79

A Sliver of Light 81

Reflections 83

Chapter 9 Healing 86

What Is It to Heal? 86

Awareness 87

Acceptance 91

Accountability 94

Transcending the Ego 95

Helping Others to Heal 97

Patricia's Story 99

Accountability to the Inner Child 100

Reflections 101

Chapter 10 Practices 103

Daily Practices 104

Healthy Rules 106

Setting Boundaries 107

Exercise - Who Am I? 110

Exercise - Pleased to Meet You 112

The Importance of Your Desires 113

Exercise - Daily Desires 114

Exercise - Weekly Desires 114

Exercise - Once a Month 114

Exercise - My Plan for the Next 12 Months 115

Exercise - The Three-Year Plan 115

Exercise - Goals For My Well-Being 117

Exercise - Financial YOU 118

Exercise - Physical YOU 120

Exercise - Relationship Goals 121

Exercise - Career Goals 123

Exercise - My Legacy to Humanity 124

External Boundaries 125

Exercise - Create a Boundary Checklist 125

Letting Go 126

Exercise - Letting Go List 127

Letting Go of Control 128

Exercise - Shifting Your Awareness 131

Taking Responsibility 132

The 1-2-3 Process 132

Exercise - Responsibility Check-in 135

Building Personal Integrity 135

The Power of Truth 138

Exercise - Finding Your Personal Truth 139

Exercise - Tackling Roadblocks 140

Setting Intentions 141

Daily Intentions 144

Your Mission Statement 145

What's Your Plan 146

Epilogue 148

Further Reading 152