Table of Contents
Acknowledgments vii
Introduction: A New Way To See Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) 1
Part 1 BPD and Successful Treatment
1 BPD 101 7
2 Where Does BPD Come From? 17
3 Attachment and BPD 25
4 What Is Your BPD Type? 33
5 BPD Symptoms 39
Part 2 First Steps for Growing Beyond BPD
6 Where You Are in the Process of Change 49
7 Beliefs, Behaviors, and Benefits That Keep You Stuck 61
8 The Eight Trigger Categories 73
9 Recognizing Positive and Negative Relationships 81
Part 3 Addressing and Changing Negative Behaviors and Patterns of BPD
10 Freedom from the Trap of Emotional Buttons 99
11 Controlling High-Risk Situations 115
12 Challenging and Changing Dysfunctional Beliefs 123
13 Self-Soothing to Enhance Personal Control 133
14 Strengthening Love and Resolving Relationship Conflict 141
Part 4 Reconstructing Your World and Building a New You
15 Getting To The Heart Of The Issue 157
16 Distortions, That Keep BPD In Place 167
17 Growing Beyond Destructive Fears, Beliefs, and Wishes 181
18 Defense Mechanisms and Healthy Coping and Responding 193
19 Conquering the Internal Love/Hate Conflict 209
20 Letting Go and Moving On With the New You 223
Part 5 Maintaining Your Success and Personal Power
21 Maintaining Your Gains 237
22 Life Beyond Your BPD 247
Epilogue: Letter From Dr. Fox 251
References 253