Table of Contents
Introduction xi
1 Me, Myself, and My Midlife Choices: My Way or the Highway 1
Five Crucial Things the Fifty-Three-Year-Old Bitch Knows That the Thirty-Nine-Year-Old Bitch Didn't (Yet) Pam Houston 3
Vagina Notwithstanding Jennifer Fianey Boylan 15
Gone Girl: What I (Don't) Own My Mother Anna March 25
Wrinkles in Time. Or Not Debora L. Spar 37
What's Love Got to Do with It: I'm Havin' My Baby Lizzie Skurnick 49
The "Other Woman"-Then and Now Kerry Herlihy 63
Dirty Work Kathy Thomas Cathi Hanauer 75
2 Sex, Lies, and Happy(ish) Endings: Because this Ain't Disney, Dolls. It's Life 89
The Coming of Age: Sex 102 Sarah Crichton 91
Still in the Heart Hazel McClay 105
My Filthy Little Heart: Love It? Or Lose It? Claire Johnson 117
Once a Week: Take It or Take It Grace O'Malley 129
Fifty Shades of Free Robin Rinaldi 143
My War with Sex Lynn Darling 153
3 To Hell and to Hold 165
Her Life. My Life: Two Women, Two Worlds Erin White 167
Jason, Me, and Jesus: The Other Guy in Our Relationship Veronica Chambers 179
Trading Places: We both wanted to stay home. He won. But so did I Julianna Baggott 191
Beyond the Myth of Co-Parenting: What We Lost-and Gained-by Abandoning Equality Hope Edelman 203
Now There Were Two Jill Bialosky 217
Living Alone: A Fantasy Sandra Tsing Lolt 227
4 Starting Over 241
Second Time Around: Letting Go of Convention (and Listening to My Mother) Kate Christensen 243
What was in It for ME: Saying Yes, Saying No, Leaning In, Leaning Out Rabia Hussain 257
Stepping Off the Scale Ann Hood 271
Getting It Right the Third Time. Or Wrong. You Tell Me Karen Karbo 283
Jes Susanna Sonnenberg 297
A New Life Under the Ladder Cynthia King 309
Contributors 323
Acknowledgments 331
Reader's Guide Discussion Questions 333