Table of Contents
"Where Was This Book When I, Like, Needed It?" 13
Name Calling 15
Introduction: Rules, Posers and Speaking a Foreign Language 19
Need-to-Knows 34
What You Need to Know About Making Sense of the Rules
1 How Not to Make a Light Bulb: Why Everything Is Hard Before It Is Easy 45
2 The Potty-Training Rule: Knowing When a Thank You Is Expected 53
Quotealicious 60
3 I'm Sorry: The Hardest Words to Say 61
4 The "Perseverance" of "Perserverance": Being Right vs. Being Included 68
5 Perfectly Imperfect: Congratulations, You're Human 77
6 But I Wasn't Laughing: Laughing with You vs. Laughing at You 83
Quotealicious 89
7 Poof! You're Interesting!: Being Interesting by Being Interested 90
8 Mirror! Mirror!: Reflect, Reflect, Reflect 96
9 You're Welcome: The Power of Compliments 105
Quotealicious 110
10 Broken Spaghetti: The Benefits of Thinking Like a Wet Noodle 111
11 Boiling the Pasta: How to Make that Flexible Thinking Thing Happen 115
12 You've Got to Hold the Pillow 121
13 Take a Breath and Watch the Hammer: Knowing How to Handle Criticism 127
14 Speak in Sandwiches and Make Suggestions: Knowing How to Give Good Feedback 134
Quotealicious 141
15 Unfiltered: White Lies and Trust 142
16 Tact and the Triple-Filter: How Honest Is Too Honest? 147
17 Literally?: What They Actually Mean 153
18 Do I Need an Umbrella or an Ark?: Sorting Mountains from Molehills 159
19 Temper, Temper: There Will Be More Apple Juice Tomorrow 165
Quotealicious 176
20 The Science of a Greek Goddess: Hygeia, Aphrodite and Why They Were Such Good Pals 177
21 Traveling by Bubble: Transparent Boundaries That Only NTs See 186
22 Choices and Tactics: How to Recognize a Friend 195
23 Who's Who, What's What: Friendship Levels and Cling Wrap 203
Quotealicious 213
24 Leveled Up: Dating, Flirting and Just-Friends-Ship 214
25 Standing Up Straight: Self-Advocacy, Anger Band-Aids and Being Heard 227
26 Talking to Myself: Inner Dialogues and Old Tapes 236
27 Likes, Tweets and Texts: Netiquette Need-to-Knows 243
28 There's More for Dinner Than Mashed Potatoes: Missing the Bigger Picture 254
29 Wedgies, Tattletales and Bullies: Taking Your Power Back from Bullies 263
30 Through the Looking Glass: Laughing at Yourself without Being a Laughing Stock 268
Stickies (Little Nuggets of Truth-Sticky-Note-Sized) 275
Practice Sessions 284
Stick a Fork in It-We're Done: AKA The Conclusion 298
References 300