The Anti-Romantic Child: A Story of Unexpected Joy

by Priscilla Gilman Narrated by Priscilla Gilman

Overview

“TheAnti-Romantic Child is remarkable. This haunting and lyrical memoir will bean invaluable and heartening guide to all who find themselves in similarsituations and indeed anyone confronting an unforeseen challenge.” -MarieBrenner, writer for Vanity Fair andauthor of Apples and Oranges

With an emotionally resonant combination of memoirand literature, Wordsworth scholar Priscilla Gilman recounts the challenges ofraising a son with hyperlexia, a developmentaldisorder neurologically counterpoint to dyslexia. Gilman explores thecomplexities of our hopes and expectations for our children and ourselves. Withluminous prose and a searing, personal story evocative of A Year of MagicalThinking and A Year of Reading Proust, Gilman's The Anti-RomanticChild is an unforgettable exploration of what happens when we lean toembrace the unexpected.

Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly

The daughter of literary agent Lynn Nesbit and the late theater drama critic Richard Gilman crafts a beautifully sinuous and intensely literary celebration of the exceptional, unconventional child. Her son, Benjamin, was born when she and her academic husband, Richard, were in graduate school at Yale, where she was still working on her dissertation on the Romantic English poet William Wordsworth. As "Benj" grew older and failed to hit the usual milestones of children his age, exhibiting brilliant but "odd" behavior such as an obsession with numbers, aversion to physical affection, fastidiousness, inability to feed himself, and echolalia, Gilman realized these were "uncontrollable manifestations of a disorder," namely hyperlexia. Falsely reassured by their well-intentioned pediatrician, the couple finally sought professional therapists, and after they relocated to Poughkeepsie, N.Y., where both got teaching jobs at Vassar, Benj made marvelous progress in school. Throughout her narrative, Gilman extracts from many of Wordsworth's poems, which comment on innocence and loss and gave Gilman tremendous succor during Benjamin's early development, making for both charming and studious reading. Her thoughtful memoir involves the breakup of her marriage, rejection of an academic career, and move to New York City to work in her mother's literary agency as much as it delves lyrically into the rare, complex mind of the unusual child. (May)

From the Publisher

Smart, soulful, and involving.” — Nick Hornby, The Believer

“Rapturously beautiful and deeply moving, profound and marvelous.” — Andrew Solomon, author of Far from the Tree

“The Anti-Romantic Child is beautiful, poetic, and heartfelt. It’s more than a mother–child story; it’s a journey of self-discovery. It’s a book every parent should read.” — Kathryn Erskine, bestselling author of Mockingbird and winner of the 2010 National Book Award

“Priscilla Gilman’s lyrical narrative is profoundly moving and ultimately joyous. It eloquently touches the universal.” — Harold Bloom

“What a glorious book Priscilla Gilman has written. Lively, eloquent, straightforward, and insightful, The Anti-Romantic Child deftly delineates and negotiates the complex cross-currents of a life of the mind and a life of the heart.” — Sandra Boynton, children's book author and illustrator

“Every parent should read this luminous book to absorb or absorb again the truth that every child is a surprise—a revelation—to be uniquely learned and understood as well as loved.” — Mary Catherine Bateson, author of Composing A Further Life: The Age of Active Wisdom

“Unforgettable. . . . I couldn’t put this book down.” — Gretchen Rubin, bestselling author of The Happiness Project

“This is a fascinating, tender, illuminating book about an extraordinary boy and his equally extraordinary mother. A wonderful read.” — Martha Beck, author of Expecting Adam and columnist for O magazine

“A book for all parents. . . . [Gilman’s] poignant story of reconciling fantasy with reality is a universal story of parental growth. A story to inspire us all.” — Ellen Galinsky, the Huffington Post

“A fantastic memoir. . . . I loved this book.” — KJ Dell'Antonia, lead blogger for the New York Times Motherlode

KJ Dell'Antonia

A fantastic memoir. . . . I loved this book.

Ellen Galinsky

A book for all parents. . . . [Gilman’s] poignant story of reconciling fantasy with reality is a universal story of parental growth. A story to inspire us all.

Martha Beck

This is a fascinating, tender, illuminating book about an extraordinary boy and his equally extraordinary mother. A wonderful read.

Gretchen Rubin

Unforgettable. . . . I couldn’t put this book down.

Mary Catherine Bateson

Every parent should read this luminous book to absorb or absorb again the truth that every child is a surprise—a revelation—to be uniquely learned and understood as well as loved.

Sandra Boynton

What a glorious book Priscilla Gilman has written. Lively, eloquent, straightforward, and insightful, The Anti-Romantic Child deftly delineates and negotiates the complex cross-currents of a life of the mind and a life of the heart.

Harold Bloom

Priscilla Gilman’s lyrical narrative is profoundly moving and ultimately joyous. It eloquently touches the universal.

Kathryn Erskine

The Anti-Romantic Child is beautiful, poetic, and heartfelt. It’s more than a mother–child story; it’s a journey of self-discovery. It’s a book every parent should read.

Andrew Solomon

Rapturously beautiful and deeply moving, profound and marvelous.

Nick Hornby

Smart, soulful, and involving.

Boston Globe

[A] lovely, thoughtful memoir.

Kirkus Reviews

Literary agent Gilman, a former professor of English literature, describes the challenges that she faced parenting a developmentally disabled son.

The author's expectations of motherhood were shaped by her memories of her own idyllic childhood, reinforced by the romantic poetry of Wordsworth. The reality was harsher until, to her great delight, at the age one her son Benjamin began showing what appeared to be amazing precocity. He recognized letters, could identify objects and at 16 months could read several words. Though he didn't like being touched and was fearful of loud sounds, he delighted in showing off his skills. At two, he was able to read fluently and tap out complex rhythms, and he loved to sing and recite poetry. His memory was also impressive, as was his recognition of shapes and numbers. Gilman's anxiety for her son began to dissipate, and she and her husband "simply accepted that we had an odd, unconventional, and possibly brilliant little boy on our hands." That illusion was shattered when he was evaluated for admission to a preschool. The school administration was concerned about his lack of social skills and his tendency to parrot words rather than use them to express himself. He seemed to lack a sense of identity and didn't appear to comprehend simple pronouns, and his motor skills were poorly developed. He was also anxious and couldn't relate to the other children. Seeking professional help, the author learned that he suffered from hyperplexia, a disorder that is sometimes linked to Asperger's. The author chronicles how she and her husband, his teachers and therapists, were able to help him gain language skills and master his anxieties so that he could not only relate to others but fully express his own creative gifts. "In parenting Benj," writes the author, "I have gotten more in touch with a profound kind of romanticism; I have been given access to a transcendent sense of mystery and awe and wonder."

A striking celebration of the bond between a mother and son.

Product Details

BN ID:	2940173512796
Publisher:	HarperCollins
Publication date:	04/19/2011
Edition description:	Unabridged

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