Table of Contents
Foreword xi
Preface xiii
Part 1 Creating Felt Safety
1 Origins 3
2 Trauma: How a Gastroenterologist Changed How the World Thinks about Trauma 9
3 Infant Trauma 21
4 PTSD and Fight, Flight, and Freeze 29
5 Olympic-Level Self-Care 41
6 Attachment 51
7 Healing Attachment Damage 59
8 Good Discipline Strategies 71
9 Routines and Rituals 85
Part 2 Emotional Regulation
10 Adoption (or Placement) Stages: How Children Grieve 93
11 Attunement and Manipulation: All Behavior Communicates 101
12 Reflective Listening and Emotional Modeling 109
13 Sensory Success 115
Part 3 Identity
14 Transracial and Transethnic Adoption 127
15 Older Child Adoption 151
16 Working with Birth Family 157
17 Talking with Your Child about Adoption 161
18 Lifebooks: Not just for the Crafty 165
Part 4 Living and Thriving with PTSD
19 The Child You Have 175
20 Sleep and Food Strategies 193
21 How to Choose the Right Therapist 199
22 Working with Schools 213
23 PTSD and Medical Care 221
24 Siblings 229
25 Lying and Stealing 233
26 When It's More Than PTSD: ADHD, FASD, Autism 239
27 While You Are Waiting and the First Few Months 251
28 Foster Care: Licensed to Parent 259
29 When Things Are Really Hard 267
30 Leaving Home 273
31 Troubleshooting: The Q and A Section 279
Book List 291
Movie List 293
Glossary 297
Notes 305
Bibliography 317
Index 327
About the Author 333