Many parents have called their years with adolescent and teenage children "one crisis after another." Perhaps this is so. But it is well to remember that the Chinese character for the word crisis is actually a combination of two characters: one means "danger" the other means "opportunity." We invite you, through the pages of this book, to view the teen and preteen years as both a danger and an opportunity. See them as a danger in order to be motivated to take your parenting task with great seriousness. But see them as an opportunity also-an opportunity to grow again with your children, to learn to love once again through them, and to "school your feelings" as you learn with them to exercise and implement charity