Table of Contents
A Note to Parents, Teachers, and Other Adults vi
Chapter 1 What It Means to Sack Up for Yourself 1
What You Need to Stick Up for Yourself 4
How to Make This Book Work for You 4
Chapter 2 How to Get and Use Personal Power 8
Be Responsible 9
Make Choices 15
Chapter 3 Get to Know Yourself 21
Name Your Feelings 22
Grow a Feelings Vocabulary 25
Feelings and Facial Expressions 39
Combined Feelings 40
Talk About Your Feelings 46
Name Your Future Dreams 46
Name Your Needs 50
Claim Your Feelings, Future Dreamy and Needs 58
Talk Things Over with Yourself 60
When Feelings Are Too Strong to Handle: Great Escapes 62
How to Deal with Strong Feelings 65
Chapter 4 Get and Use Power in Your Relationships and Your Life 72
Two Kinds of Power 73
Power in Your Relationships 75
Power and Choice 77
Equal Power 79
How to Deal with Bullying 82
Power in Your Life 86
How to Live Happily Ever After 87
Chapter 5 How to Build Positive Self-Esteem 91
Listening to Your Inner Voices 92
What Self-Esteem Really Means 95
10 Reasons Why You Need Positive Self-Esteem 96
Ways to Build Your Self-Esteem 97
16 Sure Signs of Strong Self-Esteem 103
Self-Esteem Do's and Don'ts 105
Six Good Things to Do for Yourself 107
Chapter 6 How to Build Inner Security 109
Powerlessness 110
Uncertainty 111
Accepting Your Limits 113
Tools for Building Inner Security 116
Protect Your Personal Power, Self-Esteem, and Inner Security Online 127
A Few More Ready-to-Use Tools 131
Chapter 7 You Can Stick Up for Yourself 133
Index 136
About the Authors 143