Staying Connected to Your Teenager, Revised Edition: How to Keep Them Talking to You and How to Hear What They're Really Saying

by Michael Riera

Overview

At last, a book of sage advice that will help frustrated parents reconnect with their teenager and keep that connection even in today's often-crazy world.The first step is simple: realizing that inside every teen resides two very different people-the regressed child and the emergent adult. The emergent adult is seen at school, on the playing field, in his first job, and in front of his friends' families. Unfortunately, his parents usually see only the regressed child-moody and defiant-and, if they're not on the lookout, they'll miss seeing the more agreeable, increasingly adult thinker in their midst.With ingenious strategies for coaxing the more attractive of the two teen personalities into the home, family psychologist Mike Riera gives new hope to beleaguered and harried parents. From moving from a "managing" to a "consulting" role in a teen's life, from working with a teen's uniquely exasperating sleep rhythms to having real conversations when only monosyllables have been previously possible, Staying Connected to Your Teenager demonstrates ways to bring out the best in a teen-and, consequently, in an entire family.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780738219561
Publisher:	Hachette Books
Publication date:	06/27/2017
Sold by:	Hachette Digital, Inc.
Format:	eBook
File size:	2 MB

About the Author

Michael Riera, Ph.D., is one of the country's foremost authorities on understanding children and teenagers. Mike has written or cowritten five books related to teenagers and their parents. Currently, he is the head of the Brentwood School, an independent K-12 day school in Los Angeles.

Website: MikeRiera.com

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments xiii

Introduction 1

1 Late at Night 9

2 Narcissism 101 27

3 Give Up on Lectures and Advice 47

4 The Car 61

5 Mastery over Compliance 77

6 The Sexes Are Different, and This Is Good News! 99

7 Grandparents: The Secret Weapon 123

8 Self-Esteem Through Integrity 131

9 Indirect Communication 149

10 Technology: Social Media and Gaming 173

11 Extend the Comfort Zone 189

12 Applying to and Selecting a College 215

13 Know Your Village 227

Conclusion 247

Additional Reading 249

Notes 251

Index 255