Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder

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Overview

This highly anticipated second edition of Splitting includes new chapters on abuse, alienation, and false allegations; as well as information about the four types of domestic violence, protective orders, and child custody disputes.

Are you divorcing someone who’s making the process as difficult as possible? Are they sending you nasty emails, falsifying the truth, putting your children in the middle, abusing you, or abusing the system? Are they “persuasive blamers,” manipulating and fooling court personnel to get them on their side? If so, you need this book.

For more than ten years, Splitting has served as the ultimate guide for people divorcing a high conflict person, one who often has borderline or narcissistic (or even antisocial) personality disorder. Among other things, it has saved readers thousands of dollars, helped them keep custody of their children, and effectively guided them through a difficult legal and emotional process.

Written by a family law attorney and therapist, and the author of Stop Walking on Eggshells, Splitting is an essential legal and psychological guide for anyone divorcing a persuasive blamer: someone who suffers from borderline personality disorder (BPD), narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), and/or antisocial personality disorder (ASPD). This second edition includes new information about antisocial personalities; expanded information about domestic violence, child abuse, alienation, and false allegations; how to approach protective orders and deal with child custody disputes; and a new chapter on how to successfully present your case to decision makers.

Turn to this guide to help you:

  • Predict what your spouse may do or say in court
  • Take control of your case with assertiveness and strategic thinking
  • Choose a lawyer who understands your case
  • Learn how e-mails and social networking can be used against you

If you need help navigating a high-conflict divorce from a manipulative spouse, this book includes all of the critical information you need to work through the process of divorce in an emotionally balanced, productive way.


Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781684036110
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
Publication date: 07/01/2021
Edition description: Second Edition
Pages: 304
Sales rank: 113,151
Product dimensions: 5.90(w) x 8.80(h) x 0.70(d)
Age Range: 5 Years

About the Author

Bill Eddy, LCSW, JD, is a family lawyer, therapist, and mediator in San Diego, CA. He is cofounder and chief innovation officer at High Conflict Institute, and trains lawyers, judges, mediators, and counselors worldwide in respectfully managing high-conflict disputes and personalities. He is author of sixteen books, developer of the New Ways for Families® method for separation and divorce, and blogger for Psychology Today with more than five million views. His website is www.highconflictinstitute.com.


Randi Kreger is author of The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook and The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder. Her website, www.stopwalkingoneggshells.com, offers material related to borderline personality disorder (BPD). She also provides a free online family support group, Moving Forward, at www.groups.io/g/movingforward. She gives workshops throughout the US and Japan.

Table of Contents

Quick-Start Guide vi

Introduction to the Second Edition 1

Part 1 Preparing for a Difficult Divorce

1 Preparing Yourself 7

2 Understanding Borderline and Narcissistic (and Antisocial) Personalities 19

3 Blamers and Targets: It's All Your Fault! 41

4 Managing a Blamer Using an Assertive Approach 67

5 Preparing for a Court Battle with a Blamer 87

Part 2 Succeeding in Family Court

6 Today's Divorce Court Culture 107

7 Abuse, Alienation, and False Allegations 129

8 Hiring a Lawyer Who Understands 143

9 Working with Your Lawyer to Handle Predictable Crises 153

10 Gathering Evidence About Your Blamer's Private Persona 161

11 Working with Experts and Evaluators 173

12 What to Expect from the Blamer's Attorney 193

13 What to Expect at a Hearing or Trial with a Blamer 203

14 Presenting Your Case 223

Part 3 Succeeding Out of Court

15 Considering Alternatives to Litigation with a Blamer 233

16 Managing the Rocky Postdivorce Relationship 255

17 Conclusion 277

Acknowledgments 282

Resources 283

References 285

Interviews

Eddy resides in San Diego, CA; Kreger resides in Wauwatosa, WI (Milwaukee County).

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