Table of Contents
Acknowledgements 7
Introduction 9
Why this Book? 11
Disclaimer 15
Chapter 1 Attention Deficit Disorder 17
The Pattern 17
The Married Side-Chick 21
Affirmations 27
Chapter 2 Man Cave Secrets - The Making of an Adulterer 29
Inside the Man Cave 32
Pornography 34
When Virtual is No Longer Enough 37
Boyfriend vs. Husband Mentality 40
Affirmations 42
Chapter 3 A Girlfriend Mentality (The Making of a Side Chick) 43
Wife vs. Girlfriend Thinking 44
Friends with Benefits 46
Affirmations 50
Chapter 4 The Prelude to Side Chick Status 51
Tennis Anvone? 52
Pity Party Invitation 54
History's First Side Chick 56
The Build Up 58
Affirmations 59
Chapter 5 The Rush of Secrecy 61
Running Red Lights and Stop Signs 63
Cheat Day 65
The Power of Addiction 69
Affirmations 72
Chapter 6 Uh-Oh, The Cat is Out of the Bag 73
The Phone Call 76
A Devastated Wife 79
Anger is a Secondary Emotion 81
Affirmations 82
Chapter 7 The Price is Way Too High 83
Affirmations 91
Chapter 8 Something to Think About 93
Something else to consider 96
Affirmations 101
Chapter 9 Ribology 103
Affirmations 112
Chapter 10 Side Chick Proofing Yourself (Singles) 113
Check Out My New "Single" 115
Affirmations 128
Chapter 11 Side Chick Proofing Your Marriage 129
Recovering from Marital Infidelity 130
Keep Moving on to The Next Thing (Forgiveness) 133
Make a Healthy Marriage the Goal 135
Affirmations 141
Chapter 12 In Marriage, Tools Are Just as Important as Rules 143
My Favorite Tools 143
Affirmations 154
Chapter 13 Make Your Own Marriage Fire 155
Affirmations 165
Chapter 14 Falling in Love Again 167
Why We Tend To Fall Out of Love 170
Recovering from the Abyss of an Affair 176
Conclusion 183
Endnotes 185
About the Author 191
