Shortcuts to Success: The Absolute Best Ways to Master Your Money, Time, Health, and Relationships
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Overview
In this practical handbook, motivational author and speaker, Jonathan Robinson tells, in short pieces for the time-starved reader, how to:
- Create four extra hours a day
- Communicate more effectively with other people
- Generate more income and enhance your wealth
With this veritable road map to helping you achieve happiness, fulfillment, and prosperity, prepare to get on the fast track to success.
Praise for Shortcuts to Success
“Jonathan Robinson’s refreshingly original and practical suggestions read like the Cliffs Notes to a course called Life 101. Each page is chock full of wit, wisdom, and wonder.” —Robert B. Tucker, author of Innovation is Everybody’s Business
“Shortcuts to Success provides people with simple yet extremely effective ways to create the lives they truly deserve.” —John Gray, #1 New York Times–bestselling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus
Product Details
| ISBN-13: | 9781609255237 |
|---|---|
| Publisher: | Mango Media |
| Publication date: | 01/31/2000 |
| Series: | Absolute Best Ways to Master Your Money, Time, Health & Rela |
| Sold by: | Barnes & Noble |
| Format: | eBook |
| Pages: | 205 |
| File size: | 2 MB |
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Shortcuts to Success
The Absolute Best Ways to Master Your Time, Health, Relationships, and Finances
By Jonathan Robinson
Red Wheel/Weiser, LLC
Copyright © 2000 Jonathan RobinsonAll rights reserved.
ISBN: 978-1-60925-523-7
CHAPTER 1
section one
Mastering Your Time
For most Westerners, poverty has taken on a new meaning. Instead of feeling a lack of money, a majority of people are feeling a lack of time. Indeed, we do have plenty of material prosperity. Even middle-class folks of today live better than kings lived just fifty years ago! Our civilization gives us the riches of libraries, endless channels of free entertainment to watch, telephones, supermarkets, and air conditioned cars to speed us wherever we want to go. Yet we don't necessarily have the time to enjoy all our good fortune. Unlike fifty years ago, people spend a lot of their lives rushing around, feeling like they lack the time to do the things they truly desire. To a large extent, we've traded our precious time for more money and the many comforts it can buy. However, for those who feel an ongoing poverty of time, there is hope. As you learn about and use the time management ideas in this section, you'll feel like you're in control of your time—rather than it being in control of you.
I assume that if you're reading this book, you're already familiar with some basic time management ideas. Nevertheless, I hope to introduce you to several ideas you may not have heard before. While some of these ideas may not fit your current lifestyle, even one new idea taken from the following chapters can significantly impact your entire destiny. After all, time is more than money. The manner in which you use your time determines the quality and direction of your life. Fortunately, time management is a skill that is easily learned. As you use the ideas in this section, you will feel like you are accomplishing more with your time, and using it to experience greater personal satisfaction.
1. Know Your Unique Path to Success
The Three Keys to Being On Target
In order to be successful, you first need to define what success means to you. While Western culture may define success in terms of riches, fame, beauty, and youth, these things may not be what you really want. I first learned the importance of defining what I was after when I was in college. My roommate, Tony, was a varsity basketball player who was always challenging me to a game of one-on-one basketball. At first, I avoided the challenge, but finally I caved in. I said, "I'll play you a game on one condition: I get to bring any one-ounce gadget onto the court and place it wherever I want. Tony agreed. We went to the court and I brought out my one ounce "gadget"—which was a blindfold, and I strategically placed it over Tony's eyes. Then I said, "Let the games begin!" Admittedly, the game still ended up being rather close. Yet, because I knew exactly what I was aiming for—and Tony didn't—I beat him despite my complete lack of skill. Knowing what you're aiming for is more important than luck, skill, or expertise.
In order to define what success is to you, it can be helpful to think about when you've felt the happiest in your past. When were three times in your life that you were, for a period of at least a month, rather happy and excited about your life? If you can, write a very brief description of these three times. As you review these three times in your life, do you notice any similar themes or events that occurred during each of these times? For example, were you traveling during these times, or were you moving forward in your career? Perhaps on each of these occasions you were in a rewarding relationship, or you were enjoying a leisurely pace of life. Whatever you notice about these periods in your life, take note. If they brought you a feeling of satisfaction in the past, they could likely bring you a similar feeling in the future. Therefore, if traveling made you happy in the past, you would likely feel successful if you could travel more in the future. Simple.
Unfortunately, it's easy to fall into other people's view of success and lose our own. When I was in junior high school, I fell into my mom's dream for me to do very well in school. In the school I was in, if you got straight A's for a full year, you got a little pin from the principal. Well, I worked real hard to live up to my mother's good intentions for me on how she defined success. By foregoing my social life, I managed to get straight A's for a full year. A couple of years ago while cleaning out some drawers, I found the cheap, gold-plated pin I received for achieving straight A's. I looked at that $2 pin and realized that this was the booby prize for going after someone else's idea of success. Don't let that happen to you. Instead, remember what has really made you happy in the past, and aim for that in the future.
A second way to be on target toward your own criteria for success is to figure out what you would do if you had a million dollars in the bank. What would you spend it on? Choose three or four things. Let's say you'd buy a house, purchase a nice car, give some money away to environmental causes, and keep a fair share in the bank. For each thing you'd spend money on, ask yourself, "What feeling might I get from spending money on that item?" For instance, if you'd buy a house, you could ask, "What feeling would I hope to get from owning my own home?" Perhaps the answer would be "I'd have more security and peace of mind." Then ask, "Why would I want to give money away to environmental causes?" Your answer to that might be, "To have a feeling of contributing to the greater good."
Once you know what you'd spend money on, and the underlying feelings you'd hope to experience from those purchases, you have some powerful information. The reason people want money is because they think they'll be able to convert their money into the emotional experiences they most desire. By making a list of what you'd want to spend extra money on, you can come to realize what emotional experiences you most desire in life. For instance, if you realize that you want a house, money in the bank, and a cruise vacation because you think they'll all bring you more peace, then you'd be smart to focus on having more peace in your life. The more peace you have, the more likely you'll feel successful. On the other hand, the less peace—or the more busy you are—the less likely you'll feel successful. Since we all crave different feelings, it's important to know what are the specific feelings that are most important to you.
We all want to have a lot of positive feelings in our life. Yet, not all positive feelings are created equal. Some people will do or pay anything for a moment of adventure, whereas others will avoid adventure at all cost. In the previous exercise of figuring out what you'd do with a million extra dollars, you got to see that certain feelings are more important to you than others. Another way to define success for yourself is to simply rate different experiences on a hierarchy. Below are ten different things most people want. Try rating them from one to ten, with one being the most important, and ten being the least important.
This is a difficult exercise to do. After all, it's hard to choose whether "intimacy" is more important than "inner peace," or any of the other choices you have to make in this exercise. Yet, we unconsciously make decisions all the time about our priorities that determine our future. By consciously knowing what you most value, you're in a better position to determine how to spend your time in a way that is likely to maximize your level of success. For example, if you value "friendship" above all else, but you spend most of your time pursuing security, achievement, and power, then your life will feel stressful and unfulfilling. On the other hand, if you spend most of your time pursuing the values that are truly meaningful to you, then you'll likely feel good about your life.
Success means different things to different people. By defining success in terms of your values, your previous periods of happiness, and the emotions you most desire, you can better know what to aim for in the future. The more you can define your unique version of success, the more likely you'll be able to achieve it.
2. Get More Done In Less Time
The Power Tools of Time Management
If you want to build a house, having an electric saw is infinitely better than using a hand- held saw. Some tools are simply much more effective than others. When trying to make efficient use of your time, there are proven "power tools" that have been shown to make a major difference in how much a person can get done. After surveying various books on time management, and trying various methods in my own life, I realized that five specific tools are the most effective in being able to accomplish more in less time. Although you may be familiar with some or all of these methods, familiarity isn't enough. You need to be as committed to them as you are to brushing your teeth each day. Since we live in the busiest culture in the history of humanity, knowing how to get control of one's time is no longer just a "nice idea," it's a necessity. These tools will help you survive, psychologically and financially, in this crazy time we live in.
1) Prioritize! Studies show that, for every minute spent prioritizing, five minutes are saved. That means you're getting a 500 percent return on your time investment. Not bad. You probably know of various ways to prioritize your day. Listing all the things you might do on a given day and then ranking them in their order of importance can be helpful. The most important aspect of prioritizing your day is doing it each and every day. Many people who know of the benefits of prioritization still fail to do it. If you're one of these people, then learn to reward yourself immediately after you prioritize your day. In my case, I eat breakfast immediately following making my daily "to do" list and ranking the order of which I'll do things. Since I love eating breakfast, the list always gets done.
2) Delegate. How do you think CEOs and presidents are able to give speeches around the country, make hundreds of decisions, keep up on their phone calls and mail, and still have time to play so much golf? They delegate. They make a distinction between things that only they can do, and things that other people can do. They don't write their own speeches, they don't read their own mail, they barely play their own golf. The sad truth is that you can't be extremely successful unless you learn to delegate effectively—because there is only so much one person can do. Delegating can be scary. High achievers are used to being in control, and delegating is a process of giving up control. However, as you practice delegating, you come to realize that there are some people you can trust to get a job done, and some you can't. Therefore, like any skill, it gets easier over time since you soon learn who you can count on.
3) Learn to say no. This has always been difficult for me. In an attempt to be a nice guy, I have always tried to be all things for all people. After years of doing this, I'm finally seeing the necessity of telling people, "I understand your need, but I'm sorry, I just don't have the available time to help you." I've memorized that sentence and try to say it whenever someone approaches me for a favor that I don't feel passionate about, or would require more than just a minute of my time. If you have a difficult time doing this, your life will soon become crazy. I now have a note card by my phone that says the word "NO!" in big letters. Several times a day people call me up and ask for my time—free of charge. Whereas I used to say "Yes" to almost all of them, now I say "No" to about 80 percent of them. It's amazing how much more time this one simple technique has given me to do what I consider most important.
4) Learn to ask the simple question, "Considering my long-term goals and objective, what's the best use of my time right now?" Just asking this question throughout the day will help focus your mind in beneficial ways. Normally, we are subconsciously asking ourselves a different question, such as some variation on "What do I have to do next?" That question can lead people to focus on short-term, inconsequential items, rather than on more important, long-term goals. As you think in a broader sense about the best use of your time, you may see things that were invisible to you before. In addition, you may start to avoid certain time wasters, such as unnecessary meetings, phone calls, and paper work.
5) Learn the 80/20 rule. Basically, this rule states that 20 percent of your time creates 80 percent of what you accomplish. The challenge is to always focus on the key behaviors that are the best use of your time. The 80/20 rule also applies to the people you deal with. In this context it could be said that 20 percent of your customers will account for 80 percent of your business. Once again, the challenge is to isolate the 20 percent who are the most productive to work with, and focus on them. As you begin to look at your customers, your time, and your daily activities through the concept of the 80/20 rule, you'll start to see that some things are better left undone as you focus on the people and activities that create results.
In applying the 80/20 rule in my own life, I recently discovered that I was spending a lot of time preparing for and teaching a class at the local city college—which netted very little money. On the other hand, I used to spend very little time marketing myself to various organizations as a professional speaker. Despite spending just a couple of hours a week marketing myself in this way, I discovered that about a third of my income came from such talks during the previous year. Therefore, this year I have begun to devote more time to marketing myself as a speaker. So far, this better "investment" in my time is paying off very well.
Which of these tools are you failing to make use of on a consistent basis? Make a commitment to yourself to practice the ones that you have been hesitant to use. While practicing new habits can be difficult at first, you'll soon notice that you seem to magically have more time.
3. Take As Many Vacations as You Want
The Vacation Commitment Experiment
One day I called my friend, Susan, and asked her how she was. She said, "Things are great. Joe and I just got back from another week-long vacation." I realized that, just about every time I talked to Susan, she had recently gone on vacation. I was a bit annoyed and jealous. "How do you take so many vacations?" I asked. Her reply made me even more annoyed, "We simply make it a priority." I felt a certain amount of self-pity as I shot back, "Boy, I wish my life was set up so I could take so much time off." In a compassionate, yet direct manner, Susan replied, "You can if it's important enough to you. Joe and I just decided we'd take eight weeks off each year. There's a lot of resistance to doing that, but we're committed to living the life that we want to live."
(Continues...)
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Table of Contents
Contents
Getting Started
section one Mastering Your Time
1. Know Your Unique Path to Success The Three Keys to Being On Target
2. Get More Done In Less Time The Power Tools of Time Management
3. Take as Many Vacations as You Want The Vacation Commitment Experiment
4. Do What's Most Important to You The Art of Prioritizing Your Life
5. Create Four Extra Hours a Day Overcoming the Four Biggest Time Wasters
6. Quickly Become an Expert The Information Exchange Process
7. Work Fewer Hours Cold Turkey Time Management
8. Keep Your Life On Track The Six Questions of Success
section two Secrets to Health
9. Get Healthy and Energized The Science of Supplements
10. Overcome Insomnia You are Getting Sleepy ...
11. Revitalize Your Body in Three Minutes The Three-Minute Body Miracle
12. Keep in Great Shape The Skill of Exercise Selection
13. Avoid a Cold or Flu The Wonders of Immune Supplements
14. Easily Stop Smoking Secrets to a Smoke-Free Life
15. Lose Weight Permanently The Accountability Contract
16. Feel Balanced and Relaxed The Gift of Acupressure and Shiatsu
17. Clean and Revive Your Body The Power of Fasting
18. Overcome a Bad Back The Knack of Relaxing Your Back
19. Effectively Handle Big Health Problems The Skill of Surviving an
Illness
section three Better Relationships
20. Solve Problems Without Bruising Egos The Art of Effective Compromise
21. Make a Relationship Special The Joy of Peak Moments
22. Easily Handle Difficult People Turning Tigers Into Pussycats
23. Create Lifelong Friends and Business Contacts The Power of Deliberate
Kindness
24. Get Others to Really Hear You How to Talk to an Alien
25. Give People What They Want The Key to Harmonious Relationships
26. Become Friendly with Strangers The Art of Schmoozing and Mingling
27. Get the Opposite Sex to Value You The Man/Woman Distinction
28. Repair Broken Trust The Science of Creating Safety
section four Succeeding at Finances
29. Generate Additional Income The Money-Making Questions
30. Transform Your Fears Into Money The Value of Rejection Rewards
31. Sell Your Products Like Wildfire The Art of Service and Creating
Trust
32. Double Your Income in Three Years The Coaching Team Commitment
33. Retire at a Young Age The Secrets of Saving Money
34. Achieve Both Wealth and Peace Inner and Outer Goals
35. Easily Achieve Your Goals The Twelve Common Goal-Setting Mistakes
36. Tap Into Your Creative Potential The Art of Innovation
37. Pay Less Income Tax The Legal Deduction Game
38. Sell Like the Pros The Art of Integrity Selling
39. Market Yourself to Riches Integrity Marketing Principles
40. Experience Greater Abundance Tapping Into the Power of Generosity
41. Program Your Subconscious For Success Self Hypnosis Made Easy
Acknowledgments
About The Author