Sexual Intelligence: What We Really Want from Sex--and How to Get It

by Marty Klein

Overview

This is not your standard sex book. Sex therapist, sociologist, and Psychology Today contributor Dr. Marty Klein goes beyond the sex manuals to reveal how our mindsets during sex are more important than any tricks or techniques—and that the way to a healthier, more exciting, more fulfilling sex life lies in first developing our sexual intelligence. This book is the antidote to the many gimmick-oriented sex guides and manuals; Dr. Klein shows us how to reorient how we think about sex in order to experience a truly different way of being sexual.

“Marty Klein is the Steve Jobs of sex advice. . . . Sexual Intelligence is a work of enormous wisdom and expansiveness, and will inspire readers, regardless of age, to realize their full sexual potential.”  —Ian Kerner, best-selling author of She Comes First

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780062026071
Publisher:	HarperCollins
Publication date:	02/05/2013
Pages:	242
Sales rank:	150,631
Product dimensions:	5.20(w) x 7.90(h) x 0.70(d)

About the Author

Marty Klein, Ph.D., has been a licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist for thirty years. A former adjunct instructor at Stanford University Medical School, Marty is the award-winning author of seven books. Marty's humor, insights, and down-to-earth approach are regularly featured in the national media, such as the New York Times, The New Yorker, Nightline, NPR, and The Huffington Post.

What People are Saying About This

Esther Perel

“Instead of a manual of better tricks, this book is a practical plan to improve your relationship with your sexuality. Klein liberates and provokes—and illuminates the way to change your sexual experience for good.”

Ian Kerner

“Marty Klein is the Steve Jobs of sex advice. With beguiling ease, he takes complex issues and distills them down to their essence. Sexual Intelligence is a work of enormous wisdom and expansiveness, and will inspire readers, regardless of age, to realize their full sexual potential.”

Pepper Schwartz

“Klein is comforting and permission-giving, while presenting boundaries that you can discuss with a partner if you have concerns. This is an easy to read, smart book with loads of information and advice. Sexual Intelligence is an important contribution to the field and to the reader.”

Paul Joannides

“If you read only one book on sex and relationships during your entire lifetime, this should be it. Dr. Klein confronts the problems that have plagued couples since the beginning of time with refreshingly simple and brilliant insight.”

Christopher Ryan

“Marty Klein’s is a calm voice of reason at the center of the storm raging around sex in America. His tolerant, informed approach to the unavoidable sexual difficulties we all face is a welcome antidote to the panic and ignorance clouding public discussion and private understanding.”

Harriet Lerner

“Sexual Intelligence will help you fire the sex cops who have set up roadblocks in your head, and replace them with some good ideas to ponder and put into action. Dr.Klein has truly given us a helpful guide to authentic sexual satisfaction.”

Editorial Reviews

Marty Klein is the Steve Jobs of sex advice. With beguiling ease, he takes complex issues and distills them down to their essence. Sexual Intelligence is a work of enormous wisdom and expansiveness, and will inspire readers, regardless of age, to realize their full sexual potential.” — Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First

“Marty Klein’s is a calm voice of reason at the center of the storm raging around sex in America. His tolerant, informed approach to the unavoidable sexual difficulties we all face is a welcome antidote to the panic and ignorance clouding public discussion and private understanding.” — Christopher Ryan, Ph.D., co-author of Sex at Dawn

“Sexual Intelligence will help you fire the sex cops who have set up roadblocks in your head, and replace them with some good ideas to ponder and put into action. Dr.Klein has truly given us a helpful guide to authentic sexual satisfaction.” — Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., author of The Dance of Anger and Marriage Rules

“If you read only one book on sex and relationships during your entire lifetime, this should be it. Dr. Klein confronts the problems that have plagued couples since the beginning of time with refreshingly simple and brilliant insight.” — Paul Joannides, Psy.D., author of Guide to Getting It On

“Instead of a manual of better tricks, this book is a practical plan to improve your relationship with your sexuality. Klein liberates and provokes—and illuminates the way to change your sexual experience for good.” — Esther Perel, author of Mating in Captivity

“Read this if you want to let go of your inhibitions and improve your sex life. You might have to change your mind-set first, but Klein’s advice, quizzes, diagrams, and case studies will help you do just that.” — Psychology Today

“Klein is comforting and permission-giving, while presenting boundaries that you can discuss with a partner if you have concerns. This is an easy to read, smart book with loads of information and advice. Sexual Intelligence is an important contribution to the field and to the reader.” — Dr. Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., sex/relationship expert, AARP; chief relationship expert, PerfectMatch.com

From the Publisher

Read this if you want to let go of your inhibitions and improve your sex life. You might have to change your mind-set first, but Klein’s advice, quizzes, diagrams, and case studies will help you do just that.

Psychology Today

If you read only one book on sex and relationships during your entire lifetime, this should be it. Dr. Klein confronts the problems that have plagued couples since the beginning of time with refreshingly simple and brilliant insight.

Paul Joannides

"Klein is comforting and permission-giving, while presenting boundaries that you can discuss with a partner if you have concerns. This is an easy to read, smart book with loads of information and advice. Sexual Intelligence is an important contribution to the field and to the reader."

Doctor - Pepper Schwartz

Sexual Intelligence will help you fire the sex cops who have set up roadblocks in your head, and replace them with some good ideas to ponder and put into action. Dr.Klein has truly given us a helpful guide to authentic sexual satisfaction.

Harriet Lerner

Marty Klein is the Steve Jobs of sex advice. With beguiling ease, he takes complex issues and distills them down to their essence. Sexual Intelligence is a work of enormous wisdom and expansiveness, and will inspire readers, regardless of age, to realize their full sexual potential.

Ian Kerner

Marty Klein’s is a calm voice of reason at the center of the storm raging around sex in America. His tolerant, informed approach to the unavoidable sexual difficulties we all face is a welcome antidote to the panic and ignorance clouding public discussion and private understanding.

Christopher Ryan

Instead of a manual of better tricks, this book is a practical plan to improve your relationship with your sexuality. Klein liberates and provokes—and illuminates the way to change your sexual experience for good.

Esther Perel

Klein is comforting and permission-giving, while presenting boundaries that you can discuss with a partner if you have concerns. This is an easy to read, smart book with loads of information and advice. Sexual Intelligence is an important contribution to the field and to the reader.

Dr. Pepper Schwartz

Pursuing sexual expectations that are decades out of date with a body and lifestyle that can't support that vision isn't dysfunction; it's a culturally and psychologically driven mistake. So writes Klein, licensed marriage/family therapist and certified sex therapist, as he proposes a new way of thinking about sexual activity—to leave behind sexual baggage and learn to approach this area of life with awareness, openness, and renewed optimism. He uses his clinical experience and numerous case studies to demonstrate how creating a lasting physical and emotional connection with a partner is so much more important than orgasms. While Klein writes primarily for those over the age of 30, he offers a fresh, commonsense approach that can help most people in long-term relationships.

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