Table of Contents
Part I Getting to the Point
Chapter 1 I'm Bat Sheva-and I Can Help 3
Chapter 2 Getting to the Point-100 14
Chapter 3 What's the Point? Or Ready, Set, Score 24
Part II Understanding the Problem(s): The Four Quadrants
Chapter 4 Pain: When You Wish It Were Just a Headache 37
Chapter 5 Arousal: The Agony of No Ecstasy 59
Chapter 6 Orgasm: It's Not All "When Harry Met Sally" 69
Chapter 7 Desire: "I'd Rather Be Doing the Laundry" 83
Part III The Solutions!
Chapter 8 The Quick Fix: Small Ideas That Allow for Big Changes 99
Chapter 9 The Drug Wars: Why Big Pharma Might Not Be All Bad 113
Chapter 10 Hormones: It's Not Your Head, It's Your Bloodstream 118
Chapter 11 Drugs That Help, Drugs That Hurt 139
Chapter 12 The "No Pain" Campaign 155
Chapter 13 Lasers: Zap Your Way Out of Pain 172
Chapter 14 Vibrators Are Not Kinky Sex Toys; They Are Your Friend 177
Chapter 15 Limerence, or "Sigh. My Partner Doesn't Turn Me On Anymore." 190
Chapter 16 Neuroplasticity: Change Your Brain, Change Your Sex Life 215
Chapter 17 Complicated Emotions 226
Chapter 18 Men Are from Mars: Maybe You Need to Explore Mars. 244
Chapter 19 Go the F*ck to Sleep: Sex with Children in the House 257
Chapter 20 You Got This 266
Appendix I Scheduling Sex and Scheduling Not-Sex 269
Appendix II A Brief Guide to Finding the Right Therapist 271
Further Reading 273
Notes 279
Acknowledgments 289
Index 293