Seven Desires: Looking Past What Separates Us to Learn What Connects Us

by Mark Laaser, Debra Laaser

Overview

This new take on relationships changes everything! By examining the seven desires we all share, Mark and Debra Laaser illustrate how men and women are actually more alike than different. Do you long for ways to:

• Tune in more closely to your children?
• Connect on a deeper level with your spouse?
• Strengthen friendships?
• Reach a fuller relationship with God?

The Laasers look past what separates us to examine what connects us. Instead of focusing on how to sidestep or compensate for perceived differences, they dig deeper, to the core of our souls, to examine how the basic needs of all people make us more alike than different.

Seven Desires explores the common desires God has given us--to be heard, affirmed, blessed, safe, touched, chosen, and included. Using stories, biblical references, and sound psychological principles, the Laasers explain each desire and show us how we seek it and what it feels like to have it truly fulfilled. You will learn healthy ways to embody these desires in your relationships and receive the tools you need to start repairing and rebuilding relationships and developing new skills for creating emotional and spiritual intimacy.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780310364948
Publisher:	Zondervan
Publication date:	06/22/2021
Sold by:	HarperCollins Publishing
Format:	eBook
Pages:	224
Sales rank:	719,174
File size:	4 MB

About the Author

Mark Laaser, MDiv, PhD, is the founder of Faithful & True, a Christian-based counseling center in Minneapolis, specializing in sexual addiction. Dr. Laaser is regarded as the leading sexual addiction authority in the Christian counseling community. He is author of many books, including Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction, Becoming a Man of Valor, Taking Every Thought Captive, and The 7 Principles of Highly Accountable Men.

Debbie Laaser, MA, is a licensed marriage and family therapist and has been involved in recovery with her husband, Mark, for over twenty-seven years.  Debbie facilitates therapy groups and counsels   spouses who have been relationally betrayed. She speaks with her husband at training events and workshops around the country. Mark and Debbie Laaser are also the authors of The Seven Desires of Every Heart.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments 9

Introduction 13

1 The Seven Desires 17

2 The Problem Is Not the Problem 43

3 The Truth about Who You Are 53

4 Expectations: The Pathway to Anger and Resentment 67

5 Perceptions, Meanings, and Core Beliefs 81

6 Feelings-And Feelings about Feelings 91

7 Coping Individually 105

8 Coping in Relationship 111

9 Triggers and Land Mines 121

10 Triggers as Transformations 133

11 Using the Iceberg Model 147

12 Fulfilling Your Own Desires 163

13 Fulfilling the Desires of Others 177

14 True Contentment 191

Suggested Reading 203

Notes 211