Table of Contents
Preface ix
Introduction xvi
State of the Business 1
Be Aware of the Risk Sources 3
Risk Source One: Background 5
Risk Source Two: Marriage of Our Parents 8
Risk Source Three: Past Relationships 13
Risk Source Four: Religion 16
Risk Source Five: Finances 19
Risk Source Six: Age 23
Risk Source Seven: Support Network 26
Risk Source Eight: Period of Change 30
Risk Source Nine: Compatibility 33
Rules of the Game 37
Rule of the Game One: Regard Marriage as a One-of-a-Kind Contract 39
Rule of the Game Two: Regard Marriage as an Ongoing Partnership 53
Rule of the Game Three: Have Values as the Driving Fuel 63
Rule of the Game Four: Cut the Umbilical Cord 75
Rule of the Game Five: Glue Together As One 83
Rule of the Game Six: Exercise Frontline Leadership 90
Rule of the Game Seven: Exercise Influential Leadership 100
Rule of the Game Eight: Own Your Incapacities 109
Rule of the Game Nine: Become a Threefold Cord 119
Rule of the Game Ten: Leave a Legacy Behind 126
About the Authors 135
Notes 137