Right Relationships: How to Create Them, How to Restore Them

by Tom Marshall

Overview

Relationships matter! They are at the heart of all good and bad human experiences. First, our relationship with God needs to be in order. For then it is possible to apply godly principles to the establishment of right relationships with others and the restoration of relationships that have gone wrong. This life-giving book will show you how this can become real for you. It not only addresses the nature of relationships and the factors which make them work but also provides dynamic and well tried solutions for those that have gone wrong. The scriptural truths in this book are eternal keys to us fulfilling our human destiny. Right Relationships has been universally acclaimed as one of the best treatments of this subject and has become a standard textbook on relationships worldwide.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781852407377
Publisher:	Sovereign World Ltd
Publication date:	07/18/2014
Pages:	158
Product dimensions:	5.50(w) x 8.50(h) x 0.34(d)

About the Author

Tom Marshall (October 9, 1921 - October 1, 1993) was an international Bible teacher who authored a number of books on counselling and healing, best known for his work entitled Understanding Leadership. Marshall was born in Ayrshire Scotland. His parents emigrated to New Zealand in 1925, settling in Moera, near Petone, Wellington. He was educated at Randwick School (Moera) and Hutt Valley High School. After serving as a navigator in the Fleet Air Arm during World War II, he married Jenny Burne-Jones in Bellshill, Glasgow in 1945 and they settled in Wellington. He graduated with a Bachelor of Commerce degree from Victoria University of Wellington. He worked initially in the New Zealand Treasury and later in advertising, magazine publishing, teaching and management consultancy. He and his wife were foundation members of the Wainuiomata Baptist Church. In the early 1960s he became involved in the Charismatic Renewal movement in New Zealand and left the Baptist Church to form a house church. He was subsequently invited to speak at both charismatic and mainstream Christian churches in New Zealand. In the 1970s he moved to the Kapiti Coast north of Wellington and was instrumental in forming the Kapiti Christian Centre. He was the founding editor of The Shaker magazine (later renamed Today's Christian). In the 1980s he spoke at many overseas conventions and was involved in the ministry of Youth with a Mission.

Table of Contents

Table of content Right relationships

Foreword

Introduction

Chapter 1 Relationships - the Central Category

What are they?

Our relationship with God

Chapter 2 Categories for Understanding Relationships

Instrumental relationships

Consummatory relationships

Our Godward relationship

Intimacy

Scope or extent

Intimacy with God

The building blocks of relationships

Chapter 3 Love, the Enduring One

Putting content into love

Love's expression

Chapter 4 Trust - the Cost of Commitment

Defining trust The content of trust

Trust - crisis or process?

How to build trust

Trust and leadership

Chapter 5 Made for Honour

What is honour or respect?

Measures of value

The content of honour

Showing respect, giving honour

Chapter 6 Understanding Understanding

The beginning and the end

Why do we want to be understood?

How do we know each other?

The role of the human spirit

Words, the vehicle of the spirit

Self-disclosure, the open door

Discernment - reading the disclosure

Imagination - entering the other's frame of reference

Empathy

Chapter 7 What Damages Relationships?

Things that wound love

Things that breach trust

Things that damage respect

Barriers to understanding

What is the answer?

Chapter 8 When Relationships Break Down

Mental states

Emotional states

Behaviour patterns

Intervening to help

Chapter 9 The Way Back - Reconciliation

What is reconciliation?

What is reconciled?

Love's revival

Trust's recovery

Honour restored

Understanding reawakened

Chapter 10 How Does God Reconcile?

Persons are reconciled, not problems

Only grace works

Reconciliation and relationship

Steps towards reconciliation

Chapter 11 Problem Solving in Relationships

Forbearance

Unresolved hurts from the past

Unintentional wrongs

Rehabilitating anger

The way to forgiveness

What if there is no response?

Appendix A Restoring Broken Trust

Repentance

Restitution

Redemption

Reordering

Restoration where capacity to trust has been damaged

Appendix B The 'One-Another' Syndrome